there’s this guy I’m attracted to that’s a drum major in a band that my sister is in. i never really knew he existed until i saw him staring at me during one of the games and then it became a normal thing, every game, we’re always staring at each other. even after the game, when the band is loading up their instruments, he would always stare and look at me. there was one time he stopping in front of me and started marching and doing these tricks or whatever and walked away marching. we followed each other on instagram but i accidentally blocked him so i feel embarrassed to follow him again, especially since we never had a full conversation face to face. now i’m confused as to why he tends to “ignore me” on instagram. he takes days to respond as he’s actively on it. he posted a sad note on his instagram and i reached out in support but he never responded and so i deleted it, as he’s actively posting. he’s like a ghost follower. he sees my stuff but never interacts with it and i see his stuff but he never responds to anything. there was two times he did but it still took him days to respond. so why does he do all that staring and smiling at me in person but instagram he’s dead as a mouse. it makes me wonder if it’s worth following him back again or wait for him to follow me again and see if he’s noticed.
also side note: i understand not everyone is a social media person but it just makes me confused.
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How do you 'accidentally' block someone?
i clicked the 3 dots and i was just trying to press something else and then my phone started acting weird
Sounds good.
do you have any opinions or anything on the situation
Stop wasting your time trying to communicate through social media and have an actual conversation with him.
i knowww but the thing is, our school won the championship and it’s out of town and i won’t be able to make it. and the band has other events coming up that are all out of town, so i wouldn’t even know when i would see him next. like they have a band banquet at the end of the school year but that’s far away. they do have a band showcase coming up this Friday but it’s not a guarantee that i’ll be able to talk to him
he has his number in his bio under the contact number but i felt it would be awkward and embarrassing to text him out of the blue without having a full face to face conversation first. all we do is stare
It sounds like, if you really want to meet him you will have to think outside of the box. Going the social media/text is pretty much a guaranteed fail.
we’ve already meet a few times and my sister introduced me to him. we’ve had small conversations on instagram that lasted like 30 seconds. i waved at him once and during the game i was sitting in the band section. we had a “conversation” all though it was all one liners, like asking if he needs a water or him giving me some chips. or asking me to get someone else’s attention. it’s just we never had like a “hey how you doing?” conversation. but every time we do have a small interaction he’s always smiling
How far distance wise are you?
I don't know where he lives :(
Didn't you say your sister introduced you? She might know, or could find out. This is what I mean by getting creative. There are so many other ways aside from going online.
but if i do find out where he lives what do i do after that, i can’t just pop up to his place lol
Get his phone number... oh wait you have it...
😂😂😂 but isn’t it weird to randomly text him and say hi i got your number from your bio
No, if he didn't want to be contacted that way he wouldn't put his # up.
what would i even say
So, you think you are ready to date?
no no no, i’m not interested in dating him. we’re at 2 different points in our lives, it wouldn’t work
So why all this then? So weird.
i was generally asking why does he stare so much but takes forever to respond on social media
He should respond to you faster.
i’m saying!! and I don't know why he doesn’t. also he has his phone number in his bio, cause there’s a contact button. and i think it would be weird to just randomly text him especially since we never had a full conversation before. it’s just all we do is stare