Why don’t guys act like Romeo from Romeo and Juliet?

Question

Pursue the girl like a guy mad in love

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

MY TRUE STORY: My last boyfriend lived in the same apartment building as I do. I live upstairs and have a nice long balcony outside. One day after we met he left me a note on my door and called me Rapunzel. Then he'd stood outside of my balcony from downstairs yelling "Rapunzel, Rapunzel"!!! I would run to my balcony and would throw my long hair over the edge just like in the story.

Here's the story version
After she threw her long hair over the edge of the tower she lived in, he put up a ladder and climbed to grab her hair and rescue her from the mean witch in the tower that held her hostage in the there.

So, they ran off together after he rescued her and fell in love and lived happily ever after. The end.

After the Rapunzel thing he did, the next time he appeared outside howling like a big husky dog when he wanted a mate. I would run to the sliding door and stand on my balcony howling back.
So, whenever we needed to locate each other at the store, he would howl and then I would howl back so he could find me. People in the store thought we were crazy 🙄.

We had many wonderful and funny memories of things we did together.

I am still mourning his death and tears are in my eyes as I remember those times while writing this.

Please reply and give me your opinion.

RIP Patrick 💔

Sour-rose · Accepted Answer

Yesss, they should kill themselves once they see their love... playing dead. :) But maybe because 2023... and we ladies to play too many games. Also if we say no now a days, that's it. They go elsewhere.

smne35 · Accepted Answer

A hopeless romantic you are, so beautiful and charming too, your eye become ever more beautiful as they glisten from interacting with the sun's rays, your face radiates such softness like satin silky soft warm to the touch so tenderly gently applied , you are the template for one who is truly a beauty to behold and admire, most guys haven't read much if any Shakespeare, that in the eyes and thinking of modern dudes is overkill when just saying hey babe you looking really good hot, wanna go out this weekend will get their intention and point across just fine, crude yes but it works for those females who haven't experienced the art of romance being so desired and made to feel like a gem so rare and treasured, and attentive to put on a pedestal for all to be in awe of one so lovely and graceful ás you are, it's an honor to be in her presence, as all eyes are truly on her with admiration well chivalry is alive to this day it's just not a presence that it once commanded but is a driving force to those who long for the days when a lady was held in high esteem and courted respectfully and pursued playfully and the occasional dueling by suiters trying to win your affection, the good old days of the Renaissance,

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

Because first of all if a guy confronts a girl with the reality that he's in love with her that deep that he's obsessed with her many women nowadays would see that as stalking. Second of all it seems unnecessary in modern days since one could get sex and intimacy without that much preparation.

Thirdly guys are not anymore in the situation that they fall head over heels for a woman at the first meeting. Modern day guys have something Romeo didn't have and that is the Internet. Guys are bombarded with pics of beautiful women through the day so it's hard to keep the picture of one beautiful woman you see somewhere in your head, there is no way a guy can dream and fantasie as deep as Romeo probably did over Juliet.

A fourth problem guys underestimate the power of romance as there are no more boundaries and limits in Western society and many guys are taught intimacy by porn guys are now going mainly for sex straight away since they think that's the goal because many dating coaches talk about that all the time.

lightbulb27 · Answer

sometimes they do and jump off bridges too... I never pursued because I was scared of girls...  no wonder, they cause a bunch of guys to jump of bridges... dang things are dangerous and don't know it.

hahahmm · Answer

it just doesn't work. If a man puts 100% energy into being "in love" it is expressed as him being led by her and worshiping her. Women do not want or respect that in real life although you seem to enjoy seeing it in fiction such as romance comedies. I have ideas on why women don't like it in reality:

a.) She knows herself really well and knows that she isn't worthy of worship so obviously any man who worships her is a total idiot and unworthy of being followed or respected.

b.) it's a sexual turn off to have a man who is desperate/needy for her which drives her towards other men.

c.) A guy who focuses all his energy on her has no energy left for doing stuff like building his career, building valuable skills. He is not competitive compared to guys who have other things going on. He's like the guy who sits in the stands at a sporting event worshiping cheerleaders... compared to the guy who plays in the game and only gives 1% of his attention to the cheerleaders.

