Why are older men in general so creepy and predatory?

[Anonymous]

I want to say it’s just the older men online but I’ve been harassed by bald older men in real life as well. I will be glad when I become an older woman so creepy/superficial men leave me the hell alone.

[Bricealan]

Well, I guess it's because you are so Simply Irresistible! I think some guy sang a song about you! You have my sympathy, since you must be so beautiful and and just irresistible, that even the 'bald, older men' men just cannot help themselves and are just drooling over the image they have of being with you!

With that said, since you are so Irresistible, you must also have equally irresistible young guys following you around! Yes/ No? Well, wait a minute! What is it about you that attracts the older bald men? Now I'm puzzled...

Let me think about this, and I'll get back to you as to handle your obviously puzzling problem with these guys!

[urgrandpa]

Well maybe have some self control and remember that your old asf and that younger women are not interested. Its okay to be attracted, not okay to be creepy and gross.

[Bricealan]

@urgrandpa This "girl' is obviously in love with herself, and certainly is so full of herself that she see this kind of stuff in her head. . Personally, I find her comments insulting for her to be so self indulgent.
I have NEVER seen any "old, Bald men' being creepy around or over a younger girl... that is just quite simply bullshit and any reasonable person knows that. And well you are 17 and fall into that category also. GROW UP.

[Punk_R0cker]

You clearly felt some kind of offense when reading this girls post (e. g your passive aggressive behavior). The fact that you felt offense insinuates that you have harassed young women before, and you know that.

I am 17 and I have experienced similar issues where men of a certain age criteria (usually mid thirties onwards) feel no shame in point blank staring at me in public; even when with their partner or children. I don’t wear clothing that would cause me to stand out and I think I look pretty average. Yet they still feel the necessity to stare.

You, Brice, probably don’t view these stares from men as creepy because they do not look at you the same way they look at me or any other vulnerable, teenage girl. As a girl, when we see a man staring lustfully; we know the likelihood of the man being able to overpower us (physically).

Its the power dynamic between a young woman or girl and a grown man that exemplifies the creepy-ness of the situation.

P. s - she probably described the older men as bald to highlight their age, because most men experience thinning of the hair and baldness at middle age (as I’m sure you have begun to too).

[Bricealan]

@Punk_R0cker Well, you are as full of yourself and bullshit as she is. How the hell would you make such a stupid, uninformed statement about me as you know nothing whatsoever about me or my character

'The fact that you felt offense insinuates that you have harassed young women before, and you know that".
Why would you make such an idiot statement about me in such a stupid context? You should be ashamed of yourself for saying such a stupid, insulting comment about someone you know nothing about.

[Bricealan]

@Punk_R0cker Well, you are as full of yourself and bullshit as she is. How the hell would you make such a stupid, uninformed statement about me as you know nothing whatsoever about me or my character

'The fact that you felt offense insinuates that you have harassed young women before, and you know that".
Why would you make such an idiot statement about me in such a stupid context? You should be ashamed of yourself for saying such a stupid, insulting comment about someone you know nothing about.

Since my comment was taken as a "Superb Comment" apparently others on the staff here feel the same way... You need to grow up and not feel the world revolves around you, and how attractive you see yourself to be.

[shrimpyshrimp]

You went from fake flattery to a full-blown tantrum in record time. If a general comment about creepy behavior gets you this rattled, maybe ask yourself why you feel so personally attacked. Harassment exists whether you’ve seen it or not — and as an older man, you're not the one being followed, leered at, or objectified. You're not the target, so of course you don’t get it. But just because you haven’t experienced something doesn’t mean it’s not happening. Every girl I know — including myself — has dealt with this repeatedly.

Let me tell you something clearly: when older men stare at younger girls, it’s not ‘flattery.’ It’s not some compliment we secretly enjoy. It’s uncomfortable, creepy, and reeks of desperation. No girl is sitting there thinking, ‘Wow, I must be so beautiful.’ We're thinking: Why is this grown man staring at me like that? It’s invasive, it’s gross, and it makes us feel unsafe. Creepy men don’t stare because a girl is uniquely stunning — they stare because she’s young. That’s it. And you wouldn’t know what that feels like because you’ve never had to be on the receiving end of it. So don’t speak on what you don’t understand."

And newsflash: calling a girl 'full of herself' for expressing discomfort or setting boundaries doesn’t make you the voice of reason — it makes you part of the reason those boundaries exist in the first place.

