just the last couple days have been absolutely awful for me, I've felt better today but not by much.
so my ex was 15 and I was 18 and when we broke up I was 20 and she was 17, it's completely legal where I from. where she was from it was pretty normalized. before we dated, I didn't even think about dating girls that young, grated she lied about her age and I thought she was 16. after that I was only looking at girls around my age like 17-20. sometimes I'll talk to a 16 year old but not very often at all and it makes me feel weird about myself and gross. I think dating a girl that young maybe warped my view. like I know a lot of people have dated people with ages like 22 and 17 or something. when I tried talking to people I got called a pedophile and everything of the sort and it really broke me and it hurts really bad. like when i was 20 a 16 year old sent me nude and i was like its legal but i felt weird. here's the thing where I'm from the age of consent is 16 but sending nudes under 18 is illegal I'm pretty sure. so even my ex had sent me nudes and that not good, when my other ex when i was 18 and she was 17 had sent me nudes but its all bad even if were both below 18.
so I feel like crap, I never felt like a bad or shitty person or anything horrible, like I don't know it seemed normalized and now I'm scared of my consequences and obviously that's my own fault, I should have actually looked up the laws before anything. but I've seen people do worse like showing around nudes they got or my friends bragging about getting nudes all under 18, so I know its done a lot more and mostly nothing happens. but I'm getting paranoid and when I get a new girlfriend, I feel like I have the obligation to tell them about this because I don't know. like i have no definitive answer is its illegal or not, but I've been told I'm fine and mostly the law knows this happens but its not really enforced. i really don't know what advice i can actually get here
so my ex was 15 and I was 18 and when we broke up I was 20 and she was 17, it's completely legal where I from. where she was from it was pretty normalized. before we dated, I didn't even think about dating girls that young, grated she lied about her age and I thought she was 16. after that I was only looking at girls around my age like 17-20. sometimes I'll talk to a 16 year old but not very often at all and it makes me feel weird about myself and gross. I think dating a girl that young maybe warped my view. like I know a lot of people have dated people with ages like 22 and 17 or something. when I tried talking to people I got called a pedophile and everything of the sort and it really broke me and it hurts really bad. like when i was 20 a 16 year old sent me nude and i was like its legal but i felt weird. here's the thing where I'm from the age of consent is 16 but sending nudes under 18 is illegal I'm pretty sure. so even my ex had sent me nudes and that not good, when my other ex when i was 18 and she was 17 had sent me nudes but its all bad even if were both below 18.
so I feel like crap, I never felt like a bad or shitty person or anything horrible, like I don't know it seemed normalized and now I'm scared of my consequences and obviously that's my own fault, I should have actually looked up the laws before anything. but I've seen people do worse like showing around nudes they got or my friends bragging about getting nudes all under 18, so I know its done a lot more and mostly nothing happens. but I'm getting paranoid and when I get a new girlfriend, I feel like I have the obligation to tell them about this because I don't know. like i have no definitive answer is its illegal or not, but I've been told I'm fine and mostly the law knows this happens but its not really enforced. i really don't know what advice i can actually get here
