Long story - enough detail to get an actual answer because I am perplexed! I (F28) dated this guy (M31) for 6 months last year and I thought he was great. We weren't in a relationship, but neither him nor I was seeing other people. We had good chemistry and maybe a few kinks when it came to compatibility but nothing not comparable.
I really liked him and felt he really liked me. We would see each other once maybe twice a week and spend hours together getting brunch, dinner, drinks sometimes. I met some of his friends too! We ended because neither me or him was ready for a Relationship although I was willing to try and eventually I told him I needed more from him and he stopped communicating with me and I couldn't tell if he thought I broke up with him and it was over or he wanted me to get frustrated and leave?
But I thought about him recently - reached out and we got dinner and he admitted he wasn't ready for a relationship then and he apologized for the way things turned out and said he feels he needs to work on himself more before he can commit to someone. We ended the dinner on a sweet note. He gave a big hug and I understood that maybe he still isn't ready and there's nothing I can do to change that.
But then he initiates conversation every now and then and I engage because maybe we can't be lovers - but there is no reason I can't be kind to him or care for him and we talk about surface level stuff. He initiates and ends all of the conversations but I'm not chasing him.
Then the other day, he texted me late and I responded because he works late sometimes and I didn't think it was inappropriate. But later in the conversation he insinuated that he wanted me in his bed? He didn't ask me to come over. But he said something along the lines of "you should be here" I said What do you want from me? And he basically played it off and said I dont want you to be upset so he changed the subject and played dumb. What on earth is he looking for? A hookup?
