Girls, how do you feel when your guy gets protective and even jealous?

[stratford]

Do you feel it is a way of him showing how much he cares for you, or do you find it controlling and annoying?

[Finchie40]

A girl should honestly be turned on by it , mainly because it’s a sign that he cares about her and wants to protect her , it’s only a bad thing , if a partner is extreme insecure and doesn’t trust anything you do , then that’s a red flag for sure , but if it’s minor insecurity then more than likely a partner has nothing to worry about , Everyone has some sort of insecurity , if someone says they don’t , they are Clearly talking out their ass. If you truly value your relationship and your partner , you should be respectful to one another instead of being rude and mean to them because they are coming off as a little insecure. Most people
Make this mistake by being rude to their partner when they are coming off asinsecure. Which sadly will make their partner become more insecure. Why people in relationships should always wear their partners’ shoes before making decisions, by putting yourself in their shoes and thinking how would you feel , if things were the other way around? , if you can’t do that for your partner , then don’t expect your partner to do that for you. The only way a relationship will survive is if you both partners’ choose to do this , for each other. It’s always best to prioritize your partner over anyone else , whether you agree or disagree with them , if you choose To make it all about yourself and not care about your partners’ feelings then that makes you a selfish person that only cares about yourself , and your relationship will more than likely not make it the long haul. Through my experiences with girls’ in relationships, the girls’ that got a little insecure and jealous with me, were the ones that liked me the most , that were worried about losing me , the girls’ that didn’t get insecure or jealous with me and the ones that got completely jealous and insecure with me , were the ones that were cheating and that I didn’t trust. So when a partner doesn’t get a little insecure over you , you are best to really reconsider that relationship because your partner is more than likely cheating on you or planning to cheat on you.

[NathanDavis]

I don't get stupid... if that's what you mean... and I know none of my ex-girlfriends would have liked it either... would be quite uncharacteristic of me, lol

[wolfcat87]

It's cute and even a turn on when it's mild. But, when a man takes it too far it's a major red flag.

Mild - He sees another man is interested and marks his territory on you by holding you, rubbing his scent on you, kissing you, taking you to bed and doing you properly. Communicates his insecurities with you in a healthy way.

Red Flag - Trying to fight someone, threatening you, dictating who you can talk to appropriately, what you can wear, where you can go, trying to imprison you in the house so no one else can see you, falsely accusing you, becoming paranoid, insulting you to manipulate you, etc.

I had an ex who did all of the red flag ones. I was open with him, let him look through my phone any time, let me him know what I was doing always. Never lied to him. He went 5 years back in my emails to try to find something to fight about, was very controlling, and constantly accused me of being a whore.

He once badgered me for days because I didn't fall into some elaborate setup he created to try to trick me into thinking he had a hacker friend hack some guy I met with and find a sex video of us. That was impossible since my clothes were on during the one hour we met and no sex ever happened. He refused to accept what I said happened during the meeting and kept falling into this elaborate delusion that I was lying and wanted to force me to say I lied. He lied that he talked to the other guy, he hadn't. No hacking ever happened. So, he basically lied to me non stop to try to get me to say I lied when I hadn't. Make it make sense...

I went for a walk around the neighborhood to cool off after one disagreement. He was furious that I didn't take him with, blew up my phone until I answered, was running around looking for me, and accused me of going for a 15 minute walk to have sex with someone. Needless to say, none of his behavior helped me cool off... He didn't last long.

[Rei13]

I think a little jealousy is healthy and it shows that he cares, I also like that he is protective over me. I feel safe when I’m around him, where I’m more on guard when I am by myself. I don’t go out of my way to make him feel jealous or put myself in harms way where he’d have to protect me. Really the only time he has gotten jealous was when other guys have flirted with me which is reasonable. I just shut it down and remove myself from the situation in those scenarios. He trusts me regardless. As far as protection goes I don’t always look down and he has saved me from stepping on a snake twice when we were on vacation (not used to have to watch for them), really I’m glad he is the way he is or I would’ve got bit

[KrakenAttackin]

@Rei13 Great answer. Men have a natural instinct to protect the women they love and we feel useful doing so. Jealousy is a part of protection and protecting territory.

