Why wouldn’t a man want me to be attached to him after sex?

[Anonymous]

That’s the whole point right? I think it’s hurtful to hear that he’s scared I’ll be “crazier “ if we slept together…

a guy wouldn’t say that to someone he actually liked right? He’s not the only guy to say that to me.

[Anonymous]

Because he’s not interested in a relationship w you. Some women are strictly for sex, not for taking home to mom. You fit in that first category. But it makes me wonder why? There’s something about you that draws in these types of men. I don’t know how much of it has to do w your age. But there’s something going on that draws this type of men.

[Asker]

That’s not an issue… I dress suggestive, I have a lot of hurt and low self esteem… I’m emotionally unstable

But don’t pretend that Im lovable when you know I’m not… that’s when I have a problem… don’t pretend to love me

[Opinion Owner]

Well sadly a lot of men are going to pretend to love you to get what they want. May I ask why you have a low self esteem?

[Asker]

I don't know lots of issues in the past

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Well that doesn’t help. You should know what’s going on w him. Did you say something about financial stress

[Asker]

I don’t have financial stress

[Opinion Owner]

I know you don’t. We’re talking about him.

[Asker]

Not that I know of…. He’s a software engineer… I don’t think he has financial stress but he said he is stressed with his job

He’s not trying to share personal information with me

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you two been together?

[Asker]

2 weeks went on 1 date

[Opinion Owner]

Oh shit that isn’t even long enough for me to tell a girl things. Especially if you’re not even sure if this relationship will last. Even to this day I don’t say much about my feelings to my girl. We’ve been together for 15 years.

[Asker]

Yeah true

[Opinion Owner]

Have you actually been in a relationship? One that lasted a while?

[Asker]

No I have never

Only situationships… no man has liked me enough to be in one

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have any idea why you’re like that? Like what happened in your life?

[Asker]

Shit I don't know tbh

I just think I have mommy issues and I don’t think I’m pretty or smart

[Opinion Owner]

Why mommy issues?

[Asker]

I felt like my mom didn’t like me and she would say hurtful things.. I was always confused on if she loved me or not… she didn’t really spend any time with me

I stayed with my grandparents… I’m not complaining.. they were my real sense of comfort and emotional safety. Stability

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. So maybe abandonment issues? Don’t ever feel like you sabotage a relationship w a man if things seem good, or too good to be true?

[Asker]

Yes, I definitely do that lol

I struggle badly with having healthy relationships with men. Love literally triggers me

[Opinion Owner]

You ever thought about getting help w that? I’m sure you would like a healthy relationship yes?

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve been through a lot of therapist

But I’m a ho now. Lol I like the idea of being of a maneater. I just don’t think I’m one of those girls men fall in love with.

[Opinion Owner]

Really? You actually enjoy that?

[Asker]

I like attention and lust a lot more than love

I try not to think about it. No man wants a ho so there’s not much to worry about

I practice detachment

[Opinion Owner]

I see. I’m sorry things turned out that way for you.

[Asker]

It’s cool. It is what it is

✌️

[slatyb]

It's not the point for everyone. Anyway it's clear that you want something that he doesn't.

Also don't try to trade sex for love or commitment. You'll only be disappointed.

[Berweic]

He used you for sex. In his eyes, you are just a piece of meat (vagina). It's sad but true, honey.

[Anonymous]

Those men just want to hit it and quit it

[Asker]

Yeah, I’m not worthy of a relationship.

[jahaims]

Because they see you as a cum rag

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

seriously?

[Opinion Owner]

its not a good sign to say the least

[Asker]

Well, they don’t see me as worthy