Why do men push women's buttons?

[Anonymous]

Why do men push women's buttons?

[lightbulb27]

that be a personality issue and emotional issue and maybe hormonal.

They are trying to get a result from her.

The motivation for that result may not be in her best interest. Some personalities, will intentionally hurt others, for purpose of control.

Some guys, players as example, will work to lower the woman, so they can take advantage of her physically.

Some may not be consciously aware of what they are doing and coming out of some errant energy from their own wounded state, like spite.

There are various emotional energies that are not love. If you detect something is wrong... it's wrong.

I'm sure there are others.

[Asker]

Thanks so much for that! Your answer was well rounded and shows that you have seen all this over the years and you have stated all the concerns I had in my mind. Thank you. I appreciate it!

[lightbulb27]

Welcome..., and I was one of them. Learning to know and love thyself, that is of utmost importance.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

A lot of men tend to push everyone's buttons, especially people they care about. If you look at a bunch of young guys, you might be shocked at how brutally they tease each other and insulting each other left and right.

I used to wonder why so many of us do this and I think it's a ritual designed to prepare each other for the harsh nature of the real world. By getting used to being teased and insulted by our closest allies, we can avoid going to war over such trivial things with our potential enemies. We mutually fortify each other's resilience that way.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

So I think it's a pacifistic strategy intended to promote world peace by brutally insulting each other and constantly pushing and prodding at each other's buttons. If a person isn't used to being insulted by their friends, they might react to an insult from a stranger with violence. So we train each other to get used to it with what might be harsh button-pushing banter, but ultimately with the goal of world peace as I see it.

[Asker]

I suck at pushing buttons and don't know hoe to! Would love to learn how to... I know its sad!

[Asker]

Do they push buttons with people they only care about?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm not good at it either coming originally from Japan. We don't generally use very sarcastic remarks or insults besides ones that are very straightforward like, "Baka! [idiot]". I think Katie Hopkins is so amazing though. She's such an asshole but she can both take it and dish it out having had some military background where she got used to such harsh banter:
https://youtu.be/w18wzHbz9v4

[Asker]

wow, she can dish it alright! Thanks for making the effort to share this link.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Cheers! I'm not sure if I recommend following her example. 😅 But she does show us how to push people's buttons if we want to do that. Mostly I try to make myself as resilient as I can to having my own buttons pushed.

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply, it was helpful. Definitely need to have a level of intelligence to push buttons as well. Would you be able to answer a question i asked, which i can't post, but maybe you could search - "Was he making a statement?" I'd really appreciate it.

[Sameone]

She mean button making them silence

[Asker]

@Sameone No - Its mind games and words used to give another a sting. Things like that. Its not always to be silenced. But they also seek their answers through that. Why can't they be direct instead?

[naartjie]

Only one guy has ever gotten under my skin… pushed my buttons and knew exactly how to. Drove me insane. I didn’t know why he did it. He recently told me how loves my reactions to when he gets to me…

[Asker]

I feel you! I'm trying my best to be neutral and not show him anything. He old me he'll hanging out with someone and more... later saying its a guy. I just said something calmly and didn't say anything more. Why do they do that?

[Asker]

I also don't know what to say back & something to get a score on him as well!!

[A_Bell]

My husband teases me all the time and I tease him back. It's our love language and we don't do it to hurt, just to play. When we step across a line, we immediately apologize.

[Asker]

Thanks, that's nice to hear & i like the positivity. Sometimes its difficult for me to figure out if they being playful in a fun way or if they are trying to be sarcastic in a not so fun way.

[Billlewis]

Women push mens' buttons, and manipulate them emotionally much more than men do this to women, in my opinion, and what's so crazy about it is that we know they're doing it, and we often (usually... lol) continue let them do it. I mean, what other choice do we have?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

They generally want a woman, who submits at everything.

As soon as you show your mind, they are frightened.

Have you noticed all these guys here answering like scholars to the questions of women, as If they have some sort of better knowledge of life.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s so unattractive.

[sawno]

Personally I just do it because I enjoy sharing knowledge, its a "Post your opinion" site after all. Its my helpful side rather than my pride.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@sawno I have not noticed you acting like a scholar anywhere.

I am talking about the ones who like to criticize your opinions for the sake of you being woman and their desire to sound smarter than you.

[Joshydavid25]

I think most people here try to seem like scholars in some way.. 😂..

[DarkLegacy]

Women revel i doing that to men and then try and hide behind their gender to. I see most women doing this all the time, a long history of women doing it to their bfs in particular.

But seriously why do you modern women think you are entitled to get your own way all the time.

[Sameone]

If you mean a button to make you silent, yes, I love to press it

or if you mean a button located in. Your boobs (nipples) it's. makes me sexually excited. And horny

Or if you mean the button in your vagina, then this is for your pleasure and make you enjoy

If there is another button, I don't like to press it.

[boggboss]

Tends to be somthing both genders do for those doing it the only thing I could think is them enjoying the reaction

[Asker]

what satisfaction do they get from the reaction? As in are they getting a specific answer from our reaction? Do they do it to be mean? Or do they do it to people they care about?

