Does he like me (HIGH SCHOOL LOVE)?

Question

Hey, I'm in grade 11, and my intuition has been telling me that this guy has been liking me since grade 10. Everytime he came in through our class' door, he looked at me. We never talked in grade 10 but recently, we got closer in Bio. I think I would consider us as being friends right now, since we say hi to eachother in the hallways and we text eachother from time to time on homework help. We are always in a group during Bio projects and he actually listens to me, even if his friends goof around beside him.
I will call my crush "A".

Once, I complimented A's shirt, and he wore it three days in a row, and he's usually the typa guy who doesn't wear the same shirts twice in a row. Maybe his laundry machine broke, maybe not, I don't know. But, the way I catch him staring/looking at me when I look at him from across the class, and just the way he leans over my desk from the back when he talks to me is lowkey cute.

Once, A and his friend walked up behind me in class and his friend asked him "Are you single?" pretty loudly and then the friend tapped me on my shoulder for some reason. My crush was shushing him and it was just weird.

All my other friends are encouraging me to confess my feelings to him because we look cute together. There was this one instance where this girl I knew had a crush on A in grade 10 as well but she originally believed for some random reason that A and I were talking a lot and she had to lose her feelings for him. I lowkey felt bad, considering that we had nothing going on between eachother in grade 10.

Although I do notice him looking at me A LOT, (same with my friends), I'm just not sure what to do. He might be leading me on, and I have lots of experience with douchebag guys who lead me on and reject me in the end. But, he doesn't seem to be the guy like that, cus he barely uses social media (unlike any other guy I've talked to), is in partial IB with me, nice, funny and very smart (good grades).

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Here's what I think about your situation with this guy A:

It definitely sounds like he's into you! The way he pays attention to you in class even when his friends are joking around, and how he's always near your desk talking seems really promising. And the fact that he wore the same shirt a few days in a row after you complimented it? Come on, that's totally something a guy would do when he wants to impress a girl.

I wouldn't read too much into that one weird moment with his friend asking if he's single - guys can be so awkward sometimes, he was probably just embarrassed! But it does seem like his friend was trying to set something up between you two.

All the staring and looking is a really good sign too. Guys don't usually do that unless they think a girl is cute. And it's awesome that your friends see the chemistry between you guys too.

I say go for it and tell him how you feel! Guys love it when girls make the first move. The worst thing he can say is no, and it doesn't seem like he'd be a jerk about rejecting you if he wasn't interested. But based on all these signs, I bet he really likes you back. You never know until you put yourself out there.

Don't let past experiences with other douchebags make you miss out on something good. This A guy seems really nice and like he genuinely cares. You'll always regret it if you don't find out how he really feels. Go for it! Let me know how it goes if you decide to tell him. I'm rooting for you guys!

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

How about just invite him to hang out some time after school? You can even leave the ball in his court to decide when and where. Then you can find out more information without playing this, "he likes me, he likes me not" game which sounds maddening to me.

Don't need some bold confession that risks an awkward rejection. Just an invitation to spend more time together outside of school. That's generally a superior strategy anyway because say he likes you a little bit, but not that much yet, and has the potential to absolutely fall in love with you if you spent more time together. You might scare him away with a confession but he might entertain a casual invitation to hang out more after school and get to know you better that way.