He looks at girls that he talks bad about?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend gets grossed out with trans (male to female) people, yet, I catch him watching a video of someone on Facebook and continued by going to the page to watch more of their videos.

When I ask him what he's watching, he says it's a trans person that looks "gross" and posting "stupid videos" and then he goes on by saying "I just wanted to see what they post" but he'll complain to me that he tries to block those pages and videos and they still pop u pon his Facebook.

I tried to explain to him that the algorithm works by suggesting what he watches most and what he views the longest. But he doesn't seem to want to understand that. He thinks just because he chose to show less of those posts, that it'll stop it from showing him those videos. But he's the one watching those kinds of videos a lot, so it's going to show up for him more than less.

I don't understand why guys would talk so negatively about something they're actually into?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

There’s a fine love between love and hate, both involve a great deal of passion to be recognized. My first reaction when it comes to open transphobia is usually that they fear either becoming trans, or being “tricked” into sex with a trans person because it’s “gay” or whatever. Show him some gay porn and see if he gets hard. Only homophobes don’t want to admit they’re attracted to men.

[Asker]

I'm not sure. When we watch a movie and it has gay scenes, he gets disgusted and skips the scenes.
He gets all mad if I try to show him gay porn.

Also, years ago before we met, him, his brother and his best friend were all talking to this girl. But when my boyfriend found out it was actually a guy, he immediately stopped talking to the person and cut off all contacts from the guy.

So in a way, I guess he was tricked into thinking it was an actual girl the whole time they were all fighting to talk to the person.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So it’s just him being a bigot then? Either you want to get to the root cause of that — because it means relationship problems down the road if you don’t share that bigotry, or you can just leave him. I doubt you plan to spy on him to see if he’s different when alone

[Asker]

I wouldn't know how to approach the bigotry situation then, if it's the case.

Also, he lives with his gay brother and he seems fine with that? Like, he would make jokes to me about his brother like he's getting action somewhere and such things. He doesn't seem very homophobic when he's talking to his gay brother. Whenever his brother would tell us about some night he had, my boyfriend would laugh and make a joke outta it or say something as a joke that could be true about his gay brother.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I imagine turning his brother’s sexuality into a joke is the only way he can reasonably deal with his fucked up feelings. And most bigotry requires him to empathize with the group he hates, I doubt you have the skills to teach him that.

[Anonymous]

He obviously likes them. Men lie constantly about most things.

[Sabretooth]

Because, he feels ashamed.

[Asker]

Of what?

[Sabretooth]

If liking trans girls.

[Asker]

Makes sense but nothing wrong with that.. I don't understand why he would talk so negatively about them when he doesn't have to say anything if they're that gross to him. If anything, he makes it suspicious that he likes the things that "grosses" him out.
Unless... He only is attracted to the pretty trans and not the "wip" trans.

[Sabretooth]

Some women think that a man is gay for liking anal sex... With women.