How do guys feel when a boundary is set?

[ShySocialButterfly]

My friend (yes, I had an interest in him at one point. to get that out the way.) called my phone twice to by pass my do not disturb because he wanted to talk to me right then and there 😩. So I answered and he proceeded to talk. He by passed because he had came back from a conference and wanted to tell me about it and how we got to work harder on our lives. I let him know that I completed agree and want to talk about it too but that’s the exact reason my phone was on do not disturb. He said he respects it and had one more important thing to tell me in case we don’t talk later.

Why would he bypass like this😩?

[spartan55]

Why? Does it matter? Why do women always focus on the WHY of negative actions against them? Focus on the behavior, he blatantly disrespected a boundary of yours. No it's up to you how to respond. Knowing why doesn't help you.

[ShySocialButterfly]

Thank you! You’re absolutely right. That was bad behavior regardless of who or why.

[spartan55]

@ShySocialButterfly
I apologize if that came across poorly, but this is one of the great mysteries of the female psyche to me.

If someone punches me in the mouth IDGAF why they did it. They are getting hammered back.

[ShySocialButterfly]

No, you answered in a way that was very direct. I had a boundary set and it was crossed who cares why it was still done.

I’m a direct person so I get it. I’m still a woman and wanted to know why😂. & once i reinforced he was fine I just hate I had to reinforce, really.

[spartan55]

And that's the component that would have really pissed me off. Why should have to reiterate boundaries to an adult only because he is ignoring it. F that business.