Would a friends with benefits (man) get distant if he develops feelings?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been sleeping with this guy for about a year. Sometimes I think he likes me based off things he asks/says. He’ll ask sometimes if I’m seeing anyone else or get mad if he knows I’m talking to someone, or bring up the fact my phone keeps going off. We would “hangout” like 3 nights a week and recently he’s been distant. We cuddle and talk when we hangout too but we don’t text unless we’re making arrangements to hangout. We’ve both said before we don’t like eachother like that, so is it he doesn’t want me to be with anyone else or does he have feelings? He’s so confusing

[WindAtMyBack]

It sounds like he may have feelings. Although friends with benefits is something I can't relate to so it's hard to put myself in anyone's mindset.

Sit down and talk it out calmly. It's just talk, so talk like mature adults and work it out. Lay it all on the table.

[PonyCar]

Males are dominating by nature. You're giving him something he wants (for free) and he doesn't want anything to get in the way of that.

Either way, (if you're going to be in a friends with benefits deal w/a man) sounds like you should trade him in for a different model. Possessive/controlling behavior like that is a red flag (especially considering you're not even in a formal relationship with him).

[spartan55]

It's not confusing at all, you are making it that way. He doesn't want any other dudes moving in on his free 🥧 pie. This DOES NOT mean he has feelings for you. If he wanted something more serious with you then you would be in it already.

[Avicenna]

I think he'd be more likely to want more than just sex

[Nikki1989]

Depends on his maturity level.

[Poxyname]

I would agree with that. I think it’s one off those things a lot of people think will be easy , no strings fun but can’t always handle it maturely