Guys, when approaching women: what’s the difference between just being friendly and nice to being flirty with interest?

[Pinay_ako]

Please enlighten all women so we don’t get the wrong idea or get mixed signals.

[pickles77]

I don't know about other guys but when I am interested I just show it lol. Im very easy to read. If I’m just being friendly then you probly can’t tell but some guys do this even when they like you they just don’t show it.

[LunarEclipse433]

That is a very fine line. I would say it all has to do with the delivery and the mood of the person being spoken to.

[Pinay_ako]

Example

[LunarEclipse433]

If a guy was too pushy or forward or was thought to be excessively forward by the person he was talking to. Of if the person that is being talked to just was not in the mood for such interaction.

[LunarEclipse433]

Thank you for the MHO!! !

[blueonblack22]

It really depends on the man. Many guys lean on the side of playing it safe nowadays thanks to everything #metoo has done. This has in my opinion done more harm than good for both genders. It might come as relief to some women but also boring and/or confusing frustration to others.

My advice is to go with you gut. When you are not interested in the someone it’s a lot easier to think clearly. Much easier to be yourself because you are not worried about turning them off. Your brain chemicals aren’t interfering with your judgment. You can tell by his body language, tone of voice, etc if he’s interested or not.

The question is how to react if he is and you’re not. If he’s not being rude and/or aggressive then you have zero right to be nasty to him for approaching. You should also know if he made a mistake out of nervousness.

But if you do like the guy then you will likely overanalyze him. In those scenarios try to look at his approach how you would if you weren’t attracted to him. It’s tough and takes mental discipline. But you have a more clear lenses in that scenario.

[liggang]

I don't like flirting because women play too many games. I'd rather just pull her to the side and tell her I like her and want to go out with her or take her home with me. Being direct is much better.

I learned this from women. Because women would approach me and ask me out. So I just copied their method.

Their method is super simple. They would say "hey you're cute can I have your number?"

Anything other than that and you don't know what the man wants. Many men feel shame about approaching or even liking a girl.

We feel like we are shaming her with our desires. If I like her, she will feel like "ew, why am I liked by this kind of man?"

So men pussyfoot around and try to make sure a girl likes him before he makes any kind of move. Because men fear most for a woman to be offended by his liking her.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Mixed signals works on an approach because it leaves you wondering and makes you think about us more. I would only approach by being friendly because I know nothing about her so it's friendzone at first. Then I would either be more interested and maybe a little flirty or I would be less interested after our brief conversation and walk away.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm almost always just being friendly and nice even when I was single. If the conversation was really great though and we're clicking really well, that's when I ask her to hang out. But I just enjoy talking to people around me, men and women alike, and didn't have a game plan typically like I'm planning to ask this woman out. I'm just planning to talk to her and we'll see from there. Also I was cool if we just end up becoming friends.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I was always the ultimate improviser and go with the flow type. I don't plan my actions in advance very much. Same with dates. Like I didn't plan to kiss a woman on a date. I just went with the flow but if we were connecting very emotionally, and we already made a lot of gestures already like holding hands, and the timing feels right, then I kissed her. But it's not like I planned it. I go by feel, always, in these matters.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Also I'm maximally focused on reciprocal. So I wouldn't ask a woman out on a date if the interest didn't seem very mutual. So it's always a two-way thing, same with the kiss and everything else, not a one-way thing or something I planned.

[Joshydavid25]

I don't think a solid answer can be formed, because some guys seem friendly when approach when he might really just wanna take you out on a date.. Guus are usually more straightforward, but the more awkward ones might nervously compliment something on you if they want to flirt..

[Yannae]

I don't think my answer will help much, but the more input the better, right?

With every interaction we do with you, you Can ask yourself "Do my friends do that? Would a friend do that?" Not a bestfriend because they break barriers, but just A Friend.

Now that is out of the way. If I want to date you I'll say it. I'll invite you to go on a date with me. I'll use the word "date" I won't use hangout unless it's for friendship alone. Me and my SO we did stay friendly for a while, but I did let her know from the start that I was looking to date her. That way I would not have her confused, she knows my intentions, my goal. If she needs time, so be it. That's good, I need time too. If she's not interested she can let me know, if she is open to it she has to let me know. So we don't waste time.

The intent is the difference.

[Vermillion30]

I liked the Girl at the Local Grocery store. I moved my normally shopping time from 7:30, to 8:00 so we could have a moment or two to chat. I would pick her register when I could. Eye contact and Ask Questions about her.

Friends - I wouldn’t really have little inside jokes, but I would smile and say Hi. Check out and leave I wouldn’t pause much and talk. I would talk about small stuff but wouldn’t go into detail of interests or hobbies.

[kmg9150]

And hows that working out for you?

[Vermillion30]

@kmg9150 Not well, But just because someone’s not interested doesn’t mean they are a bad person.

[PreferNot2Say]

The difference is how you look at us as we approach you.

[Pinay_ako]

Ok explain further

[PreferNot2Say]

If you give us a face that shows you think you're better than us, we'll be friendly while fucking with you.

