He randomly texted me you ok?

[Askingforafriend89]

What does this mean? Why wouldn’t I be okay? I just met this guy recently and we’ve been texted all week, he had a meeting earlier and I knew he’d be out for a few hours. He randomly texted me about 4 hours later “you ok?” I responded yes, just watching tv. Was he making conversation, or did I miss something? Someone help me here?

[WilmaReportu]

This person seems to be using a gaslighting technique by questioning the other person's state of mind for no apparent reason. The text "You Ok?" implies that there is an underlying reason why the person may not be okay.

Assuming that there are no underlying reasons as to why the person may not be okay, questioning their state of mind is manipulative, and it serves to create an atmosphere of instability and uncertainty.

This can make the other person unsure of themselves, making them doubt their feelings and thoughts. If someone text me "You Ok" I would document this as evidence in case I needed to show it the the appropriate authorities.

[adam6402]

Oh COME ONN... really!! Why tf is everyone obsessed with the term gaslighting nowadays?

He was just checking in to see if she was ok, it's nothing but a friendly text. For some people, saying "you ok" or "you alright" is just another way of saying "what's up" or "how's it going".

Stop overthinking shit and move on...

[WilmaReportu]

@adam6402 Thanks for mansplaining your gaslighting techniques

[Askingforafriend89]

@adam6402 thank you I genuinely was just asking I’ve never had someone just text me you okay unless they were honestly concerned about my health or wellbeing that’s why it caught me off caught. I just asked only to see if people actually used this as another form of communication.

[adam6402]

@wilmareportu I wasn't mansplaining gaslighting, I was mansplaining your delusion as to the meaning and application of gaslighting. Saying these terms is not a gaslighting technique, they're literally ways of expressing interest and care toward someone... how can you not see that?

If you've ever been to the UK or known someone from the UK for long enough, you should know that they use the term "you alright?” or “doing ok?” ALL the time and it's just one of their ways of saying "what's up", "how's it going", “how are you”.

It’s NOT gaslighting. You're 24, wake up and grow up.

[adam6402]

@Askingforafriend89 yeah, ignore what this Wilma girl is saying, it’s not gaslighting. I'd say he’s just reaching out to you and checking in with you in a nice and caring way.

Unless you noticed obviously weird behavior from him after this, there's absolutely nothing to worry about. Guys are basic people, we're far less complicated and in-depth than girls are, so often the simple things we say are overthought and misinterpreted...

[kylee2437]

This is why texting sucks. Lol whoever I am with next, we ain’t texting all day like this.

[Jerre]

Sounds like he was just checking to make sure you were ok.

[Jerre]

@Askingforafriend89 Thank you for the Like