Why would my friends with benefits say he likes me?

[Anonymous]

So before me and this guy hooked up for the first time, he told me he liked me but that since we would be long distance for a significant part of the year for grad school he just wants us to be friends with benefits. Then he said that maybe in 1.5 years when we’re both done we could talk about something more serious. I assume he’s just trying to soften the blow, but I’m kinda confused regardless. So I’d like more opinions?

[cjdiqnrncoqbeofna]

well 1.5 years is a long time. I'd definitely take this as a "move on" thing, but if a while passes and you have feelings, let him know! maybe he was serious.

[Asker]

Yeah I’m not sure what to make of it, like if I should keep hooking up w him as friends with benefits for fun? I’m not opposed to the idea for now but if someone comes around wanting something serious I don’t plan on waiting for him

[cjdiqnrncoqbeofna]

totally get that. if it's hurting you to just stay friends with benefits tho, you should leave

[Asker]

Yeah I’m pretty good at separating emotions so I mean I like him but it’s not hurting me. I’m just worried that when 1.5 years passed, if we’re still talking and if he doesn’t want anything I might get hurt then

[cjdiqnrncoqbeofna]

oh yea I would too. don't count the days, just try to go with the flow of your and his feelings

[spartan55]

Bottom line : if he wanted to be in a relationship with you he would be, the end. There is really nothing confusing about it.