Does he like me (HIGH SCHOOL LOVE)?

[Anonymous]

Hey, I'm in grade 11, and my intuition has been telling me that this guy has been liking me since grade 10. Everytime he came in through our class' door, he looked at me. We never talked in grade 10 but recently, we got closer in Bio. I think I would consider us as being friends right now, since we say hi to eachother in the hallways and we text eachother from time to time on homework help. We are always in a group during Bio projects and he actually listens to me, even if his friends goof around beside him.
I will call my crush "A".

Once, I complimented A's shirt, and he wore it three days in a row, and he's usually the typa guy who doesn't wear the same shirts twice in a row. Maybe his laundry machine broke, maybe not, I don't know. But, the way I catch him staring/looking at me when I look at him from across the class, and just the way he leans over my desk from the back when he talks to me is lowkey cute.

Once, A and his friend walked up behind me in class and his friend asked him "Are you single?" pretty loudly and then the friend tapped me on my shoulder for some reason. My crush was shushing him and it was just weird.

All my other friends are encouraging me to confess my feelings to him because we look cute together. There was this one instance where this girl I knew had a crush on A in grade 10 as well but she originally believed for some random reason that A and I were talking a lot and she had to lose her feelings for him. I lowkey felt bad, considering that we had nothing going on between eachother in grade 10.

Although I do notice him looking at me A LOT, (same with my friends), I'm just not sure what to do. He might be leading me on, and I have lots of experience with douchebag guys who lead me on and reject me in the end. But, he doesn't seem to be the guy like that, cus he barely uses social media (unlike any other guy I've talked to), is in partial IB with me, nice, funny and very smart (good grades).

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I think about your situation with this guy A:

It definitely sounds like he's into you! The way he pays attention to you in class even when his friends are joking around, and how he's always near your desk talking seems really promising. And the fact that he wore the same shirt a few days in a row after you complimented it? Come on, that's totally something a guy would do when he wants to impress a girl.

I wouldn't read too much into that one weird moment with his friend asking if he's single - guys can be so awkward sometimes, he was probably just embarrassed! But it does seem like his friend was trying to set something up between you two.

All the staring and looking is a really good sign too. Guys don't usually do that unless they think a girl is cute. And it's awesome that your friends see the chemistry between you guys too.

I say go for it and tell him how you feel! Guys love it when girls make the first move. The worst thing he can say is no, and it doesn't seem like he'd be a jerk about rejecting you if he wasn't interested. But based on all these signs, I bet he really likes you back. You never know until you put yourself out there.

Don't let past experiences with other douchebags make you miss out on something good. This A guy seems really nice and like he genuinely cares. You'll always regret it if you don't find out how he really feels. Go for it! Let me know how it goes if you decide to tell him. I'm rooting for you guys!

[Asker]

Alright thank you for the advice :) Ill let you know how it goes

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome! Fingers crossed it goes well. And don't stress too much, just be yourself. You guys already get along great as friends so I'm sure if he likes you back it'll be super cute and natural. Good luck girl, hope he sweeps you off your feet! 😉

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

How about just invite him to hang out some time after school? You can even leave the ball in his court to decide when and where. Then you can find out more information without playing this, "he likes me, he likes me not" game which sounds maddening to me.

Don't need some bold confession that risks an awkward rejection. Just an invitation to spend more time together outside of school. That's generally a superior strategy anyway because say he likes you a little bit, but not that much yet, and has the potential to absolutely fall in love with you if you spent more time together. You might scare him away with a confession but he might entertain a casual invitation to hang out more after school and get to know you better that way.

[Asker]

That's a good idea, I do call him sometimes for homework help. I've never personally hung out with a boy one on one, so I feel like it would be very awkward.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That's all first dates for you. 😅 But you'll figure it out. I don't know what young people do these days but it might be nice to do a physical activity together like ice skating or roller skating if people still do it. It can help to do a physical activity like that together if you're both shy without feeling like you need to talk the whole time. You can slowly open up to each other having fun and laughs.

[Asker]

Oh that's so cute, I've always dreamed of first ice skate dates lol

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Maybe you can propose that as you talk to him. But if you want a very safe start, I think you can just say something like, "Maybe we can hang out some time after school." Easy-peasy. Even the worst-case scenario with a casual offer like that can't be so awkward or bad.

[Asker]

That's cool. I'll try that thank you!

[butterly248]

Aww! I miss being a teen so much lol. But yeah he definitely likes you. Best of luck ❤️

[butterly248]

Also I agree with @Oliverlogan263

[Huntingnfishin]

Sounds like he's shy. You could try and make it a little more obvious for him?

[Asker]

That is an option, but even more shyer than him 😬... The compliment I gave him took me a great deal of courage lol

[Huntingnfishin]

That's adorable! Sooner or later he'll get the hint if you keep making it easy for him