Why does he only see me as a friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

Guy only wants to be friends with benefits (and doesn’t want to be seen in public with me) but he is courting and going on dates, trips (out of state and international), galas with this other woman for almost a year. They also hang out with each other’s friends.

We have mutual friends (I’m friends with his closest friends) and he doesn’t want them knowing that we’ve been seeing each other.

He was at first hesitant to hang out with me in public and on the rare occasions that we do hang out, 1) we are only out for 10-15 minutes, 2) in secluded places, and 3) he looks nervous, fidgety, and he’s looking around everywhere.

Whenever he gets a phone call, he goes into the other room or downstairs.

One night, I spent the night, he got a phone call, he went down stairs, I fell asleep, he got back in bed and his hands were cold, then in the morning he explained that “someone” had a flat tire and said that he was downstairs the entire time and was lying on his couch because the alcohol made him dizzy

Then the next night when I stayed over, he instructed me to park across the street from his neighborhood. He said the reason why because he had an oil spot in his other parking spot that he was covering up with his car. There were other empty parking spaces in his neighborhood.

I’m hurt that he only sees me as a friends with benefits. We’ve only been seeing each other for a month and I’m considering ending things. I’m constantly wondering, what this other woman has that I don’t and why he doesn’t see me as girlfriend material.

[ohsheeT]

Ok so this is not about him this is about you you have to ask yourself self do you want a guy who only calls you because he wants sex

Do you want to be with a guy that doesn't want to be seen with you.

That's just wrong you have to love yourself deeper than that

And what ever you do do start thinking that he's going to make you his girlfriend

And as for the car. That's all a lie.

He doesn't want that girl to drive by and she your car parked in front of his house

So what are you getting out of this with him except sex

One of these day he will say OK you can't come over any more.

Was every thing you did worth it

Your words in your question tell me you are kind. And you have a beautiful heart.
I can't tell you what to do. But wouldn't you rather. Give your self to someone who loves you

The the other thing is let's pretend that other girl is his girlfriend

Abd your getting to see first hand he's a cheater
So that say he can't be trusted.

Now let's pretend you are his girlfriend and the other girl is you?
Be happy what he is doing

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Like I said i can feel your energy and you are well way more worth the way he is treating you that's for sure

[BriamG22]

That sucks... Honestly you should just end it immediately. Just ghost him... You wonder what that other girl has that you don't have? Well she has a two timing man who manipulates people for a boyfriend, and you have the truth and the choice to move forward and find someone who'll treat you right.

At least now you know what kind of guys to avoid and you'll be able to spot the signs of a screwed up situationship before it escalates.

I hope you do end up breaking things off and I hope you'll find someone 10x better!

[AvaRay]

He hides u cause he’s never seen u as someone to be proud of, not cause of your worth, but because he knows deep down he doesn’t deserve a woman who gives from the heart..

U r not less than that other woman, u r just the one he thought would settle for crumbs while he gives the whole meal to someone else..

A man who truly values u won’t keep u in the shadows..

He ll bring u into the light, even if it means facing questions or risking judgment..

Don’t beg to be chosen in secret, walk away with your dignity intact..

Sometimes u know the biggest power move is realizing u were never the problem, his intentions were..

[Anonymous]

There could be a lot of reasons. Maybe you’re not the best looking. Maybe you do things this other girl won’t. Maybe it’s your age. There’s a lot of “maybes.” What’s your previous relationships been like? Similar?

[Asker]

Men, never want a relationship with me, but I never accept a friends with benefits situations.

[Opinion Owner]

Your looks maybe? I’m not trying to be mean but that could be the main reason. Do you have a lot of men who want to just have sex w you?

[Asker]

I get told that I am beautiful all of the time by men and women. Yes. It happens all of the time.

[Opinion Owner]

What are your past relationships like? Loyal? Did you have a “ho” phase as a lot of women would call it?

[Anonymous]

Pointless question. And it would be pointless taking the time to answer it.

Your time would be better served in ascertaining why it's so important that HE be the object of your affection.

[jahaims]

That's what happens when you let someone use you as a cum rag. Have some self respect

[Asker]

1) I didn’t know that he was involved with someone until recently when I did a lot of investigating

2) Also, I thought that we were getting to know each other until I asked him what his intentions were and he said that I was just a friends with benefits.

But go off… ✌🏾

[jahaims]

Ah, so you are just stupid and got manipulated into being a cum rag

[Abbycado]

Yet, you let it happen.

[Asker]

1) I didn’t know that he was involved with someone until recently when I did a lot of investigating

2) Also, I thought that we were getting to know each other until I asked him what his intentions were and he said that I was just a friends with benefits.

[Anonymous]

You're the other women.