[boggboss]

That wpuld depend on the person specific and why they specifically do it which I can't guess without knowing them

[Asker]

What buttons are you referring to?

[garykingg]

Cause we find it cute when you guys become emotional.

[Nikki1989]

Men are always clasping at straws, so they can't help it but push buttons. Most are clueless on how to treat a woman.

[ProbablyClueless]

Some people think watching others' reactions is funny. I never understood it, but I guess it's a maturity/immaturity thing.

[Asker]

I don't know about maturity. My father also uses it at times.

[ProbablyClueless]

age and maturity are two different things, my digital friend!

[Dargil]

Not going to be bitchy here. BOY! Does it go both ways!!

[Asker]

I'm clueless about pushing buttons and i'd like to do so, to those who do that to me, but I don't have the skill to (damn)

[IslaTheWitch]

both genders do the same to each other lol

it's a game

[bobalife]

Banter & a low key challenge is fun. But aggressively and disrespectful is no bueno.

[Joshydavid25]

That's a loaded and very general question.. I think women do more of the button pushing honestly since they can get away with it much more..

[TommyMountainFigure]

I've no idea, but I'll hazard a guess at because buttons are meant to be pushed?

[Still-alive]

Cause they’ve been told in the manosphere that that is how you build attraction to them in women is through antagonistic behavior. They think its a way of flirting.

[AviatorTom]

Same reason women push men's buttons... because they can.

[genericname85]

can you elaborate on what exactly you're talking about?

[Asker]

Mind games and words used to give another a sting. They can't ask or state things directly, but without stating their concern directly, they state things that emotionally hurt instead to get me to give the answer they require or want to get an idea of it.

[genericname85]

Men don't play mind games. Women do that by interpretation of things that never meant anything. Also men don't typically care to take someone's emotions into account when they try to get shit done, cause emotions don't help getting shit done.

[Anonymous]

depends , toxic men do it most often and then say "it's a joke" , but some really do it for teasing and fun , so u just have to know how to differentiate

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because there are no levers, dials, or switches.

[admles]

It's something we picked up from women, because let's face it, it's generally something women do.

[LiamJHayden]

The question is far too vague. Which buttons and in which way?

[ab2shifty]

I don’t.. but with my female friends we push each others buttons. It’s a friend thing to get each other’s reactions 🤣

[Anonymous]

Same reason women push men's buttons.. To find your answer one need only look in the mirror.

[Asker]

What happens when you don't get your answer by pushing buttons?

[DreamLife7]

Because he doesn't like you and you won't take a hint

[whistlingwh0res]

all American men are prostitutes. that's why

[Asker]

that's generalising yeah

[Finchie40]

Because women push ours as well

[Asker]

How do women push your buttons?

[Finchie40]

Cuz most females nag and complain constantly, they are never satisfied , Nothing is ever good enough , , they compare us to other men or her friends’ partners’ they always want something better than what they already have in front of them , she acts like she deserves to be treated like a Princess at all times , She acts like her vagina is some sacred ground that her partner has to earn and meet all of her expectations for her to give it to him. Men don’t think that way , maybe some do but a majority of Men don’t , Men and Women have different mindsets , Most men don’t need a lot of shit to be satisfied compared to a women’s list of shit to be satisfied. Our brains are wired differently. Her brain races with a 1000 things at once where guys’ brains don’t , , they did studies on it. Why there are so many jokes about trying to please a women compared to pleasing men. Most females are very emotional compared to men. If she doesn’t get her way she pouts like a little child. Most females like to manipulate their men to get her way , she feels she has to control him and that he has to pretty much be her slave and to pamper her at all times. She doesn’t understand boundaries in a relationship, most females have selfish mindsets of her way or no way. She is weak and vulnerable to men that she feels has more status then her current partner , she will more than likely cheat on her partner if he doesn’t meet all of her expectations , Most females chase after men for money , most females need really expensive gifts to be satisfied where a guy just wants a girl that comes into his arms where she feels safe and protected by him , he wants intimacy and affection with her to feel closer to her but instead she just thinks he is thinking with his dick , she doesn’t look at sex like a guy looks at sex. I am not saying every guy and girl is this way but again a majority of them are. Why so much cheating and affairs occur between men and women. It mainly comes down to sex.

[Finchie40]

If a girl is not in the mood for sex she makes lame excuses and denies her partners’ wants completely , if a guy is not in the mood for sex , he will please her in other ways to show he values her and appreciates her and loves her. Most girls’ are way more selfish than guys are.

[Asker]

Thanks for your response & nice to hear a man's perspective as we don't always get to hear it always! Me personally being a woman, expect or desire a man to feel safe and protective with. But mostly to share mutual respect and appreciation towards each other. Because, without that respect, i don't understand on what i'm standing on.

