Guys, Why do guys put other men down?

[Anonymous]

Like, not in a joking way.

Rather, more from a distance. So only the woman can hear.

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Thank you everyone for your opinions on this question. Appreciate you all taking the time 🙂

[andreasderjuengere]

I noticed this as well - every now and then.

Usually it comes from blokes who try to establish a ''position'' within the human pecking order... on a VERY ''local'' level... and who actually have no realistic values, status or achievements to offer to impress others in different (and more refined) ways.

Anyhow - they prove that they actually don't matter; so let them expose their small-ness by themselves :)

[strateguy632]

ah for women to hear that they are tough and relatively better like advertising

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've honestly never seen men do that. Now granted, most of my time with other men is with my actual circle of other men, I'm not typically hanging out where a bunch of random men are like an NFL game or something. Now if somebody is being a raging d-bag, we may chuckle and say "look at that d-bag" but that is to each other. If it gets TOO raging we'll go talk to the d-bag and let him know that he's killing our vibe. CAN women hear us? I suppose, it's typically our standard conversation volume, so say, in a restaurant if there's a woman at the table beside us, yeah she can hear, but we're not saying it FOR her we're just not actively trying to hide it from her. Also, unless she's been buried in her phone she's likely aware that someone is being a raging d-bag in the immediate area.

I feel like I may have missed something in the question. Did i answer the question? I don't feel like I answered the question.

[Jatlyntas]

I don't put men down, if you have a problem with a guy you either fight them or you back down respectfully and mind your own business. That's the code. I've never heard of men gossiping about other men unless they're metro or something--it's not a masculine trait. We got to war side by side, the brotherhood we feel is extremely powerful. I'd argue I've a had a more "stoic" love-life with some of my male friends than I've had with even my most romped booties. It's hard to compare the two types of relationships.

I just personally have never heard a man put another man down unless they're talking politics, or it was in grade school when there's that whole Lord Of The Flies dynamic going on and kids are still learning it doesn't feel good to hurt someone else's feelings and that honor makes the man.

[Asker]

I don’t see it a lot. But I’ve noticed it more recently. You are correct, it’s not typical male behaviour, and I certainly don’t categories it in the alpha male category. But for whatever reason, it’s been apparent to me recently. Thought I’d come here for some kind of explanation 🙂

[Finchie40]

They think they are making themselves look tough and cool boasting his ego , that his shit don’t stink , trying to impress the girl to get her attention and to try to get her to want him , Making himself feel better about himself like he is better than anyone else. When really he is just making himself look like a douchebag.

[Truthatanycost]

People (regardless of gender) that truly feel great about themselves and their life, only bring others up. Therefore these men you've come across are simply unhappy with themselves or life, and the only way they can feel better is to try to bring another lower than they feel.

[MementoMori777]

i noticed this more on women, i barely see it with guys, women are the ones currently trying to destroy each other in society, not saying it doesn't happen to guys but i barely see it between dudes compared to girls

[Asker]

I’m a woman so trust me, I more than understand how women can be like this also. It’s just the same behaviour doesn’t always reflect the same meaning when it comes to women and men. So I was Just was curious what it means when a guy does it.

[MementoMori777]

yep i dont really thing there's much of a difference between the two and the emotions that trigger their behavior except maybe ego but im sure both have that lol

[Jatlyntas]

I personally find talking behind someone's back reprehensible, if it's at all serious. Though, I really can't remember a guy after maybe highschool-ish, bad-mouthing someone when they're not around, it's just not a prerogative, I myselflike most gents have an instinct that it's not a trait we want in a friend or even an allied acquaintance (i. e., a co-worker,) and they're actually saying more about themself than anyone else. I can't know for sure but I think this is generally male culture outside of my bubble of culture as well. And there's distinctions to be made about what trash talking is--I find men usually just express fury when they're mad at someone of the same sex, and if they express anything, it's something like "I wanna slap the shit out of them right now." And then when they're cool, they're cool again, we don't stay made and evolutionarily it's up to the male to be very choicy with his battles and as a protector being a diplomat is actually the mostt powerful first line of defense, especially as collective unity and organization to an area is a far stronger instinct than fighting your own countrymen. Woman have a different style, they don't all talk trash but it seems the worst offenders of this are female and the mean/median 50% along the guage are probably above the mirroring male 50% in that trait. Why gals do the character assassination, I honestly couldn't tell you but I'd find it intriguing if you can shed light on that, though I'm not inclined at all to believe that you represent all females--you certainly understand better than I do hahaha

[Jatlyntas]

(Sorry for all the type-os, I'm new here and I thought there'd be an edit button in the triple-dot drop down menu)

[Asker]

Thing is, I’ve seen other women do it. But I have no idea how it empowers them. So, I don’t understand why either does it tbh 😂

[MementoMori777]

i think its gotta be jealousy, usually thats the guilty emotion in it, guilt mixed with ego lol

[Asker]

What if the person they are comparing themselves to is actually worse? For instance calling a large man fat?