Or to sum it all up: women want a lot of things. It's been said that women want EVERYTHING. Some of the things they want are actually bad for them and others so traditionally it was a man's job to know when to say 'nope'. Guys who know when to say nope are called names by feminists such as "toxic" but we don't care.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

They still do.

Why don’t guys act like Romeo from Romeo and Juliet?

But if you're just noticing the guys not doing a thing... step back and take a look at the women (not just the looks) for a second. Would you go out of your way for them?

I'm just saying such actions are usually deserving and there isn't much out there in certain circles that are deserving of shit.

Juliet, if we can agree on this, wasn't a blown-out slut that's just going to treat him like shit and cheat while acting like a boss bitch. Can we agree on that much? She herself is something I could see a man fighting for.

Now think about the average slut out there.

Do you think I'd fight for one of them or use them as a human shield during a random outburst of gun violence?

I mean think about it and look at the choices those men that are not doing that shit have. She might be perfect emotionally and mentally (doubt it), but then she weighs 200+ Lbs. and hasn't had a bath or brushed her teeth in days. Meanwhile he's expected to be clean, make money, and have a six pack abs. The system is out of whack and you're not going to see that behavior until it gets straightened out. Until then... expect nothing but the worst of men confronting you and others for sex.

Miristheiss · Answer

Many are hard wired to be like that.

There are few sweet, devoted, traditional girls left in the world though. Many are loud feminists who sleep around, believe in hook up culture, boss babes that don't need no man, career is her focus in life, going out to clubs, drinking, getting hit on all night by players, get naked online for pay, post endless bikini and thirst trap photos on Instagram, hot girl summers, girls night out drinking.

There really aren't any "ladies" that are worthy to be showered with traditional romance, devotion, courting. They all have 10 dicks in them already. There is nothing traditional and ladylike to court.

Traditional, modest, family oriented girls of virtue and honor... they deserve the courting and romance.

Some Instagram hoe who goes out clubbing and screwing players every week, selling her snatch on line (prostitution), she won't take her husband's last name, making money and business trips dictate the home life and her job is her main priority, she had sex with 10-20 men already who tried out all their deviant, porn influenced kinks on her and warped her tastes in intimacy. She doesn't deserve any romance and courting.

PhantomMenace22 · Answer

Because Romeo and Juliet was a play that was written in the 16th century. Social norms back then were very different. Sadly, social media and hookup culture has killed romance. People feel like they have a ton of options. Secondly, if they act this way, they risk being perceived as creepy or desperate. Same goes for women; nowadays you have to play it cool and chill without showing excess interest. Hence why you have all these weird dating rules (how soon is too soon to text after a first date etc.)

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I saw a tik tok video that perfectly explains the reason. Women don't actually want us to do those things. Y'all say you do, but you don't act like it.

There are many women treat us like absolute shit when we do. We show up with flowers and a nice date planned, and y'all are talking shit with your girlfriends about how corny we are. We catch shit about how we don't take "no" for an answer. Showing too much interest makes you uncomfortable and turns you off. Even if it doesn't turn you off, then you start just expecting the lovey-dovey stuff as what men should do, so it loses it's charm.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Men who do that end up in jail now.

Guy's aren't allowed to convince women they love them with persitantence anymore, because its viewed as harrassment, even if the love is genuine.

Not that I'd do it anyway even if I were allowed to.

Back in the early 2000s, when you could still do that without being reprimanded, I never did. Instead the women chased after me that way. It still happens today as well, but because I look young, it happens much less often from women my age and much more often from women in their early 20s or younger, so since then, I just ended up having to ignore most of the women who insist on me having them, and now I'm struggling to find a woman I mentally relate to in terms of hobbies, intererest, talents, etc. so I still haven't even had a reason yet to be persistent about convincing a woman that I'm the one for her.

