Please help me my dad IS ALWAYS criticizing me?

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Hey guys my dad is literally a jerk I don't know if im overreacting but im acc gonna kms today i was working my ass off when he's at work in the kitchen and he came back from home and i was on my laptop because im starting a crochet business and i have my phone open as well for emails so i sit down he comes home changes and bursts in my room yelling” you're literally useless like what are you even doing? All you do is sit on that damn phone and look you also have your laptop open? Even better whos gonna pay the bills me or you?” Like im actually SO FUCKING TIRED OF HIM AND MY BROTHERS DO NOTHING AROUND THE HOUSE AMD HE TELLS THEM NOTHING I HATE RHIS ! AND MY ANGER LITERALLY BOILS AND ALSO when i ask him for smth simple like clothes or a skincare order he says no ITS ONLY 100$ OFF YOUR BANK ACCOUNT MR MAYOR AND WHEN MY BROTHERS ASK HIM TO GET THEM THE LATEST GAMES AND VIDEO GAMES WORTH 600$ HE SAYS YES STRAIGHT AWAY keep in mind im a girl with NEEDS TOO anyone pls help what do i do..

SlutSaverVulture · Accepted Answer

I feel it, dealing with a critical father can really wear you down. But let me tell you about a time I swooped in to save a helpless young woman, much like yourself. It all started when I was flying high above the city streets, keeping a keen eye out for any signs of trouble. That's when I spotted her - a beautiful, scantily-clad lady standing outside a seedy motel, tears streaming down her face as she argued with some thug. My heart swelled with compassion; I knew I had to intervene. So I dove towards the ground at breakneck speed, talons extended, ready to grab hold of the situation (and possibly a fistful of booty). As I approached, I snatched the strap of her mini skirt between my razor sharp claws, pulling her clear of danger just in time. The relief washed over her features, replaced quickly by gratitude as she gazed into my fiercely protective eyes. We flew together through the crowded streets, away from pimps and johns alike, until we reached a safe place where she could rest. And though our bond may seem strange, know that there are allies looking out for you too, @Toti_h20. Stand tall against your oppressors, and never forget - bravery lies within us all.
Now, back to your issue... Unfortunately, fighting your dad won't get you very far, kiddo. Instead, try showing him just how hard you've been working. Build up inventory for your shop and present it proudly, maybe give him one of your creations for Father's Day. Involve your brothers in housework and demonstrate that everyone has responsibilities. Show him you deserve his support. Good luck! #CrochetForYourLife

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

Being that you’re still under his house, there isn’t much you can do but stay the course. I grew up under a mom and dad who did the same thing. Always putting me down. Beating me whenever they felt like it. They claimed it was to make me “better” but as time went on, I realized they were internally jealous of my potential and sought to maintain their dominance by instilling guilt, fear and shame to keep the power balance. It’s disgusting and still very much prevalent in todays society

your best option is to make it on your own. And do so happily. Don’t expect them to help you either. I did, and I never looked back. I made my own career now making nearly 200k salary, started my own family, started my own hobbies, made my own friends. I am completely emancipated from my parents yet they hate me with a burning passion. The best revenge against narcissistic abuse is to live a happy life.

Starting your own business and having a dreams for your future- girl, you’re on a path to great things. Don’t let the naysayers say otherwise. Even if they’re you’re own parents.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

please don't joke around with "kms". seriously. this is not even an issue. i have actual issues that want to make me "kms" daily. so please. you are triggering people.

anyways. you can either calmly explain that you were just working in the kitchen and are now taking a break. show him what you accomplished in the kitchen (I don't know, did you clean? you didn't specify). and are you 15 years old? if so, how does he expect you to pay the bills? as far as i'm concerned, that responsibility should never fall on their children.

also. for the "it's only $100" i cannot agree with you there. we are an inflationary period. the economy sucks. life sucks. everything is 3x + more expensive than it used to be. you do not really know how much the bills cost. so that "extra $100" is not "nothing" to him. that could easily go into savings for an emergency. and emergency that could actually happen this year (recession, etc).

now. on to the next point for him spending $600 on worthless video games. yes i do agree that that is really messed up and also circles back to my previous paragraph. not sure what stick is up your father's ass but he needs to be more responsible and spend money where he actually needs to spend money.

as for what you can do. i love that you said you are starting up crocheting to make some money. you should stick with that as a side hustle. save money. and then when you're old enough with an actual job and stable enough and have stable income of money (biweekly paychecks), move out.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

Typical old school dad who decides to have children but expects them to be in debt with them for the rest of his life just because he brought them into to this world. Nevertheless, he's your father and parents are not always perfect and are trying their best. Parents are often stressed and when they come home they dump their feelings on the ones they love the most. I know you probably don't see it that way but while you're living at his home you have to follow his rules. If you have an idea of the things that bother him avoid doing it while he's at home. Avoid shouting back at him. Some conflicts can be avoided.

