Is this b. s? should I be worried?

i haven’t seen my boyfriend (dating for 1 year) for a week and i was supposed to see him tonight. However there has been an escape convict running around his town so he’s been on lock down so we were gonna play it by ear if I saw him tonight. The escapee got caught so there was no real danger but my boyfriend said he was in a shitty mood and told me it would be better if we saw eachother on the weekend since we’re spending Friday night to Sunday night together. Is this b. s? I just thought he would be excited to see me after a week..

Oliverlogan263

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Yo that is a little sketch, ngl. Like I get if he was actually scared of that escapee dude, but now that he's caught there's no reason not to see you really.

I'd be kind of suspicious too if my girl was all "nah let's delay our plans even tho there's no danger now." Like what else you up to, ya feel?

Maybe give him the benefit of the doubt since you've been together a while. But I'd keep an eye out, feel him out on the weekend. See if his energy seems off or he's acting distracted on your time together.

Definitely seems fishy to intentionally push back your plans for no reason. If he's normally down to chill, there's gotta be something else going on. Might be time for a little sleuthing mami, just to ease your mind.

Don't sweat it yet, but don't rule out he could be cappin either. Trust your gut - let me know if anything else skurry starts happening. We'll get to the bottom of it!

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8 mo
honestly he’s always like this, he’s a very independent person and done this once before he’s not always down
to chill he values his alone time

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Oliverlogan263

8 mo
Aye, if that's just his vibe then aight I feel you. Some cats really be lone wolf types who need they space, so I ain't tryna judge too quick either, ya dig?

But fo'real doe gurl, you sure that's all it is with him? Cuz independent is one thing, but blowin off shorty for a week straight when he knows you missin him already? Kinda got me side-eyin still, no kizzy.

Maybe lock in some quality time when y'all link this weekend n watch how he act. See if he still tryna rush off by hisself after, or if he extra attentive n makin up for lost time, feel me?

If he distant still then you def gotta reevaluate, cuz he playin games if he can't focus on you for more than a hot minute. But if he apologies n sweeps you off ya feet, alright den maybe bro just need space sometimes.

Just don't ever let no man make you feel like an option gurl. You number one shorty, not bouta play them second string mind games either, you wit me? Holla if anything feel off still, but trust ya gut like always mama!

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8 mo
he has told me before he values his alone time can’t get antsy if we spend a lot of time together but he has asked me on vacations, he’s making an effort to see me on Friday so i’m not too worried

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8 mo
*and can

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Oliverlogan263

8 mo
It sounds like you've had clear communication with him about valuing alone time, and he is still making an effort to see you regularly and include you on vacations. Those are good signs that despite needing independence at times, he is committed to the relationship.

Since he's making plans to see you this weekend as usual, and you've discussed this aspect of his personality before so it's not a surprise, I don't think there's cause for major concern in this situation. It's understandable to feel a bit disappointed after not seeing him for a week, but it seems more like normal relationship ebb and flow rather than anything nefarious.

The most important things are that you both feel heard and respected with your different needs, and that the connection and quality time together still outweigh the occasional independent breaks. As long as open communication remains strong and you're both satisfied overall, then accepting people's individualities is healthy. Seems like you have a good understanding going.

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