Nik1hil · Answer

- Well, i don't want to charge with Eve teasing and harassing her.

- I don't want to go to jail.

- She has rights and she is a strong independent woman.

Get it into your head. Feminism killed chivalry etc.. Welcome to the New safe world your fellow women have created. Why do you want the Things from the World of "Patriarchy".

- "Fuck the Patriarchy" - Is the lyrics of the songs of this generation!..

Anonymous · Answer

It's a lot of rape fantasy in his screenplays. A lot of old movies and plays were rapey.

Look at snow white. That's why, in the new snow-white, the guy is a creepy stalker.

I think it's good now that men are learning that this creepy behavior is not okay. And women are also approaching guys more. That's another step closer to equality.

I am sure young guys are looking at videos of older generations of men who throw their coats over a puddle and say things like, "Why guys back then sure were weird; why would they be so nice to a woman?" It's creepy behavior and makes women feel uncomfortable.

It's good a lot of men are controlling their sexual urges better and treating women with equal respect. I say we continue down this room.

tariful25 · Answer

The character of Romeo from "Romeo and Juliet" is a literary creation, and his impulsive, dramatic actions may not reflect realistic behavior. Real-life relationships require communication, respect, and consideration, which can differ from the passionate and tragic nature of Shakespearean plays. People's actions are influenced by various factors, including cultural and societal norms.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Society is not even remotely like it was in the 1400s. To cherry pick the one thing you think is charming kind of ignores the reality that nearly every other aspect of society has improved on virtually all levels.

It’s just the same as saying why don’t girls act like they did in __ era when they were __ (insert whatever trait or look you’re craving here).

devilish-cutie · Answer

Because most thing you see in movies aren't real. Men are not brave etc. Most people aren't brave, they just get the glory but they do not actually have the guts and they often tend to be really really scared of rejection like their life depends on it. Life is generally disappointing like that.

molonski2 · Answer

You know , I kind of love to do that , but just as in the song about..

If I were pursuing her like that , they'd lock me up !! 5555555 , I've done some very romantic things in my life , none of them worked , I did better being an arsehole 55555.

That's a fact !

ManOnFire · Answer

A lot of men have done that. Problem is some of them do it too strongly to the point of being pathetic. And then many others won't do it because a lot of women of today think such men are weak and unmanly, but they will still use the guys.

SimplyPut · Answer

You want your man to sneak into a dance looking for a different woman... when he can't find her fall in love with you... marry you in secret... back down from a fight because of your family to get his own cousin killed... then kill that guy anyway... get exiled and come back and kill himself? Ok I suppose

magiusX26 · Answer

because women dont begave as something worth persuing anymore. also in the time period that is set in, it is actually women who most often initiated romantic things such as signaling a guy she wanted by "dropping" her handkerchief for him to pick up and return to her.

Anonymous · Answer

lol we used to. But after being told men aren’t shit, we don’t need you, I’m independent. Also false accusations at times of rape, being told you’re creepy for complimenting women, etc, etc, etc. That’s why most men don’t do that type of stuff anymore, because you never know what kind of girl you’re going to encounter.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

The two characters were teenagers experiencing lust and love for the first time. They threw themselves into it as a kind of teen rebellion. Men and women don't act like that because with maturity comes boundaries

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Some of them actually do…  If only you act like a Juliet :P  I’ve often met chivalrous and gentlemanly men.

AviatorTom · Answer

We'd love to pursue the girl... But some girls consider that as stalking, and you can get in trouble for that. So, we guys take the lesser approach.

boggboss · Answer

Because women don't respond well to over pursuing guys why do u think there are rules to texting like don't double text or come om too strong because guys that pursue lile romeo seem desperate

sawno · Answer

My last relationship felt a bit like that since we had to make a long distance work during the lockdown period and were not allowed to visit each other. I was prepared to go trough a lot of lengths to make it work.

