Why do most guys not know how to treat a lady?

[Anonymous]

They are the same gender as Trump and Putin. Putin starts wars and oppresses women. The Taliban took Afghanistan and took women's rights away. All these men are so horrible and they don't treat women right.

I see them complain about modern women, but these modern men don't know how to treat a lady right. Men just want control and power. I feel so bad for women they go through so much and it's all because of men.

[adam6402]

"Who do most guys not know how to treat a lady"

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*proceeds to generalize all men based on a terrorist group and a corrupt world leader*

Get a life bro... I had to work hard all my school life to get good grades so I could get a good stable job. I got my good stable job and I've been working hard 11 hours a day 5 days a week for 4 years saving every dollar possible so I could have enough money to get a house in a nice safe neighbourhood. I bought my little house and I've been working hard on it every weekend to make sure it's warm in winter and cool during summer. I've been doing it up nice so that it's clean and safe so I can one day raise a family in it.

I've fkn worked hard to get what I've got and you better fkn believe I'm not going to be sharing any of it with a self-entitled modern bitch who contributes nothing.

So explain to me, why don't I have every right to complain about modern women?

[Lionman95]

Because no one taught. Do you a group/association or club that spends time teaching boys how to treat women right? I can´t come with one because normally people assume that´s a family´s job. But a father is just another father´s son so he either learned to treat a son right or just treats his son as his father treated him.
I think the problem is that people these days don´t prepare their kids for relationships but for independency that way kids grow up to become independent adults and then turn into people that want other people to treat how they assume is right. The problem is that young kids and guys maybe more than girls grow up with the attitude of me first.
The situation with the Taliban is different since they come from a worldview that´s strictly patriarchal where women aren´t in the first place where guys control everything.

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe it takes a combination of morals and conscience for a man to be a good husband. Guys like Zuckerberg show what a good husband is, his wife is over weight and he honours her and has never cheated on her or excluded her from his public media presence. Guys like Putin have gorgeous wives that look better than siamese kittens and cheat on them and then kill their mistress after she gets pregnant.

[Flatmanlewis]

This topic could be a college lecture. There are LOTS of reasons.


Failed parenting. Positive male role models and spaces. Women who don’t act like ladies. Social media. Drugs. A breakdown of family structure / nuclear families. Feminists. A rise of the ‘pick up artist’ culture. A decline in basic social manners & accountability. Drug use. A glorification of income or popularity over class. The list just goes on and on.

[dynamicyandere]

Those that care, will seek out that knowledge and learn.


Those that don’t care, won’t bother to find out and learn.


Most people don’t care about manners, etiquette, class, and honor.


Those that do are the ones that stand out.

[TallAnon]

People have different levels of empathy. Some people don't care about the wellbeing of others, so it's all about what benefits them the most. Some people care about their loved ones, some about their families, some about their communities; There's a lot of variety there.

[Anonymous]

Trump and Putin are outliers who don't represent most men any more than they represent women.

There are some good women left today, but "modern women" in general are lower value than women of the past, and it's obviously disappointing to men. If you were actually a man you would know that.