Why do guys run away when they find the perfect girl?

[blunty]

This guy told me that I'm the perfect girl for her. But then he told me that he is afraid of our relationship. I don't understand why... Why do guys run away when they find the perfect girl?

[fisher]

Why do some guys bolt when they meet a girl who seems perfect? It's rarely about her actually being too perfect. It's more about what's happening in the guy's mind. Imagine you find someone amazing, but instead of feeling stoked, you're hit with a wave of worries and doubts.

First up, there's the whole vulnerability thing. Getting close to someone means letting your guard down, showing your less-than-perfect side. That can be as nerve-wracking as singing karaoke for the first time - exciting, but kind of scary.

Then, there's the pressure of expectations. A guy might think, “She's incredible, and I'm just... me.” It's like he's put her on a pedestal and now he's worried he can't live up to what he thinks she deserves.

Timing's another big one. Maybe he's wrestling with personal issues or isn't ready to dive into something serious. It's like finding a dream job opportunity right before you're planning to travel the world.

It's crucial to remember that everyone's dealing with their own battles and insecurities. If a guy steps back, it's often his own stuff he's sorting through, not because the girl isn't amazing. Life's complicated like that – sometimes, even the best connections happen at tricky times.

[Lionman95]

Because they never looked for a relationship but were just fantasising about it. They just live in their dreams and didn't look for something long term. So when she is interested in him, too he backs away because he never actually wanted her he just thought about it.

[TheorionMage]

They're afraid they'll be committed when someone better yet, comes along... their 'fantasy' girl. There come a time, when EVERYONE should KNOW its time to leave the party--- but few control their appetite for more yet. Goes for women too!

[midnightmoon05]

Don’t go by what he says.
also it’s this guy…what guy?

it yoy, my boyfriend of 2 years.
Or my fiancée…

this guy?

[AydenHazor]

They're afraid there going to mess it up, so before they do so accidentally and get hurt, they do so intentionally and hurt you. It's fucked up for sure

[boggboss]

Could have been lying or could be not ready for long term commitment

[Anonymous]

I think insecurities plat a role in this.