How do guys act when they're jealous of someone (relationship based)?

[AlielxAsil]

So I have a boyfriend and well we're cool and all though we don't believe in sex and all those other trash.
Well he seems perfect for me and all but whenever I start admiring other guys and joking around about how cute they are,
He starts an argument (not about them) but he gets salty..
He's really good at hiding his jealousy so I just want to know how guys act when they're jealous.

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by Guys I don't flirt around I meant a boyband and I've liked them for a really long time way before I met him
So he starts judging them and insulting them and I'm like hey I don't say that about your football and told him this argument is immature so he gets pissed and I'm just wondering if it's out if jealousy or he just felt like being a jerk

[AynonOMouse]

Would you enjoy it if he pointed out female bands or actresses that he likes or tells you what is so good about them? Maybe rub it in because they are better than you?
That is basically what you are doing to him.
Purposely pointing things like that out to an SO is just mean and is done by people that aren't mature enough for a lasting relationship.

[AlielxAsil]

I never rubbed it in his face get that
What I simply said was that the argument was immature and WOnDeReD if he was jealous

[AynonOMouse]

Just don't point out things like that, even if you are thinking it. Then everything would be fine. What you say must matter to him, otherwise it wouldn't have affected him so much.

[JeremyN]

Come on. If it would be someone you knew/had come across, that'd be a different story. My girlfriend still jokes about those people tho, sometimes. And so do I 😆 we trust each other, and don't give much of a shit.
But being jealous of a boyband?
Break up with him. Break up.

[AlielxAsil]

thanks bro. But honestly it's our firsts so I'm just thinking maybe he felt insecure but we resolved things
Besides I think he later on found out he was being immature

[corlreef]

my ex-guy would just go quiet or say "mhm" and act hurt/uninterested. it was annoying bc i would always be joking whenever i said something ab another guy being attractive. and it was always an actor or someone famous i was talking about, not like it was someone he knew

[AlielxAsil]

finally someone who Sees my point
It's annoying and like why would you get annoyed by that 😕

[corlreef]

exactly!

[theflash675]

Corlreef if he would have talked about how hot some chick on instagram was would you care? Just curious

[corlreef]

@theflash675 u bring up a good point lol, i never thought about that bc he never did it. oops.

[neidabakedd]

Why would you even joke around like that. That is not funny. Do it with your friends not with your man. If he's being salty there you go he's jealous. If he's not reacting you probably lost him already

[AlielxAsil]

I don't flirt no
I meant like admire a celebrity and besides its my first relationship so I just want to know

[neidabakedd]

Ooooooo okay it's like a celebrity well he shouldn't trip for shit bc what are the chances you gonna get with a celebrity lol that would be silly of him. I thought you meant like if you saw a dude walking by at the mall or something. To me when there jealous they usually start controlling me which is a big fail never let it get to that or he acts macho like he don't give a fuck

[AlielxAsil]

lol I know right at first he joked about it but then he suddenly became salty and I'm like
Woow...
But hey If he starts getting all control freak and stuff I won't think twice

[neidabakedd]

Just promise yourself, like female to female we all go through that controlling boyfriend stage in life we see the hints but we alllllllllll ignore it bc we too deep already. Don't let it get to far girly. Best of luck 😙

[AlielxAsil]

lol thanks b
I will but I doubt he's like that and besides he's way too cute when he's angry 😂

[Desconhecida]

Why do you joke about other guys around your bf? This is a game you play to make him jeaulous... it actually have the opposite outcome

[Psychotic-Panda]

Just dont do it. My ex boyfriend would get really upset whenever I mentioned how attractive Ryan Reynolds was. So just stop doing it.

[AlielxAsil]

OK thanks

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I experienced the same stuff and I gotta tell you that your action is nonsense. Why do you even care about some other males looks? Your boyfriend might consider himself average and this might be the reason he gets salty but just leave it I would say. Even if you joke around, it can really hurt a man’s self esteem. I don’t even get why almost all women fall for fictional characters or actors.

[pookybear123]

I’ve noticed when my partner sees a male stereotypically sexy on Tv he jokingly says “I bet you think he is sexy don’t you” to me. I know he is feeling insecure but can’t just come out and say it so I make sure he feels and knows how gorgeous he is to me. I wouldn’t make him feel shit even if I do quite fancy the bloke on tv.

[macdaddy36]

If your dating this guy then talking about other guys right in front of him thats just rude and selfish so yeah i bet he acts jealous or angry

[AlielxAsil]

well it's not other guys I don't flirt around I know that'll get him jealous but the problem here is that we had an argument (which he started) over a boyband I had loved for a very long time before I knew him but he began judging it and I said he was just being immature and I don't talk bad about football so Why are you doing that.
And he got pissed so that's why I wanted to know if he's jealous

[macdaddy36]

Okay well for younger guys you talking about a guy right in front of you or a guy aross the country either way still gets them jelousy they just want your attention on them

[AlielxAsil]

Ahhh Ok

[deadrain3377]

Its a big turn off when you start talking about guys to you're boyfriend especially when you are calling them cute. Even if its a boy band guys get upset about that bs tbh

[Anonymous]

Their skin starts to turn green... and then HULK SMASH everything!

