Guys, when approaching women: what’s the difference between just being friendly and nice to being flirty with interest?

[Pinay_ako]

Please enlighten all women so we don’t get the wrong idea or get mixed signals.

[pickles77]

I don't know about other guys but when I am interested I just show it lol. Im very easy to read. If I’m just being friendly then you probly can’t tell but some guys do this even when they like you they just don’t show it.

[LunarEclipse433]

That is a very fine line. I would say it all has to do with the delivery and the mood of the person being spoken to.

[Pinay_ako]

Example

[LunarEclipse433]

If a guy was too pushy or forward or was thought to be excessively forward by the person he was talking to. Of if the person that is being talked to just was not in the mood for such interaction.

[LunarEclipse433]

Thank you for the MHO!! !

[blueonblack22]

It really depends on the man. Many guys lean on the side of playing it safe nowadays thanks to everything #metoo has done. This has in my opinion done more harm than good for both genders. It might come as relief to some women but also boring and/or confusing frustration to others.

My advice is to go with you gut. When you are not interested in the someone it’s a lot easier to think clearly. Much easier to be yourself because you are not worried about turning them off. Your brain chemicals aren’t interfering with your judgment. You can tell by his body language, tone of voice, etc if he’s interested or not.

The question is how to react if he is and you’re not. If he’s not being rude and/or aggressive then you have zero right to be nasty to him for approaching. You should also know if he made a mistake out of nervousness.

But if you do like the guy then you will likely overanalyze him. In those scenarios try to look at his approach how you would if you weren’t attracted to him. It’s tough and takes mental discipline. But you have a more clear lenses in that scenario.

[liggang]

I don't like flirting because women play too many games. I'd rather just pull her to the side and tell her I like her and want to go out with her or take her home with me. Being direct is much better.

I learned this from women. Because women would approach me and ask me out. So I just copied their method.

Their method is super simple. They would say "hey you're cute can I have your number?"

Anything other than that and you don't know what the man wants. Many men feel shame about approaching or even liking a girl.

We feel like we are shaming her with our desires. If I like her, she will feel like "ew, why am I liked by this kind of man?"

So men pussyfoot around and try to make sure a girl likes him before he makes any kind of move. Because men fear most for a woman to be offended by his liking her.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm almost always just being friendly and nice even when I was single. If the conversation was really great though and we're clicking really well, that's when I ask her to hang out. But I just enjoy talking to people around me, men and women alike, and didn't have a game plan typically like I'm planning to ask this woman out. I'm just planning to talk to her and we'll see from there. Also I was cool if we just end up becoming friends.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I was always the ultimate improviser and go with the flow type. I don't plan my actions in advance very much. Same with dates. Like I didn't plan to kiss a woman on a date. I just went with the flow but if we were connecting very emotionally, and we already made a lot of gestures already like holding hands, and the timing feels right, then I kissed her. But it's not like I planned it. I go by feel, always, in these matters.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Also I'm maximally focused on reciprocal. So I wouldn't ask a woman out on a date if the interest didn't seem very mutual. So it's always a two-way thing, same with the kiss and everything else, not a one-way thing or something I planned.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Mixed signals works on an approach because it leaves you wondering and makes you think about us more. I would only approach by being friendly because I know nothing about her so it's friendzone at first. Then I would either be more interested and maybe a little flirty or I would be less interested after our brief conversation and walk away.

[Yannae]

I don't think my answer will help much, but the more input the better, right?

With every interaction we do with you, you Can ask yourself "Do my friends do that? Would a friend do that?" Not a bestfriend because they break barriers, but just A Friend.

Now that is out of the way. If I want to date you I'll say it. I'll invite you to go on a date with me. I'll use the word "date" I won't use hangout unless it's for friendship alone. Me and my SO we did stay friendly for a while, but I did let her know from the start that I was looking to date her. That way I would not have her confused, she knows my intentions, my goal. If she needs time, so be it. That's good, I need time too. If she's not interested she can let me know, if she is open to it she has to let me know. So we don't waste time.

The intent is the difference.

[Joshydavid25]

I don't think a solid answer can be formed, because some guys seem friendly when approach when he might really just wanna take you out on a date.. Guus are usually more straightforward, but the more awkward ones might nervously compliment something on you if they want to flirt..

[Vermillion30]

I liked the Girl at the Local Grocery store. I moved my normally shopping time from 7:30, to 8:00 so we could have a moment or two to chat. I would pick her register when I could. Eye contact and Ask Questions about her.

Friends - I wouldn’t really have little inside jokes, but I would smile and say Hi. Check out and leave I wouldn’t pause much and talk. I would talk about small stuff but wouldn’t go into detail of interests or hobbies.

[kmg9150]

And hows that working out for you?

[Vermillion30]

@kmg9150 Not well, But just because someone’s not interested doesn’t mean they are a bad person.

[dna10772]

when a guy is just friendly he won't give super imptnce for u , u'r just 1 among billions of star for him but when a guy is being nice or tries to flirt he'll tend to compliment u , will ask hypthetical ques , will always try to have a convo with u so if he like u - he'll revolve around u like a moon around earth

[PreferNot2Say]

The difference is how you look at us as we approach you.

[Pinay_ako]

Ok explain further

[PreferNot2Say]

If you give us a face that shows you think you're better than us, we'll be friendly while fucking with you.

If you give a smile it shows you're interested and we will be flirty with you.

If you give the "fuck me now" look, that's a completely different ball game.

[TaureanBull81]

I actually don't bother approaching women anymore in my city because of the way they are due to the feminist movement here.

They want men to the approach them and to shoot their shot, however only to be rejected in a nasty way just to show that they control the BS power dynamic.

Well ladies, you got what you wanted. We're not approaching anymore which is frustrating the s**t out of you as we've all checked out.

[kmg9150]

Thats when you through the reversal, “oh, excuse me I was asking cause I’m new to the area and looking to meet new friends, I’m not attracted to you in that way.” And walk away. Bullseye on the fem ego.