Does my boyfriend really love me? Is it normal what he’s doing?

[TalliaB]

Hey, I’m wondering about one thing. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a 6 months now and I don’t really feel loved. He never wears Led Zeppelin T-Shirt I bought him and never posts me on his IG etc. I just feel like he’s ashamed of me and don’t want anyone to know he’s taken. I’m questioning myself all the time if he really cares and it makes me depressed. He’s a cute guy, when we started dating he was a total hopeless romantic but right now I feel like I’m doing all the job in this relationship. When I’m asking him “What’s going on and why he’s not even trying to be romantic etc” he always says “because I’m not a romantic anymore” or “I used to be a romantic but I can’t be rn”. I don’t feel like he really loves me and sometimes he's telling me “maybe we’re not right for each other” or “there are so many differences between us”. I simply don’t know what to do, I want to feel loved and I love him from here to the moon but I can’t stand this feeling.

what do you think about this? What should I do?

[HawkPerception]

You are young and most people go through this phase at around that age. After passing the honeymoon phase, things start to get serious. You start to notice flaws and you run out of ideas or "firsts" to do together. You have to come to terms with your partner's flaws in this phase and it can become pretty dull. When you're young you see others experiencing things... whether it's on social media or hearing about it from your peers and because it's human nature to compare, you can become envious and think "Why can't my partner do that with me?"

You ask yourself "Why does it always seem to be me that puts in the effort nowadays?" and my advice to you is to stop caring about the amount of effort that is put into a relationship. It will never be equal at any one point in the relationship. Rather, communicate all of your thoughts to your partner.

If you ever want to be married in your life, the key is to learn to be content, communicate as much as you possibly can, and overcome all the obstacles and doubts. Otherwise you'll always bounce from relationship to relationship seeking that fresh honeymoon phase where it's all flowers and daisies getting to know someone new and having more firsts with them.

It will get boring. It will get dull. There will be anger. There will be sadness. Lasting relationships survive all of that.

Your boyfriend is probably going through the same phase. He might have thoughts that he hasn't lived enough and might want to try being with other girls before he finally sets down. He probably misses that fresh feeling he had with you at the start, but refuses to admit that. Again... my advice is that you communicate to him... about all of this and get his honest opinion on where he stands before either of you makes an ultimatum. Maybe even get him to read this message lmao. Whatever gets the job done. Communication is the key. I wish you luck 🙏

[ohsheeT]

You answered your question yourself already and I think your right. Start giving yourself more credit and believe in yourself when you feel things if you are only hearing what you want versus what your getting your always going to be fighting your self.
This is a good time to start being honest with yourself if it's meant to be he will follow but make him prove it to you the world is becoming more and more crazy every day you want good caring people around you it's not all about romance it's about him being real you know in your heart what you need to do

[Anonymous]

Its literally on your first sentence. You dont feel loved. Because he doesn't love you.

[Anonymous]

He's young like you? No he doesn't love you the way you think/want. He's too young.

And it's got nothing to do with Instagram or what he wears. He could love you and still do/not do those things. Like most girls your age you are clueless about how guys show they care.

He won't wear a t-shirt... Jesus christ...

[Staximus]

He's young and dumb and you're being dumb, too. It's not the end of the world. Stop expecting a boy to act like a man. You have your whole life ahead of you and there's literally a million guys for you to choose from. Dump him and go find a guy that makes you feel loved.

[runnerboy]

It sounds like he has started to check out or wants a relationship with someone else. Are you two having sex? If he does not change you might want to move on if he won't up his game. Is he kinda new to relationships and dating?

[MrCommodore]

I'm quite shocked by that behaviour, I say dump his ass, don't date a guy who can't appreciate LED Zeppelin t-shirt. Disturbing behaviour

[Gent207-2]

Hoist the red flag and RUN

Find an upgrade or stay in the cycle

[RHK36]

He's over you and too scared to tell you. Move on or it's on you that it drags out until someone cheats.

[boobliker]

the T shirt is due to not wanting to get it dirty mums don't look after out stuff

[Iron_Man]

How old is he usually teenagers are not really that serious

[msc545]

Ask him about all this. Our speculations won't help you and may very well mislead you.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

He loves you so much, but not as much as Jesus

[In_Trance]

Have you talked to him about this?

[Lavitadifarfala]

I don't know hım