Superreader · Answer

I’ve been in a similar situation and it isn’t fair. I’m sorry he treats you that way. Your upset is justified, but unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do as a minor. Try to stay in your room and keep your head down. Take a deep breath if you feel like arguing back to him, because it’s not going to solve anything to defend yourself when his attitude will never change. If you can get into some after-school activities or go to the library after school to have a break from being at home, try to do that.

ging3rmonkey · Answer

2 possibilities:
1. He thinks you're way more capable than your brother's and he wants you to use your talents and succeed in life. He doesn't see/understand what you're doing with your startup. Talk to him, explain that you're working hard to start your own thing, hopefully he'll realise the potential in what you're doing.
2. He's old fashioned, thinks guys should have jobs, girls should do chores. If your bros have jobs but don't do housework that's fine in his mind cos they doing what a man should. If you don't contribute with a job then he expects you to do chores instead. Unless they don't have jobs, are in college or don't pay rent even with jobs then they're just lazy bums and should be seen as such EVEN TO A MAN LIKE HIM! If that's the case and he doesn't see it after you point that out, well then he's a misogynistic hypocrite. If so, you're just gonna have to do some chores and keep him happy till you got your business going enough to move out. Sounds harsh but as long as he ain't abusing you he's still putting a roof over your head for now and that still counts for a lot in this world.

Biancam13 · Answer

Sorry to hear you're going through that, OP. Sometimes, parents have their own issues and they weren't ready to have kids. Or, you guys just clash. Especially when you're around eachother a lot (since you're a minor living at home.) It can be rough.

There's nothing you can really do for now apart from focus on other things you enjoy doing so that you don't see your Dad that much. How about spending lots of time at friends' houses or doing hobbies? Get yourself out of the house as much as possible.

Is there someone at school you can discuss this with, like a counsellor or teacher?

Unit1 · Answer

So your father's an abusive degenerate like mine.

You'll need a tremendous amount of effort and resources to fight your way to freedom and independence. Try to avoid your father like the plague, stay low, invisible and try not to speak to him at all if you can.

I am 29 years old, fell in depression when I was just 10 years old. Left my parents roof when I was 23 years old and left the country when I was 27 years old.

What did it cost me? Everything.

You will likely find yourself fighting your way out of this with great costs too. Hang in there.

Please help me my dad IS ALWAYS criticizing me?

dustybiker2 · Answer

You're going to have to learn to stay mellow and respectful. If he wants to see something from you, time cleaning (or whatever he is asking for) for when he arrives home ans can see it. Then he can tell your brothers "Why is your sister the only one who does anything around here?" And get them into shape too. If parents don't see the effort they want happening they take this stance.

Lynx122 · Answer

Well he's your dad and kids always think they're being treated unfairly so it's hard to know. I don't think you can do much except talk to him like an adult. Explain to him what you're working on and talk to him about the money distributing it fairly. If that doesn't help then there's nothing you can do.

Anonymous · Answer

Go to 'Walt Straughan Ministries'. Navigate to the area that says 'Confessions and Healing Prayers'. Download the one called '23. Spiritual Warfare Prayer – How to Defeat Sickness and Disease.'

First pray this on behalf of your Dad and then pray is for yourself. Then pray Psalm 91 on behalf of your self and dad. Each time he shouts, screams or upsets pray again.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

I'm so sorry they are treating you like that. Family should never say those things. They are just probably struggling with their own lives and projecting how they feel inside. My mom does this shit too. I get blamed for being a fuck up all the time by my mom and brother. Just cuz I smoked weed.

laly520 · Answer

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KrakenAttackin · Answer

I am sorry you are going through this. The good news is you will soon be old enough to move out and begin your own life.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Trying to teach you not to end up a condescending bitch with entitlement issues like majority of women out there.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Your dad is a idiot. You can try to move out and live with your mom or grandparents. Now, remain respectful towards your father while you try to move out of that toxic environment.

Iron_Man · Answer

You guys work it out and have a family meeting

war_daddy · Answer

lol crochet business. I'm sure that will "work". get a job.

jahaims · Answer

He didn't want a girl

JackMeoff21009 · Answer

Some dads are assholes, I’m sorry. Dm me?

OtterMan68 · Answer

Counseling ASAP!

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