So when buttons are pushed unnecessarily to hurt me emotionally to get a reaction of some sort, I feel i'm not being disrespected and when and if I give in to it, I'm afraid it'll become a bad habit from the other person to continue as I'm giving him what he is seeking in the triggering aspect.

[Finchie40]

One thing I learned from my experiences in relationships, for any relationship to survive and for love to grow between 2 people , you both have to choose each other , choose each other over everyone else in this world , it won’t always be perfect because none of us is perfect , one of the biggest relationship killers is selfishness , We all have selfishness inside of ourselves , if you can’t remove that selfishness for your partner don’t expect them to remove it for you , Your partner needs to be your top priority the same way they make you theirs , By doing that you have to understand you can’t always be right and your partner is always wrong, it’s ok for you to be wrong as well , we all have a choice in life , We can’t force someone to love us the same way we choose to love them , if they decide to backstabber you or betray you , that is their choice and they will suffer the consequences to their actions , the same thing goes for you as well. If you want to experience true love you have to understand you can’t always be right , and understand you ate no longer single , if you want to be single do not get into a relationship with anyone. We can only treat someone the same way we hope to be treated in return , Just because you don’t get
Your way doesn’t give you the right to run to the highway , You can choose to do that but you will never experience true love of you choose to walk away. Always wear your partners’ shoes when it comes to making decisions , what you don’t want your partner doing to you , needs to be the same rules for you as well, Not the other way around , You will never be happy or content with someone if you are constantly on your toes thinking they are betraying you behind your back , They can choose to betray you and think they are getting away with it but they are only lying to themselves. How do you tell someone you truly love them knowing you betrayed them? That isn’t Love that is lies , you are only lying to yourself and stringing your

[Finchie40]

Partner along for your own selfish benefit. Love only comes from the heart it doesn’t come from your expectations. We all come from different paths in life, we all experienced things differently , You didn’t get into a relationship to be single , if you did then there will be consequences to your own selfish actions. Learning to remove selfishness for your partner is not an easy thing to do , you have to choose to do it hoping they do the same for you , because every single one of us can easily be selfish. Love only grows when you choose each other. The best advice I can give. I can’t read anyone’s minds we all think differently in most cases. So your partner needs to be your choice the same way you want them to choose you , if they can’t choose you , walk away

[jshm2]

You'd rather they only suck on them nips?

[Asker]

I need to clarify 'Does pushing buttons' mean boobs to men?

[82lynx]

Just trying to crack the access code.

[Tim2nice]

Buttons are there to be pushed aren’t they?

[Asker]

But why do you'll like to do it? Do you push buttons only with certain people or anyone?

[Asker]

What buttons are you referring to?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think they just like to tease is why.

[Unit1]

Women have buttons? Where?

[Asker]

Its not a physical button lol. Just mind games and words used to give another a sting. Things like that.

[Unit1]

That is childish. I don't do that

[Asker]

That's good!! Good on you!

[Asker]

You tell me... ;)

[Unit1]

What?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women push men's buttons

[Asker]

what are those reasons?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

The same reasons why women push men's buttons.

[JayBones]

Because who cares what women think.

[Mediterraneansoul]

Women have buttons? 😳 like where? 😂

[Asker]

lol... yes we do! But its also in our will, whether we are strong enough to react or not hehe

[Mediterraneansoul]

I've been with many women. Well, they've been with me. But I have never seen any buttons. Where do they hide the buttons? 😯

[Asker]

Its not a physical button lol. Just mind games and words used to give another a sting. Things like that.

[Adamzinho]

Do you mean spank

[Asker]

What's spank?

[Adamzinho]

Just search on youtube or dm me

[Asker]

No I don't mean spank. Just mind games and words used to give another a sting. Things like that.

[noohair]

It is a two way street on this one.

[In_Trance]

For the same reason women push men's buttons

[Anonymous]

As far as what?

[Asker]

For all sorts of things.
Example
My brother - will try to trigger me for things that didn't go his way and get a reaction out of me, thinking that's satisfying him

Other guys - trying to hint that they are going to hang out with a special friend and after hearing what i have to say, state that their friend is a guy.

Father - does and says things which pushes my buttons to steer into a direction & feel controlled at that instance.

why do they behave in such a way?

[Opinion Owner]

Ahh that’s just them being cocky 🤷🏼‍♂️

[Asker]

Why do they wanna be cocky? I'm just trying to understand.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s hard to say honestly. It’s just the way they are sometimes 😏

[Asker]

Thanks. so maybe i'll ask about the guy who said he'd be hanging out with a special friend & later says his friend is a guy. What was he aiming to do?

[vicphilips]

What is women buttons?

[sirderpsalot123]

It's fun

[Asker]

What's the fun that your receiving from it?

[sirderpsalot123]

Their reaction

[Asker]

How does their reaction make you happy? Do you feel validated in some way or does it give you an ego boost?

[sirderpsalot123]

It's just funny and they have cute reactions. I know when to stop tho

[Asker]

So you find it cute to see their reactions. And good to know that you know when to stop.

[sirderpsalot123]

Yeah lol