The keys is that she NOT deliberately elicit jealousy to manipulate him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

As for him being protective, he doesn’t have to. I’ll never put him in a situation to have to protect me.

If I meet someone aggressive when I am alone, You can let me speak to any aggressive men and they’ll turn into puppies. I can more easily solve that than he can solve it.

So he doesn’t have to fight for me. I will never put him in danger.

As for him being jealous, I find it a little cute, I will try to reassure him and make him feel more wanted and loved though, so he doesn’t feel any of these negative emotions and is sure that I love him too.

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. Wrong. There are threats EVERYWHERE and the world is draped in camouflage. Trust your man's protective instincts, whether the threat is from a person, a bad driver, a "guy friend", or myriad other threats.

[Altheavas]

I like it, I get childish a little, and it turns me on. Just don’t over do it!

[stratford]

Does it turn you on to the point of having a wet kitty?

[Altheavas]

Yup!

[Sirenboobzilla]

My boyfriend is not a jealous man. And I think I've made that easy for him by always being open with communication ; I tell him EVERYTHING. That said, the few and far between times he does get jealous, I'm always in a bit of shock. He has to feel a huge encroachment on me.

[DizzyDesii]

As long as its more territorial/jealous than controlling, he shall be rewarded for such behavior

[IslaTheWitch]

In general, I can take care of myself... so I would like him to treat me as an independent and adult person. I can ask for help if I need it.

[menina]

I had men standing up for me, but they were not my boyfriends. Being protective is good, but there must be a limit. As for jealousy, that's not something that I appreciate.

So yes, I find it controlling and annoying.

[atiquahbby]

It depends on the level. Some jealously is normal, but being over the top and controlling isn't As a general rule, I expect a man to be protective and jealous at around the same level I am protective and jealous over him

[kinkynicci]

It's a total turn off for me. Even if I flirt and/or tease. If I'm coming home to you then let it be.

[Anonymous]

I really like it when a man is jealous of other men especially if they are straight. Protective as in not being comfortable with me riding the bus alone and being alone walking home at night. But I don't understand when a man gets jealous of other female friends. That doesn't make much sense to me and it's totally not masculine to me.

[AutumnSerenity]

A small act of protection is okay every now and then but I’d be concerned if it’s often or too excessive. If it’s a reasonable reaction, I’d think it’s adorable.

[Hawkes_Lady]

I feel loved and protected if my guy gets protective and a little jealous.

[mandyfire98]

My guy doesn't get jealous at all. He's way too naturally confident.

[myacaii]

I find this endearing if it’s only done on reasonable circumstances

[Tharithi]

It’s extremely masculine

[stratford]

Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

[Tharithi]

Possessiveness is good. Jealousy makes u a wuss

[stratford]

I like how you've put that. Makes sense.

[Tharithi]

Possessiveness is beating the guy who likes your girlfriend. Jealousy is anger because she has more options

[abbyjgriffin98]

A little is normal. When they threaten to fight someone out of jealousy, it is annoying and irrational.

[Amara_09]

I hate dogs that get aggressive….. it’s becomes a problem if you don’t get it taken cared of

[Ms_Facesitter]

Protective is fine, jealous is a bit on the edge, because he doesn't have to be jealous. I love him, he has no reason to be afraid.

[sheikalana]

I do feel that is a way of him showing how much he cares for me I just do not like when it turns into an argument.

[Lowiu]

Protective a little is good jealous is not

[lizziemcquire]

I find it sexy but my boyfriend doesn’t get jealous so he claims. I don't know he’s cool with me talking to my ex and having male friends. I think it’s cause he doesn’t care about me

[RingOfFire]

"I think it’s cause he doesn’t care about me"

😂

[On_cloud_wine]

@RingOfFire lol……