Is it bad that my boyfriend asked me if I'm a virgin or not in the first few months of dating?

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. When we first started dating, he asked me if I'm a virgin or not. I said yes because he's the first guy I've had a serious relationship with. He's also my first kiss and I've had zero experience with guys before him. If he had asked me once and for all, I'd be fine with it, but he asks me this question almost every once or twice in a week. I always give him the same answer that yes, I was a virgin before I met him. I've even asked him to stop asking me this question repeatedly, and he justifies it by saying that it's important for him because he wants to be my first, it's important if he wants to marry me etc etc. He even says that his friends are with girls who have f***ed "thousands of dudes" and that sometimes makes him insecure. Is it justified for him to repeatedly ask me this tho?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Wow that would turn me off and push me to cheat on him 12 different dudes of different sizes. And orgasm from all of them. 🖕🖕 Just for being a nosy son of a ****. OUT OF SPITE, I WOULD DO IT If "he" a virgin? Is there a medical test for me to find out his Virginity and bodycount? Oh there's not? Then there's no reason for me to be a virgin for him. There's no reason to be virgin for anyone. Until there's a test for men's virginity, or a test that says he's never masturbated or used porn, or watched porn. there's ABSOLUTELY NO REASON. To be a Virgin for someone. NO REASON at all.

Account · Accepted Answer

Your boyfriend gives me multiple red flags since he keeps asking that question repeatedly and he makes weird comments regarding his friends' girlfriends, which should not be his business.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yaar it be somewhat suspicious that he keeps asking ye if ye've never let a ship sail into yer Davy Jones' locker. Perhaps he don't trust ye.

Me girlfriend kept askin me if I were a pirate when we first started sailing together. It seemed rather suspicious too, but I did have me jolly Roger flyin on me ship whenever she asked. She used to be a landlubber marine though, so perhaps that be why.

bobby_bush_eater · Accepted Answer

You need to set a clear boundary here. You have told him, he knows, do not ask about it anymore. If he does then you have to put some distance between him and you until he gets the message. This seems massively insecure and controlling. Sounds like he's listening to red pill Bros

sheikalana · Answer

I understand asking when you guys started dating but asking multiple times after being together for one year is a bit too much, no? Seems like he doesn't trust you. There's something unsettling about him. I know I'm just a random account on the internet but I would not advise you to have sex with him at all.

TomBuchanan · Answer

I'm not a female but I f I was I think that would be annoying.
Maybe I'm just obtuse but the next time he asked I'd say, "I've told you over and over YES. So don't keep on asking."
If you told him yes, and you haven't screwed him since, the answer should still be yes. No need to keep asking.

Kelley1 · Answer

Are you telling the truth?

Regardless, what good does it do to ask? Very few women will answer truthfully, if telling the truth is not to their advantage and if the truth cannot be easily proven. That also applies to men.

Tell him, "Feel free to ask a thousand time, I don't mind because my answer will never change."

elizamichale1 · Answer

Woww.. i m sorry to say this but u got to leave him honey... its better to be a little sad now than be worst n heart broken later...

It seems he is self centered n he is not trusting ur words... tht is a HUGE RED FLAG to me... he's going to keep doubting u even afterwards tht if u were with another guy when he was away etc..

U can find hundreds of such stories honey.. so make a wise choice n take a step for ur own sake

Drew-1990 · Answer

No, asking the first time is fine but multiple times is ridiculous. That is a show he is not trusting you or he needs that constant reassurance. He needs to stop asking especially if you asked him to

LazerBean · Answer

Yikes. He's definitely been damaged by his own promiscuity. That's just one reason why a virgin should never waste themselves on a non virgin.

Anonymous · Answer

This question reminds me of an obscure 80's movie called "Monster Squad". Where monsters have taken over the town. And the only way they could vanquish them is a incantation recited by a virgin.

This video is a PRIME example of why he's asked you several times. Guys get this. We understand how women are.😆

https://www.youtube.com/embed/il6vDd5R0oA

HawkPerception · Answer

So what if you lost your virginity? It doesn't take away your value. It's very strange that he seems obsessed with that and he needs to stop. I see that as a huge red flag.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Seems really weird he would keep asking lol. Like I get asking once or like before you guy did it but to ask every few days seems really strange and like he has some insecurity issues.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I'd really encourage you not to sleep with him. In fact, I'd really encourage you to end this relationship. His obsession with your virginity is gross, and wrong.

bowenw · Answer

I suggest you tell him it's none of his business. If he doesn't stop it's time for you to move on. If he's insecure about this kind of thing it could be a sign of other issues with him, like being controlling.

jshm2 · Answer

He's probably cheating on you, hence projecting that insecurity onto you.

Jay-_- · Answer

Nothings wrong with being a virgin it's quite humbling, as for the repetitive asking, I wouldn't say its okay for him to keep asking a couple times fine but "keep asking" and asking it's iffy but the real question is, was he a virgin before you.

purplepoppy · Answer

it's more bad you've never opened your legs for him.  As for virginity. I lost my mine 6 times

lorenzomichael · Answer

Maybe he has a short attention span and he can't remember. Or maybe he just needs to hear it over and over again because it makes him feel good. Either way myself and anyone else couldn't tell you why. What difference does it make anyways?

RavVid · Answer

It does seem redundant but if he likes hearing it then is it a real problem? We all like hearing affirmation of love and it seems much the same.

worldscolide · Answer

I'm all for purity, but it almost seems like a fetish with him. I can see asking once and being done with it, but every two weeks? Something is wrong with him. I think it's a red flag.

JesseP1nk · Answer

He is crazy. That is called externalizing. He tries to control everything and everyone around him , so he could feel "safe"

MzAsh · Answer

Please don’t have sex with him.

JacobJordan · Answer

Nothing wrong with asking and you should be proud to be a virgin not defensive or annoyed... unless you are hiding something...

Billlewis · Answer

If you've been with him this long, it's probably not anything to worry about.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, it's not. But if you're telling him the truth, then he needs to believe you. Call him out. Tell him to stop asking you this same question over and over again, since you've already answered it.

AviatorTom · Answer

Why would you consider that question to be bad?

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes. Him asking you that repeatedly is a huge red flag.

VforVindication · Answer

Yes, if you are not a virgin. He wants a virgin and i don't blame him. I am the same. I wouldn't want a woman that has slept around ffs.

Peridot25 · Answer

I mean, if he’s that skeptical and thinks you’re a hoe, why’s he with you?

Juxtapose · Answer

Guys who are obsessed with virginity are such fucking losers.

Anonymous · Answer

When do you suppose this question IS appropriate? Never? After 6 months of dating? A year? When?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I don't think so. It's not like it was on the 1st or 2nd date.

jack1924 · Answer

Fuck him.. ask him if he is a virgin

In_Trance · Answer

First few months? Wtf

Djaay · Answer

He just wants u to prove it soon..

Anonymous · Answer

Look at the feminists triggered 😂

Anonymous · Answer

i assume he was the one who asked you out

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