Why was my guy friend so concerned about my safety?

[Oreosox238]

I had a trip go sour recently. I tried to make the best of it and thought I did a pretty great job doing that. I got back safely yesterday after my first solo travel trip. I explain some things that happened to a guy friend and he got so mad at me for putting myself in that position. He solo travels all the time and even drove cross country. So when I told him what happened about my other guy friend the first thing he asks for is if the guy was my boyfriend. He kept putting me down saying I was naive for not asking for help and he demanded I come back safely by a certain day. He told me he’d get my family involved since I didn’t want them knowing what was going on due to judgement. He tells me it’s not out of personal spite and that he’s looking out for me. Why would this guy react like that?

[D_Bone_Steak]

No dude wants to see the girl he really wants to fuck get raped by another man instead. Put yourself in his shoes... even if you enjoyed it... look at his perspective of it.

[Oreosox238]

That makes no sense to me. I’d like to think getting concerned about that fear should come whether you want to fuck someone or not.

[D_Bone_Steak]

True... I was using crass language as sort of a joke... replace "rape" with "enjoyed intimate experience" or keep rape in there and view it from a 3rd party perspective of not wishing you were the one getting busy.

The bottom line is I think he wants you not to get in that situation. If that makes sense.

[Oreosox238]

Would you say he wants me over all?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yes. A hard "Yes" is my assessment. Dudes don't go there otherwise and I don't need further proof of that in my opinion. He doesn't want you fucking around. That's the bottom line.

[Oreosox238]

The problem is he won’t open up to me in general let alone admit his feelings for me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I apologize that he's being a pussy. In my opinion, he should just admit it and get things out in the open. Instead... he's being too afraid to admit it, then getting jelly about you around any other dude like he has admitted it or has some sort of commitment agreement... and damn.

Ma'am... I think you're getting yourself into a hot mess, to be honest.

[Oreosox238]

Yeah that’s my issue if you’re not going to admit how you feel, you don’t have any right to get upset.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Exactly! Hope you handle this right or better yet distance yourself from that shit.