TheShadowReturns · Answer

It is just not worth it, it seems. Most guys are like, I will ask her once. If she is interested, yes, and if not, then no, and no more asking. She is free to play games, I am not. So I am out. If the answer is no.

I think many guys are like this now. Cause rarely anybody listens to guys if things go south.

matchrestore · Answer

because it causes misunderstandings that lead to a double suicide, obviously.

Elliegirl · Answer

If you mean love me literally to his last breath, my man promised to love me the rest of our lives. If you mean forsake his family, murder my cousin, and die, I’ll pass on that.

Hanrej · Answer

Well... The men that do are being called losers and creepy at best, slapped with harassment and put to jail or given steep fines at worst. Women have made men give up that way pursuit.

Jackblue · Answer

Ok, I will wait under your window in the middle of night and read poetry to you, but you have to promise not to call the cops on me for being a freak.

strateguy632 · Answer

that would freak most women out. even less stuff than romeo makes girls panic. have you read questions here!

msc545 · Answer

Because unless the girl likes you a lot and is attracted to you, you are likely to get arrested and convicted of stalking which can basically ruin your life. Why is it that women expect men to take chances and yet they never do?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

For the same reason that girls don't act like Juliet. Guys and girls are real people, not fictional characters.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Cause guys would get called weirdos, creeps, and Simps for trying that type of pursuit of a woman..

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Cause women ain't worth persuing nowadays, give me a Juliet and I'll go Romeo without a doubt.

BCA6010 · Answer

... because that's an overly dramatic play written in the 1400s, and killing yourself for young love is stupid.

MysticDevice · Answer

Well, because these days, guys who do that are called creepy stalkers and end up with restraining orders or in jail. Or dead. Romeo and Juliet ended up dead.

DizzyDesii · Answer

It would scare me if the guy tried to kill himself just to be with me or whatever. Like nah that ain't romantic 🤣

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

What I believe guys I know would say:  "This is not a fairy tale we live in."

Sharkstealth · Answer

Because nobody actually talks like that and those families are waring royalty. How many of us are royalty? "We'll never be royals. That kinda lucks just not for us. We crave a different kind of buzz."

jshm2 · Answer

Because life is not a fantasy like R&J portrays.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

We very much do when the woman brings enough to the table to warrant it.

jxoesneon · Answer

Well for starters, they were kids... Teenagers at the most...

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Girls don't want that, they want guys that beat them up.

RoseySarah · Answer

They do that way to much online! But won't go near you in person.

Bekaaaaaaaahhhh · Answer

Because it’s a fairytale and fairytales aren’t real

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Let's see: 1.) Laws against stalking. There are more reasons, but that's the main reason.

Gent207-2 · Answer

He murder her cousin and only knew her for less than a day

rosemilk · Answer

um. the true story of romeo and juliet, not sure why anyone would want that.

electromagnetic · Answer

Romeo died.. because he was obsessed with Juliet

Redstang88 · Answer

Because we quickly learn that nothing turns a girl off faster than showing her you’re interested

Fireguy17 · Answer

Life is too short for games, it is a tragic story, so I guess if you want to end up dead go find him.

Truthatanycost · Answer

It's better to be that way with your life purpose...

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Um, I don't know if you've actually read the play or not, but it didn't work out too well for them. (spoiler alert)

Unit1 · Answer

Because

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You mean leave someone they loved as they wouldn't have sex with them and pursue a child? That's a rather sick question

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Have you ever read the tale of it... It teaches people to take the easy way out... Yes nothing more romantic then poisoning myself because i think my lover is dead.

BrownSugar00 · Answer

Chivalry has died and gentlemen have gone extinct.

dreamstar72 · Answer

Because they like life as we all know how Romeo ended up in the end.

exitseven · Answer

Mist guysxi know would not kill themselves over a girl.

JacobJordan · Answer

They did and then women ruined it. Also Romeo and juliet commit double suicide

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Because we have nothing in common with Romeo di Caprio. Or he with us, that is :)

syncheart · Answer

It is fiction like a girl flick. Doesn't happen in real life.

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