Do men ever get over their baby mama?

[Anonymous]

No

Yes

[kylee2437]

I mean initially why should they ever? Just my personal opinion , a child is a pretty big deal and in most case situations , those two people that laid together had intent of being a couple with a child (family) , so why should a man ever get over his baby mother? That woman blessed him with being able to care for another life

[DizzyDesii]

Hard to say. Some will still fck their baby mama on the side, irregardless of if either of them are taken by someone else

[BoopBoopBeep]

"get over" as in "not want to be with" absolutely. Most men I know want nothing romantic to do with their baby mamas. They will always have some level of interaction though because of the child.

[Danny_dan92]

I would say no.




Think about it. He is half the reason why that kid/kids exist. Aka he fucked her. Aka he obviously finds her attractive

[BoopBoopBeep]

I find thousands of women attractive I still want nothing to do with them.

[MysticAngel5000]

Absolutely. Kids aren't always planned. There are MANY "oops" situations. Sometimes, the type of protection fails. Sometimes, it was irresponsibility and no protection was used. Other times, the girl may have tried to trick the guy into staying by getting pregnant. You weren't necessarily sitting there planning a family together just because you ended up having a kid together. That may have been the absolute last thing you wanted/imagined with the other person, but it happened anyway.

Whether you have a kid or not, sometimes people just are not meant to be together and simply aren't good for each other. They separate. They break up or divorce. It happens all the time.

If you have a kid together and both people are considered fit parents, shared custody will be granted. That way, each parent has equal time with their kid (s). In this case, most of the time, the baby mama will only be kept around due to the kid. They will maintain a co-parenting arrangement only and neither have any interest in anything else. They move on with new partners.

Other times, the baby mama may not even be in the picture. She may have passed away, she may be a majorly unfit mother leaving the dad with full custody, or she may just be a deadbeat loser that doesn't have interest in being involved with her kid (s).

Of course, sometimes, yes, the guy still wants to hook up with his baby mama. In this case, he is not responsible enough for a new relationship. He is either not over the baby mama/their separation, he wants to try to reconcile with the baby mama, or he's just a disgusting cheater who isn't capable of being loyal to someone. He could also be fearful of getting with someone new, so he goes back to the baby mama due to familiarity. Either way, if he's still wanting to flirt/hook up/be inappropriate with the baby mama, he isn't the kind of guy you need to mess with. Ditch him. If he wanted YOU, he'd make it known and he would not be doing inappropriate things with his baby mama. She'd be completely out except for the co-parenting arrangement.

Whatever the circumstances, single parents can indeed be messy to involve yourself with. You have to have a clear understanding of the situation - do they co-parent (and how if so)? How often will the kid (s) be with you/their dad? What kind of baby mama are you dealing with? Is she decent or will she cause all sorts of drama? You also have to set some clear boundaries and ground rules. The baby mama has every right to see her kid (s) as long as she is a good/fit mother. She will always be their mother and you cannot change that. You also cannot keep her from seeing her kid (s) as long as she is considered a good parent and has custody rights. You will have to be willing to tolerate her and be respectful of her during interactions. However, these interactions should only occur if it involves the kid (s). The baby mama shouldn't just be hanging out, showing up unannounced (unless there is an emergency involving the kid), texting the baby daddy just to chat or otherwise intruding on your relationship with YOUR man. The baby mama will need to accept and respect that her baby daddy has a NEW woman and SHE is the girlfriend/wife now. The baby mama needs to realize she is just that - the baby mama. She is nothing more than the mother of the guy's kid (s) and shouldn't try to pretend to be anything more. She needs to move on and find her own new man. No one enjoys baby mama/baby daddy drama.

[Anonymous]

My vote was "No," but the answer is actually circumstantial. For me, I've gotten three women pregnant. None were planned pregnancies and now I live with one of the women, who is now the mother to three of my children.

Suffice to say, I have not - and don't ever expect to - get over that baby momma. I love her with all my heart and our relationship has only grown with time.

As to the other two. The second woman I got pregnant I only found out about two years ago when she tracked me down to tell me I had a son who was, at that point, 14. She had decided to raise our baby on her own after I got her pregnant in a one night stand.

Needless to say, I was surprised to learn that I had a 14 year old son - my other children are 11, 10 and 8 - and I am glad she decided to tell me, if belatedly. I am now building a relationship with my son and, in that sense, I will not get over my baby mama.

In fact, I do respect her. I wish she had told me when she found out she was pregnant - and I won't lie that I am somewhat bitter about it. Yet, even if I don't love her, I have to respect her. She has done an amazing job raising our son and clearly when she found out that I had gotten her pregnant, she kept her head, made plans, and gave priority to the little life we had made that night.

To be sure, I am not happy with every decision she made, but on balance, she has been a good mother and I will respect that and never forget that night we spent together.

The only one I have gotten over was the first woman I got pregnant. She had an abortion and only told me after the fact and I will never forgive her. That was my child too and I've lost him/her forever.

Yes, I'll admit, getting three women pregnant out of wedlock may not mark me down as the best guy. There is a part of me - the very male animal part you could say - that just wants sex and gets turned out at the idea of getting a woman pregnant. In nature, it is what a man should do.

However, a man should also care for and protect the life he makes with his sperm. I love my children and protect them and care for them and I deeply resent the woman who took my child from me. That woman, believe me, I have gotten over.

[Berethor]

I don't think so, a baby is binding people more than anything else, for better and for worse.

[gothbxtch]

depends on the man and the situation, methinks

[FunkyMonkee]

What's a baby mama?