If you give a smile it shows you're interested and we will be flirty with you.

If you give the "fuck me now" look, that's a completely different ball game.

[dna10772]

when a guy is just friendly he won't give super imptnce for u , u'r just 1 among billions of star for him but when a guy is being nice or tries to flirt he'll tend to compliment u , will ask hypthetical ques , will always try to have a convo with u so if he like u - he'll revolve around u like a moon around earth

[TaureanBull81]

I actually don't bother approaching women anymore in my city because of the way they are due to the feminist movement here.

They want men to the approach them and to shoot their shot, however only to be rejected in a nasty way just to show that they control the BS power dynamic.

Well ladies, you got what you wanted. We're not approaching anymore which is frustrating the s**t out of you as we've all checked out.

[kmg9150]

Thats when you through the reversal, “oh, excuse me I was asking cause I’m new to the area and looking to meet new friends, I’m not attracted to you in that way.” And walk away. Bullseye on the fem ego.

[RavVid]

Initially I am going to be nice, friendly and humorous. Depending on the reaction I get, I will take it further or not.

[Night_Descends]

When I'm friendly, I don't compliment much but am still polite and nice with my behavior. The most subtle way I flirt with women is by complimenting their face, hair or body. :D

[kmg9150]

Not that subtle, most get that from simps on any given day. It doesn't show that you notice anything different as well, those are the same day in day out. Compliment something that changes everyday. Trust me. Also bro, the shirt off pic is cringe, sure you got body to show, but men are attracted to the outside, for women its the opposite. So unless you looking to excite some dudes, change the pic.

[spartan55]

If I don't know her I will definitely not be as forward. It's all about the overall vibe...

[BLP11520]

Flirting you are lingering and being more personal standing closer more eye contact. when you’re flirting for real, you should give off a vibe. If you’re just playing, the woman should pick up on that.

[dolemite58]

The raging hard on in his pants isn’t a dead give away? 😋🤣

[Pinay_ako]

So subtle lol

[dolemite58]

At least it’s not a mixed signal 😋

[AviatorTom]

Did it ever occur to you that we guys may want you to "get the wrong idea or get mixed signals" ... at least some of the time? To see what your reaction is?

[Pinay_ako]

Didn’t think of that

[MrDaveAPSI]

If we're approaching you, we're probably into you

[JonesT10Apr]

it can happen in a situation... when get feelings or love to become closer... thoughts will come like that

[Bklynbadboy12]

When I'm friendly that how I'll approach you and when I'm flirting trust me you'll know it

[Pinay_ako]

How does a woman know the difference?

[MatureSexyClassy]

Flirting gives off a dominant man feeling to it, like teasing you or saying that your taste in something shows why the two of us won't work out while the guy is smiling and acting very sure of himself. You sense his interest in you and he gets you laughing some and feeling girly. This is what a guy does if he knows what is he doing anyway and my only disagreement with many answers is I don't agree with being vague or giving mixed signals. Interest in you is interest in you and a confident guy doesn't worry about your rejection. He will probably just try again unless you have clearly said you are not interested in him.

[robocop666]

body language.

[Pinay_ako]

Care to explain more

[robocop666]

if they are highly interested in you they want more.

[MatureSexyClassy]

Body language such as staying close to you in proximity, touching you briefly but sweetly, looking you in the eyes (not staring but giving full attention), and facing you so that it's just you two having the conversation if there are other people nearby.

[robocop666]

@MatureSexyClassy do you study this stuff

[MatureSexyClassy]

@robocop666 Well I have benefited from the wisdom of others on this subject and a thousand others too, because I am one of those people that is interested to some degree in just about everything- seriously. But I have also LIVED it. I've learned to choose certain behaviors until they become more natural and they consistently convey the messages I am wanting them to give, so I have seen what works. It's not just talk, it's the reality of human instinct and what we all see and feel when we experience the opposite sex in a certain way. If you want more info, ask away.

[JayBones]

The eye contact and how you work your mouth

[Adamzinho]

When i am friendly or flirting i can't see something nice and keep silent 😋

[sing_in_the_shower]

I dont know how to flirt

[Subflics]

Yes its true. There is no difference

[Pinay_ako]

That’s kinda hard. How do you do approach a woman with interest?

[Subflics]

Engage in conversation

[Pinay_ako]

Don’t you also engage in conversation with a woman but friendly intention?

[PreferNot2Say]

No man ever engages with "friendly" intentions and women know that. It's a numbers game for men.

[MatureSexyClassy]

The topic can show a lot of the difference. Friendly conversation is just the facts of where you work, what area you live in, what you do for fun. Flirting dispenses with a lot of info talk and focusses more on making humorous personal statements about her and gets you both laughing and shows you are interested in her specifically and it is very fun and the guy creates a spark with this kind of personal focus and creative humorous comments about things you say. It's something that can be learned and requires confidence and not being afraid to be mildly challenging.

[eagle1951]

if i know them well

[Amur8711]

I don't have experience to answer this 😕