[MementoMori777]

thats not worse, that large man gotta grow sone thicker skin lol

[Asker]

I meant in the sense of just a random person who they do not know who cannot hear them

[MementoMori777]

still sounds like jealousy lol

[Asker]

Jelous if someone who looks worse than themselves?

[MementoMori777]

no then that would be they are just egotistic and make fun of others that aren't better looking than them

[Asker]

Thanks for all the help 🙂

[MementoMori777]

💯💯

[Billlewis]

I think they do it because a lot of women are turned on by a guy who humiliates other guys. Although I'm ashamed to admit it, I think it's very erotic being shamed by a handsome alpha male in front of a woman.

[Anonymous]

1 because some guys are assholes 2 because a lot of guys aren't gonna lie to you about shit and hype you up saying your so handsome or blah blah. They will tell you how it is and say your ugly or go to the gym. While women tell each other they are so precious and they are 10/10s when in reality some of them are lucky to be a 2/10

[cosmosis181]

If it's only so the woman can hear? Every guy I've ever met who did that... it was to impress how great he is to her compared to other guys, so your pants will come off of your legs for him.👌

[Reorx]

This is how cowards compete. A real man makes accusations to another mans face. This kind of thing can get bad in a rural / herd mentality setting.

[Asker]

I agree. I as a woman don’t view this in any sort of positive way either. Just curious to the mentality behind it.

[ProbablyClueless]

Men are assholes. They like to show off for women and many times that means talking down on other men.

[shades777]

some guys are just pieces of shit, if its a trend he's not your homie

[Asker]

Thank you for your input. I’ve not seen an abundance of this behaviour. But it’s recently caught my attention.

[Jadebamboo]

Because some fools get high on the sense of power they can feel if they dominate an argument. I wouldn't say this is a guy only thing either.

[Asker]

I’ve seen a lot of this in women. Just shocks me more to see men doing it, hense I thought I’d try to get to the bottom of it

[bobthe1st]

People do that to me all the time, I catch them out sometimes but by then the girls gone, why do you think

[Anonymous]

Oh like girls don't put other girls down😆

I will say this. Guys do it to establish pecking order. Women are just straight up vicious with eachother.

[Asker]

Can I ask, how does it define pecking order if only one person can hear it?

[Opinion Owner]

He knows.

[Opinion Owner]

Not everything has to be done in front of other people.

[Asker]

So a guy does it for himself?

[Asker]

Also, I’ve seen a lot of immature women do the same. Just didn’t include it in my question as I was straight to the point

[Opinion Owner]

No more for the other guy. Guy challenge eachother. You see this most prevalent during puberty but it never completely leaves men. We just do it in a more civil and adult manner as we age. Not to mention by then pecking order is more established.

[Rohaan2020]

Some people believe they could look cool by putting others down... it makes them the feeling if superiority... nd they often use other's shortcomings to devalue them

[Snakeyes7]

They do it in a way that it is obvious that they don't really mean it.

[Asker]

Thank you, so it’s not serious?

[Snakeyes7]

I'll give you an example: a friend of mine is playing Sims on the TV while I was in the kitchen. I hear him in the background saying "aw man, I'm broke" and I say from the kitchen in a joking tone "wow! It's so realistic!" and he responded with "oh fuck you" while chuckling and he continues playing.

[Asker]

Oh I get that. Even I do that 😂

[Anonymous]

So they can manipulate the girl in there favour

[Asker]

I thought it was due to low self esteem

[Opinion Owner]

There tools using anyway to get ahead

[Asker]

How could this manipulate the girl though? It just makes a guy look mean to pull down others?

[Opinion Owner]

It works sometimes

[Asker]

Thank you for your honesty

[kc1790]

We should be able to help other men feel very good about themsleves and offer to serve them

[spartan55]

So only the women can hear? Wth does that mean?

[Asker]

I mean, if a guy does it about a guy walking down the street but only the woman is with him and the unknowing other guy is not in hearing range

[spartan55]

How do you know he doesn't talk about him to other people too? I don't understand what your question is?

[OddBeMe]

part of toxic masculinity

[grega239]

Competition

[Asker]

Thank you

[bernhardh]

That's not general. Denigration is hate speech.

[Asker]

Sorry, What do you mean?

[Alex8736]

Sounds like high school cockblocking smack talk

[Asker]

I think so too