What makes a man blow hot and cold?

[Anonymous]

Like, you’re friends and one minute he’s all affectionate; the next he’s denying having flirted with you, then talking a lot, then making excuses not to go out, like a fear of intimacy, not being sure what they want, or there being no point in dating? Wasn’t it interesting that after you’re losing thirteen kilos, the same guy returned with an entirely different story, about how interested he’s always been in you? When you’ve become almost as attractive as he has but didn’t start off that way?

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Do men get embarrassed about/ grossed out by fat, plain women? Was that what caused the ‘fear of intimacy?’ I’m not complaining, just thinking out loud. In writing.

[Anonymous]

"Wasn’t it interesting that after you’re losing thirteen kilos, the same guy returned with an entirely different story, about how interested he’s always been in you? When you’ve become almost as attractive as he has but didn’t start off that way?"

There is nothing wrong with a guy not being attracted to a fat girl. Would you prefer that he still not be attracted to you?

[Asker]

I don’t really know.. I don’t know how to feel about it. I’m inclined to think that while it’s fine, if he didn’t appreciate me the multiple times that I asked him out, then he doesn’t deserve me now, as a beautiful woman.

[Juxtapose]

I really don't like disingenuous people but I can definitely see someone changing their perception when you lose weight. I like chubby women but when it starts getting to double chin territory I'm tapping out man.

[smne35]

Sounds like he don't know what he wants, can't decide who he is or why he's even alive, either that or he has lots on his mind, the flip flopping from good highs Spirit to dinner let me alone mood ok he may be on drugs lol, serious as far as I big women when a dust is horney a watermelon is a sexy thing, you find that at men age they tend to look inside of a woman that just her looks, as they mature they seek a closer connection rather than bam bam bam see ya later, belch as they head out the door, to do what ever immature boys do goof off

[smne35]

I hope this was able to help you understand young guys. By the time later mid-20s they kind of got it going on what they want to do but as they mature it's slowly creeps in their mind and into their lives. What it is they want. I like to ask you a question. What do you want from this life?

[abc3643]

1. He's gay.
2. He blows the other guy in a sauna, thus "blowing hot".
3. He blows the other guy outside during winter, like right after a polar bear plunge, thus "blowing cold".

[Asker]

Funny lol

[Asker]

Seriously though, do you think my weight loss had a lot to do with his sudden lack of ‘fear of intimacy?’

[abc3643]

That's hard to say, but I don't think so. Guys do naturally change too; I assume he's in his mid-to-late-30s and changes do start to happen in that age area.

[SotiCoto]

If he is eating high temperature food, he will blow hot. If he is eating something like ice cream, he will blow cold.

[undertaker007]

Everyone has preferences, next from your story sounds like he’s manipulating you just imagine if you were married. Focus on yourself, change because you want to change.

[Anonymous]

They play head and heart games in not wanting to get in any relationship. No matter who is fat or not. Play hard to get.

[Aaannnonnnn]

I believe that when you started loosing weight in his mind you became more attractive and probably other people will notice you so he comes back just because he doesn't want anyone else to have you.

[Anonymous]

Actually I liked when the woman weighs more just as long as she isn't fat or obese

[Asker]

Oh, but I was fat. I still weigh more, now I’m just twenty kilos overweight instead of thirty.

[Asker]

You surprised me. I’d have figured looking like well, you; and having a charismatic personality, that you’d like the Anna Kournikovas of the world.

[Opinion Owner]

You'd be surprised those type of women have nothing to offer besides a fake pair of tits. They can't cook they can't sing other then crappy lip singing they have no skills or talents. They think holding their fake tits up and bouncing them all over the place for the world to see is talent. They have overblown egos from dumb simps constantly kissing their ass when they're to blind to see the broad has nothing to offer the guy except for a used up smelly hole between her legs and overpriced plastic shoved in her chest

[Asker]

Well, I never thought of it that way. I’m sure they’re not all, as bad as that. But you’re saying, you went through all those types in your youth and then realised that the women on your level, looks wise, often lacked substance?

[Asker]

I found that with lots of handsome men, too. Not all, but many. I went through all of those when I was younger and slimmer.

[Opinion Owner]

It wasn't in my youth it was in the last few years

[whistlingwh0res]

He is just trying to hook up with multiple women so he is interested in one person and another after and come back and go after repeat

[Katebfun]

That's exactly 💯

[jimmy2]

He the problem with today's man
60 years ago dad told Mom bye and never came back. That left mom working 2 jobs or more just to make it.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Ew why would you let him come back

[Asker]

I won’t. He tried to come back, but I won’t allow it.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Good! No matter what you look like if he didn’t respect you when he met you and you were respectful to him he will never truly value you.

[Malwi93]

he is a manipulative asshole, ditch him

[Anonymous]

Bi Polar would be one reason why that happens.

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you