I unsent messages to my crush because I thought he is not interested and then he send me a message asking why did I send messages then I unsend them?

[Anonymous]

Why he sent me that, is he mad?

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He sent me message not send

[Hulk_kitty]

From what I have read, instead of sending messages to him, why don't you pick up the phone and speak to him.

Messaging someone is not an effective form of communication, and can create a lot of misunderstandings. I don't really messages my friends anymore, we agreed that it creates misunderstanding between.

The reason you and this guy are not getting or misunderstanding each other, is through text messaging. Either to speak to him in person or on the phone, and that way you can understand each other better.

Texting messaging should only be used for brief information, like confirming times, dates and places you want to meet up. I don't really think you should be using text messaging as a form of a communication.

[Hulk_kitty]

Unsending a message is not big deal, with regards to text messages. i do it all the time with my friends with my parents, vice versa. Your entitled to do it, that's why you have that option.

It only becomes a big deal, if you keep doing it and don't mean what you say. I suggest before you send a text, think before you send it, and think what you are going to say, So parties are going to be affected by the text.

[Hulk_kitty]

It sounds like there might be some confusion or mixed signals in your communication with your crush. It's not uncommon for misunderstandings to occur in messaging, especially if there's uncertainty about the other person's feelings.

In this situation, honesty is generally the best policy. You can explain to your crush that you initially sent messages because you were interested, but you got the impression that they might not be interested, so you unsent them. However, now that they've reached out and asked, you can clarify your feelings and express your interest in a straightforward manner.

Communication is key in any relationship, and being open and honest about your thoughts and feelings can help to clear up any misunderstandings. Remember that everyone interprets messages differently, and it's possible that your crush may have a different perspective on the situation. Approach the conversation with openness and a willingness to listen to their thoughts as well.

[blueonblack22]

Good sign actually. He wouldn’t of wasted his time asking what they are supposed to be if he didn’t at least semi like you.

Don’t unsend messages any more. Obviously don’t confess your undying love for him in a text. But say hello and ask him how his day is going. 10 to 1 odds he will respond at least with some interest. Nothing “desperate” about that.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot

[sheikalana]

Because he saw that you deleted the messages and may be wondering if you're playing games or regretted sending those messages.

[Asker]

Oh, No really! If he thinks that I am doomed😔

[Nikki1989]

Try real communication next time.

[andylakes09]

Speaking of texting and communication 😂 did you block me? I can't pm you anymore 🥺

[adam6402]

He won’t be mad at you. He was most likely just curious about what you said and is interested in having a conversation with you.

I’ve had this happen to me a few times. If I’m interested in the girl and what she had to say, I’ll message her like this guy did to you. If I’m not interested in her, I’ll just ignore the deleted messages and say nothing.

The fact he reached out to you means he was probably interested in what you said, or interested in having a conversation with you.

[bededazzle]

he's probably just curious/confused. you could just try to start a conversation?

[Asker]

I did. I said I don't know and because some of the messages may upset him, because I said I miss him in one of them and he saw the message but never replied

[bededazzle]

well, there's no way of really knowing. if it doesn't go well just back off

[Asker]

Is it offensive or a big mistake to unsent messages? I am really confused?

[bededazzle]

i am old and don't know, but don't worry about it. if you really think he seems annoyed, it doesn't mean you did anything wrong, but i would back off to protect your feelings

[Asker]

Thanks

[JacobJordan]

because it is quite annoying to have message notifications only to have them be unsent.

[Asker]

So, I didn't unsend them immediately. I unsent them after he read some of them or all I don't remember

[JacobJordan]

sure but it is still quite annoying to have messages be unsent. I personally despise when people unsend messages

[Asker]

The purpose of me doing this was to not annoying him, apparent I did the opposite😔
I apologized to him but he seems really annoyed. I don't know what to do?

[Asker]

So, how do you react after lets say your girlfriend unsend a message, will you talk to her again?

[JacobJordan]

my wife did that early in our relationship I told her that the way I view texting is the same way I view talking. if we are talking out loud you can't say something and then unsay it. so if she sends me a message she also can't unsend it. it took a few repeats for her to stop entirely and every time it was quite vexing but she did stop and it was much better even if I didn't like the text I would rather see it/hear it than it be sent and then unsent.

[Asker]

Ok, I understand now. Thanks a lot🙂

[JacobJordan]

good luck

[Avicenna]

He's probably confused

[Asker]

But, why he is confused. Why he cares anyway?

[ThrillSeeker01]

That's a good sign! Means he's wondering how you feel

[Asker]

Really! You think so?

[ThrillSeeker01]

He sent you a message. That proves he's thinking about you. And maybe he unsent it because he's worried if you will like him or not

[Asker]

It is the opposite. I am the person who sent and unsent the messages

[ThrillSeeker01]

I'm sorry for getting things backwards, but the fact that he was curious about your messages still means he is thinking of you and may like you 🙂

[Asker]

No worries.
I hope so. Thanks

[Nifrayu]

You should try talking to him. You two are obviously having trouble communicating.

[Asker]

I sent him lots of messages to explain and apologize. He didn't see them until now or he saw them but never respond

[Nifrayu]

Then I would say the communication problem is on his end.

[Asker]

He always responds after decades on no respond at all. And it will be one message

[Nifrayu]

My guess is he is hesitant to talk to you more because he is worried he will get attached and nothing will come of it. I'm sure he is interested, but distance might be difficult for him.

[Asker]

This is also what I am thinking because he liked me but he says he is really hurts from his last relationship because he was gonna marry her but thing didn't work for them

[Nifrayu]

I've been there. That kind of heartache makes relationships very difficult.

[Asker]

So sorry about what happened to u. I totally understand what he is going through but the thing is I am hurting now and this is not fun at all. I am kind of start loving him. I don't know what to do😔

[Nifrayu]

I think your best bet is to tell him how you feel. Tell him what he means to you.

[Asker]

I don't know, I am really depressed. Thanks though for you trying to help

[Blueeyes81]

He's confused and rightly so.

[Asker]

may I ask why he will be confused. He is the person that doesn't read the messages for days after I send them

[Anonymous]

Tell the truth

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

Tell him exactly what you’re telling us

[Asker]

Already did and he didn't even bother looking at my messages. Why he cares and send me message asking, he didn't send me message recently except this one he sent yesterday. Is he still thinking about me, this situation drives me crazy.

[Opinion Owner]

Who is this guy? Do you know him from school?

[Asker]

No, he works at store I go too and i told him I like him. we texted thorough messenger then he gone and then after I deleted some messages, he sent me saying why?

[Opinion Owner]

Talk to the guy at the store go out on a date

[Asker]

The thing is he told me that he was out of a long relationship recently and not looking for anything serious and he thinks that I don't deserve to be just for playing

[Asker]

For that reason I deleted the messages and left him alone although I liked him a lot

[Opinion Owner]

Just take things real slowly don’t give him any sex just go on as a friend and see what happens

[Opinion Owner]

Go out as friends

[Asker]

Thats what I offered him then he said that he can't be just friend with me and he will contact me when he is ready

[Opinion Owner]

He’s difficult if you do go out with him be careful of him trying to pressure you for sex.

[Asker]

What?😳 Do you think he will do that?

[Opinion Owner]

Most guys do try keep your eye out on him

[Asker]

I will. Thanks a lot

[Opinion Owner]

You’re so welcome. Good luck.

[Cheerfull009]

Yes. He is mad