[AlielxAsil]

😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

💥🔫🐲🌪

[AlielxAsil]

this is actually really funny cuz I'm seeing the hulk instead of him 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Loool

[AlielxAsil]

at least you're being funny
Thanks b

[Opinion Owner]

I gotchu 👌🏻

[AlielxAsil]

thanks b
😘

[Malita55]

well you shouldn't be calling other guys attractive in front of your boyfriend, thats incredibly disrespectful. Yes, he's jealous

[AlielxAsil]

not other Guys
Just celebrity crushes I had for a really long time
And he started it by insulting them so I defended them and it wasn't by calling them cute but just stating the right to have my own opinions I don't think it's wrong

[Malita55]

Oh okay i got it

[jsixis]

If you aren't going to fuck your boyfriend, dont act like you want to fuck someone else. Thats how he sees it and its not cool. Its like making him be vegan while you look up the nearest mcdonalds

[ImSoSquishy]

it depends, but the two common things that are likely to happen is some guys would get angry and hit the other guy, and some guys will kind of rage or yell at the girl

[shickey17]

If you know he doesn’t like it then stop doing it. A man doesn’t want to know his girlfriend thinks all these dudes are hot. Talk about the band but not their looks

[Pizza_lover159]

When you are young you still care a lot of this things. But after an age you dont get jealous so easy because your bond is stronger. And by the way. All relationships are based on respect , love and sex.

[AlielxAsil]

wow thanks This is really Reasonable and deep
But hey thanks 😊

[Pizza_lover159]

Welcome. Now he thinks that if you think that other guys are attractive then it means he is not. But the truth is. That being in a relationship doesn't make you go bliend. Remember him you are with him because you like him and the way he treats you.

[AlielxAsil]

thanks and that's exactly what I told him.. I might admire them but I will choose you over any guy anyday

[ManFrom1982]

Yeah okay... But I would hate it if my wife told me she doesn't find me that physically attractive, but she really loves how I treat her.

Do you really not care if your guy finds many other women more attractive than you, but says "but hey, your trustworthy and reliable, so who cares that you're not as attractive. That's not why I'm with you"? Because that's how this kind of thing reads to men from their women. Be proud of us or get yourself a puppy.

[AlielxAsil]

@ManFrom1982 oh okay

[coopersatts]

He is jealous. Just Don't tell him how cite and attractive you find other guys. How would you feel if he staryed saying how hot other girls are.

[yahboisy]

Guys are really territorial when it comes to women; they may not show it until you start to mention other guys. It's like the other way round. If your boyfriend started taking to/about other girls you would get kind of salty wouldn't you?

[AlielxAsil]

Yea I would but the only difference is it's about a boyband that I really admire and he started the argument and then I just said he was being immature cuz hey who ends up with a celebrity and he got pissed so I was wondering if he was just jealous

[yahboisy]

I'm not gonna lie to you that does sound a bit immature. Tell him straight and try not to argue but be like, Hey it's only a boyband it's one of my interests just like I allow you to like what you like. Then after that leave it there and see what happens. B it you don't have to do that. That's just how I would approach the situation

[AlielxAsil]

but hey It's reasonable and thanks that's a great advice

[yahboisy]

No problem 👌

[kaskas19]

If you know it bothers him, don't do it.

[AlielxAsil]

never knew it's our first argument actually
So I wanted to know

[donnny2367764]

So no sex but salty? Lol... you are the mastermind behind the inevitable cuckold he will likely end up being

[AlielxAsil]

Woooow ..
Not everyone is interested in having sex..
But I don't think sex has anything to do with this

[donnny2367764]

Your hormones are not holy... but it appears you may not be heterosexual as you think you are... no sex is good for nuNs. Consider joining them

[AlielxAsil]

yeah they don't sound that bad at least it's better than sleeping around with guys who reason with their hormones instead of their brains

[theflash675]

You have an unrealistic view of what sex in general means. Where your parents just thinking of hormones when they planned to have you? Or what of Taoists? I understand the idea of having a sacred relationship but sex can also be sacred in its own right. It's the reason of why it's carried out that makes a difference

[AlielxAsil]

@theflash675 What You're saying now is different from what you said earlier
My parents were married and we're sure they wanted to stay together forever before they had me whereas your telling me to have sex with him to keep him happy..
I'm just stating that I don't like or entertain the idea of sex before marriage

[theflash675]

Somebody else told you that, I am a completely different guy and was responding to your comment on us guys and our hormones

[AlielxAsil]

sorry it was a mistake I guess I meant it for the other guy
Sorry

[donnny2367764]

other guy who? me?

[britpop]

It's a little insensitive tbh hun we all find certain people attractive but how would you feel if he started saying how hot other girls were ijs

[AlielxAsil]

I don't talk about guys
I mean like celebrity crushes like when he starts insulting them and stuff especially when he knows I like them
I don't think it's wrong to defend what I have an interest in but I don't flirt

[britpop]

That's fair enough hun sorry I misunderstood

[AlielxAsil]

haha it's OK

[BigDaddyLongDong20]

Who cares if you talk about other guys you think are cute? He doesn't own you lmao

[BeHappy1985]

Not sure when but there will come a day where he will leave you for someone else.

[RumEro]

I feel him pain , don't put him through it too much , he will just give up on you