What would you do if an opposite sex colleague said they had suicidal thoughts due to you not liking them back?

[Bethany22]

So they confessed that you not liking them back was giving them suicidal thoughts. Would you just try to comfort them, or would you immediately tell your boss, because you're worried about her getting you in trouble? Would you still proceed to tell your boss even if she begged you not to, and that she would go and get help, etc?

Try to comfort them

Tell your boss immediately

Both

Neither

[Constatine]

I guess this a though one..

Not it is not nice of me not to responce i a way they hoped i would.. but thinking of killing yourself of that.

I sounds harsh i do know that... But basicly there is something wring with that person.. should it be my problem... ? No

Do i control my feelings for that person? No

There for is it my problem? No

Whould i feel good about it? Hell no but there is nothing to do for me. So i whould tell the boss maybe they can profide some help.

and yes i will go even asked not to. Because help is needed.

Therapy or talking to a specialist can help. Being nice to that person.. hugg her a say everything will be fine one day makes it only worse.

[DJB72]

These days I'd go straight to the boss. 30 years ago it might have been a different story but these days trying to comfort someone would likely get you fired for inappropriate behaviour.

[Curmudgeon]

I would politely suggest he use the EAP (Employee Assistance Program). You have one, right?

If this is a serious career with future advancement, the poor guy must really be messed up, or his naivete is SO sweet he needs insulin shots. I *would* politely also suggest to him it's NOT a good idea to "(figure out a nice euphemism) where you eat" nor to dip your wick in the company candle? Ok, that one didn't word well, but you get the idea.

Or just a friendly reply like "hey guy, we're *coworkers*!"

[IceCreamSandwich]

If we aren't friends to the point I already know if and why you're in therapy, we aren't close enough to be telling me about active suicidal thoughts. That would be like telling someone you have a gun in your jacket when they don't even know if you're licensed to carry. It's just way too intense.

Please don't put someone else in that situation—tell a therapist, HR, someone who is trained in how to handle it and knows it may come up. Or if you can, at least tell a family member or best friend, someone who knows you very well and can make a good judgment call on whether reporting it is the best option for you.

I can't make that call with a coworker or even a friend or family member I'm not extremely close to. I'd ask if they were serious or if they were exaggerating for any reason, and if they said they were serious I would report it to the closest or most trusted authority/resource availabe to them.

[RavVid]

I'd call the CAT team. If you call the CAT team a truck load of tabbies don't turn up cause it stands for the the Community Assessment Team which isn't staffed by tabbies.

I imagine every country and every state has a different acronym. But hopefully the concept is clear. We need men in white coats to come and take them away. Turn these sort of problems over to the pros with drugs to administer.

[provokeesmokee]

They're lying about it. Tell your boss and HR, and include incident details.

If they're not lying, then absolutely tell your boss because that's a security and health risk and WAY out your pay grade.

[genericname85]

i'd tell them straight up "well if your life going on depends on me being with you, you might as well end it". cause i think like this: killing someone to be with me is not ok. even if that someone happens to be you and i will not give you any negotiating power if you do that.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm more concerned about them going postal and shooting up the building or waiting for me in the parking garage with a machete. They're clearly mentally unstable and I'd do what I can to get them out of the workplace anonymously

[loveslongnails]

I'd tell her she needs to seek help for that, because it's harmful for herself and it's manipulative towards you. I'd go so far as to offer setting up a consultation, depending if she has insurance or public health department and going with her. That way you can show her you care and head off any retaliatory acts that might come your way by saying " you need help" and leaving it at that.

[Holsen]

Well they are just too far gone and too toxic for you so I would recommend to just leave them on their toxicity as it is dangerous and unhealthy to comfort or try to get along with these types!!

[glennos89]

Ask him if he needs a rope 😂😜

( it's a joke not a dick! Dont take it so hard pls! )😂😂😂

No, but serious... Don't act on it. That's pathetic and nobody should put their rejection issues on you like that

[Redwolf4820]

My ex used this as a common get you back tactic even planning a suicide date after i had been gone for several months this time. Tldr he didn't kill himself on his date and i didn't go back this time. Tell your boss. You're coworker is either in need of serious help, or very manipulative.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hmm, that’s very manipulative. I’d think he’s a psycho.

[boggboss]

I would ask them how serious they was and go from their letting them know that's emotional blackmail and if they are serious theat I woukd have to inform hr

[OfMiceandMen]

I would do both. I think you have an obligation to the employer to let them know and I would try to comfort them to the point that I can.

[andreasderjuengere]

The problems of those who aren't close to me aren't my own ones.

I wouldn't encourage her, though.

But don't expect me to attend her funeral.

[slatyb]

I would suggest they get some counseling. Then I would talk to my manager. Today's highly inappropriate and threatening.

[Jerre]

I would ask my Dr friends for help in getting her the best help available.

[Jerre]

@Bethany22 Thank you for the Like

[nawtee_me]

Ask if they have a plan on how they are going to do it. Most of whom claim to want to hurt themselves have no plan because they only want the attention. If they have a real plan then they need help.

[Anemone978]

I would tell them to stay the fuck away from me and go get help..

[NathanDavis]

I would refer them to professional help/therapy

because that's messed up

[FunkyMonkee]

Try to reason with them, and, if that didn't help, tell them they need help or just call for some for them!