I caught feelings for my friend. How should I go about things?

[Anonymous]

I knew this friend for 4 years. The feelings hit me kind of suddenly. He had confessed to me multiple times but because of an uncertainty on how to make a relationship work with him (due to our very different lifestyles) I never outright admitted how much I had grown to like him. All I admitted in the past was that we had a bond like no other, he made me feel understood, cared for and he promised to always be there for me and to my surprise he always was. He didn’t break his promise. I don’t trust people, I barely trust my own parents-yet I felt that I could trust him. And when I realized that I trusted him the feelings just kind of hit me like a ton of bricks. We ended up hanging out and we made out last night. It was intense, with hand holding and some very inappropriate touching-none of which I regretted. I actually still want more. And it scared me because instead of starting on proper terms we just started in the realm of sexual intimacy. Despite how things turned out that night, my feelings only grew stronger because he kept stopping to make sure I was comfortable and that he didn’t overstep into anything that I might think was too much. He knows I have been celibate for 5 years and he kept making sure I was okay and he recommended that we stopped before it turned into actually having sex because he knew I wasn’t ready. I like him so much, which is rare for me. In all the 25 years of my life I only loved one man before who broke my heart so bad I never even thought I could love anybody again. But suddenly I cared about somebody again and it scared me because of how we did things. I told him that we could stay friends and I would cherish that friendship for what it was, or if we felt comfortable getting into a relationship we could see how that played out later on, but that unless I could properly understand what we were doing we had to not kiss or touch each other anymore. I want to do so much more than that but I won’t risk getting my heart broken

[Summeroflove]

You definitely need to confess your feelings for him. You got a really good chance.

But you should really save sex until after marriage.

People telling you to hook up is the WORST POSSIBLE THING TO DO!!! That you will probably screw everything up. Both the friendship and a romantic relationship.

But you should try going on a official date as well as telling him all this stuff. You know that he likes you. He has already confessed his feelings and done his part. So now this is all on you.

He is probably not going to sit around and wait forever on you to either confess your feelings or reject him. He will probably eventually move on and you’ll be sitting there wondering. What happened…. Why is he with someone else?

[OlderAndWiser]

You've gotta take a chance
if you wanna find romance!

[CrazyGirl2]

Just take it at a rate that you are both comfortable. It seems like you are both on the same page as far as where this has gone/is going. So at least you didn't realize you love him, but you’ve never said anything and now you think it’s to late. Which is the usual story with things like this. But you need to realize that you are between 25 an 29, as long as you both consent, there is NO type of touching that is “inappropriate”. I think you guys have already begun your romance, just don’t pull back now with the “maybe we should slow down” line. It make guys think we are not really into him.
good luck, take your time, and enjoy he ride.

[SassyAussieAddy]

He sounds like a decent man who is respectful of you. Love is risky every time and it will never not be risky so whether it is now or ten years from now there is always the chance of getting hurt. So unless you plan to never be with anyone again eventually you will have to take a leap of faith. If you aren't willing to that is cool but it doesn't mean the feelings are going to go away. One thing that will make it more difficult is messing around with hot make out time and sexy touching.

You care for one another so either take the leap or let him go.

[sarahstar13]

I've only been in one relationship, and that is with my husband that I have been with for over 9 years. He was interesting in going right into dating, but I was never in a relationship, so I recommended started off as friends first and seeing where things went.

[Ryfyle]

Fuck. Well first off, learn to paragraph. Secondly, you seem to be in a spot where it needs to find its own rhythm. This can't slow down or cool off
Miss, you're in a unique spot. You're going to need to mend your heart before going any further. A guy like that doesn't sound like the one you should lose out on. Meditate on this and fix your wounded heart but your going to have to keep pace on this and make sure not to alienate your friend.

[Stevefiveo]

It sounds like you two are taking things slowly. I think the making out and touching was a good hint that you caught feelings for him. I think he will expect you tell him how you feel. See how he reacts and go from there. Good luck.

[Twalli]

To find true love you have to risk heartbreak. In a way, they're two sides to the same coin. You will get one or the other. If you want true love, you have to risk heartbreak. You can't get it any other way.

[wysiwyg2525]

Just ask him out. Once your break the friend zone there is no going back. good luck.

[Twalli]

And it generally leads to better relationships, because you passed the awkward stage of finding out if you like the same things.

[Anonymous]

Loving someone is ALWAYS a risk. Sometimes the risk is small sometimes it's big. But if you're waiting for a time when there's NO RISK you might as well just remain single forever, cause it ain't gonna happen.

Best of luck to ya. 🙂

[Dinosaursandanime65]

…… np, np, np. Okay so here’s what’s gonna happen. You going to walk straight up to him, put your hand on his shoulder and you Willa be like, “…. Hey~”.

[humanearth]

Just date the dude and move on

You're over thinking it

[Danny_dan92]

Exactly why there’s no such thing as a friendship with a heterosexual male and female

[Twalli]

Except for all the ones that are friendships. I am not attracted to most of my female friends (I'm actually only attracted to one). A good number of them are married.

[TJones96t]

if you want for more... tell in person... that's only greatest way... u will get accepted or not...

by telling they can think about it

[Anonymous]

Just hook up and see how it goes. Not sure what the heartbroken drama is for.

[Faith18letsgo]

I think risk it! Go on a date with him.

[FunkyMonkee]

You make it sound like a disease!!

[-Mad-]

Let him cut his finger to show loyalty.

[Anonymous]

Go naturally. That's it.

[Justagirl_lol]

You got this boo! Ask him out!!!

[panamared1]

tell him, give it a go

[LemiaOfThunder]

Test the waters

[Iron_Man]

Date him

[In_Trance]

Send him nudes