So today I found out my crush has a girlfriend. I'm so angry& sad. Why would this a**hole give me signals if he has a girlfriend in the first place?

[Anonymous]

I feel like an idiot right now. 😓

[Anonymous]

Lol you probably read it all wrong. Just cause a dude says hi or smiles or something like that doesn’t me he’s interested or flirting. Your perception of reality was probably not on point. Even so I myself am w someone, have been for a long time but do I find other women attractive? Yes of course. Nothing wrong w that. Now if I’m going out of my way to do things for them, treat her better, etc, etc, then yes that’s no bueno. What exactly were those signals? See a lot of women would say their man is flirting w a girl because he’s laughing w her, joking w her, talks to her a lot at work. But that isn’t always the case. Your perception of flirting compared to men may be different.

[236color]

We don't understand these "signals" women think they are sending us, and you often think we are sending signals we don't intend to. Once again, use your words.

[Anonymous]

It’s possible You misunderstood his actions but on the off chance you didn’t I’ll say this: just because he’s a good guy doesn’t make him a good partner. I know men who present as shy, sweet, etc but suck at communicating and being faithful.

[provokeesmokee]

He probably wasn't being flirty, just friendly.

Reanalyse and reframe. Was it really flirting?

[Asker]

I thought him genuinely smiling at me a lot in a room full of people, being nervous around me, the staring contests, asking me how I'm doing in an intimate way and trying to be close to me is something one would call 'being interested' but I was delusional I guess 😣

[provokeesmokee]

What does "asking me how I'm doing in an intimate way" mean?

You know being genuinely interested in you as a person is a platonic thing, right? He could just like who you are and want to pay proper attention to you when you speak.

If you're scared you're delusion, just ask him for clarification.

I've done that with some guy friends and not only did it clear things up, it helped us both feel more comfortable and at ease with each other.

[Anonymous]

Hope you got the truth off him not off someone else

[spartan55]

What signals?

[Toylet20]

That’s what men do.