[Joshydavid25]

It's a mixture of them not being attractive to you, and being a bit too straight forward about how they see you.. Older people in general have less of a filter about them. I don't know if it's a product of a less sensitive time or if you start to become less self conscious with age.. But older men (and women ) don't usually hide their lust and therefore probably don't think too much about making people uncomfortable..

[Nikki1989]

They live with the delusion they can still score young hotties, or they are still somehow attractive to younger women.

[Anonymous]

In general? I don't think so, you just came across a bad group but not ok to generalize

[exitseven]

I don't know. Ask this guy.

[Sparkie460]

Hahaha

[Anonymous]

Because they’re older and creepy men who don’t keep with current times and social standards.
When women call men creepy or complain about men not taking hints or bring too aggressive, the younger men who are more respectful take the hint, and the old and creepy guys still don’t care. This is basically what’s happened on a societal scale.

[Anonymous]

Because you're not sexually attracted to them, and you consider any man you're not sexually attracted to who speaks with you to be creepy. George Clooney is an older man but if he spoke to you (he wouldn't!) you wouldn't consider him creepy because you'd be dying to suck his dick. But some random guy on the street? Creepy.

[urgrandpa]

In addition of often being physically deficient, per their biological age, older men tend to be misogynistic as well as 'heavy' flirts- u can sense their entitlement and their end intent from their first clumsy move. Even their stares are lecherous, not admiring, as younger men’s tend to be. Younger men (not all, but on average) r much savvier flirts — they r more subtle, playful, and respectful. And we didn't even start on their looks, lol…

[Opinion Owner]

@urgrandpa All very likely true. The same goes in the other direction, of course. Younger women in their 20s tend to have a much brighter, more positive energy than women in their 30s. Hence the reason that so many successful or desirable dues opt for them over their older counterparts.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

I dont know any man or women that would disagree with you on this take. Men don't even consider this to be socially, legally, morally, or ethically acceptable

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I suspect (or at least hope) it's a very small minority. Yet a small minority can cause a great deal of trouble. There's always that one odd predatory guy in a bar who targets the drunkest woman barely able to stand, for example. It might be only one guy so absent any ethical considerations in a bar full of people but he can cause a great deal of mayhem.

[Asker]

Yes, a lot of men do consider going after underage girls acceptable. Clearly guys do that’s why men do it ALL the time. Forget about the little girls feelings huh? I’m TIRED of it.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Look up the stats on jailed pedophiles, even men with nonconforming ethical compasses do not support that stance; it is a very very small percentage that would support it

[Tim2nice]

Some men. And how are you under age if you’re declaring your age group 18-24? If you are underage then change that and if you’re hit on by men you must report them to the police. And you might wanna leave this group because it’s for adults

[theREELZNEEZZ]

because you haven't run across one you're attracted to yet

[Asker]

I would still be turned off tbh. From what I’ve seen online and in person, an older man’s intentions with a younger woman is never pure or genuine. I’m not an incubator you get to use once you realize your life time is about to be up.

[Tim2nice]

Little is subjective. What age are you talking about?

[Asker]

Wow, so gross.

[Tim2nice]

What’s so gross about it?

[Tim2nice]

Be more specific. If you’re talking about underage girls then that should be reported to the police so those men don’t walk the streets. If you’re talking about 18 to early 20’s then you either ignore them or tell them to fck off

[Sparkie460]

All of us older men aren't like that. There are men out there that respect women of all ages.

[Anonymous]

I just learned to ignore it or avoid it but it is constant from around age 12. But it was never triggering. What does it trigger?

[Zestyassmf1997]

They probably grew up with different social norms. That’s my best theory.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure whether these "Why are men.." questions are even genuine anymore

[Anonymous]

Because some men are creeps, perverts , pigs. Etc...

But not all men are like that...

[Asker]

It’s not some, millions of boys and girls are sexually harassed by men each year

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah well in NOT one of those losers

[mert11345678]

What age girls are you talking about

[Anonymous]

Wow.. you sound so full of yourself you entitled princess..

[BarryLiverstone]

Because their parents are failing to protect them.

[Dargil]

Do you mean underage girls?

[FunkyMonkee]

It's the way you look at them.

[jahaims]

Because bad people exist obviously

[OddBeMe]

Probably just the old men you keep running into.

[VeryBadMan]

What age are you talking about

[Danny_dan92]

Because we are dogs.

[Anonymous]

Because mature men are more secure

[Keith469]

We are?