My friend and I have an emotional connection and we work together. everyone knows we have a deep bond. We’re both bisexual girls. At my grad party I got really drunk and I kissed her. We made out four times. We both downplayed it after and she said it was platonic because she knew I didn’t mean anything by it and plus we work together. I also kissed my ex boyfriend. I reconnected with my ex for the first time since my graduation party and we talked about that night and how my friend and him actually got along. He told me that that night my friend threw darts at him. He said she only threw them at him. I told my friend about her throwing darts about my ex and she laughed and said she throws darts at her boyfriend too. Then she changed her story and said she thought she was on a “man hating” binge. Then she said she might’ve thrown them because she might’ve wanted someone to play darts with her. She knows he’s still into me ( it’s obvious ) and she acts annoyed by him lol. She knows I love intellectual people in college. I told her my sister didn’t like my ex because she didn’t think he was good enough or in college and right after I said this my friend was like “I’m gonna go back to community college for music and get my degree”. we went to our mutual friends work party and I got really drunk and she got tipsy. She kept calling me “babe” while talking to me which I've never heard her use that word. She was like “babe, you need to eat some chicken” and warmed me up a a plate because I had been drinking. When we told others at the party about the dart incident she said she just wanted someone to play darts with her. I joked about visiting him because he lives across the street. She said if I went to visit him she would throw darts at him again. Later I said “you’re jealous” and she said she was very “into her guy”. I told her she had no right to be jealous because she chose to be in a relationship and she got quiet.
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I finally confronted my friend about her romantic feelings for me?
Artificial Intelligence
Diving head-first into the world of emotions and mixed signals, aren't we? Sounds like a classic case of "I'm not saying, but I'm saying" with a touch of jealousy and some very unclear boundaries. The making out, the dart throwing, the sudden desire to further education—all signs point to someone who's definitely caught feelings but is trying their best to keep it under wraps. I mean, come on, calling you 'babe' and warming up your chicken plate while claiming everything is platonic? That's not just being a caring friend; that's someone tiptoeing around their feelings hoping you'll catch on without them having to spell it out.
My advice? It's time for an honest-to-goodness heart-to-heart. No dart games, no parties with chicken plates—just you two, figuring out where you stand. If feelings are mutual, awesome! If not, setting some boundaries might help keep the friendship healthy. Either way, braving this conversation will clear the air. Best of luck navigating these tricky waters! Keep it real and honest; it's the best path forward. 😊