Before I say anything I need to make clear that my husband is a very sweet man with a very good heart and I have no doubt that he is faithful to me. That being said:
My husband, (of 2 years and 4 years together), and I are going through a dry spell (sex wise). He is just not interested and says it because he feels insecure about the way he looks (he says he feels overweight and feels old). This has been going on for about 3 years now and the number of times its happened can be counted on one hand. I have tried to be supportive. Told him there was no pressure on him that i still find him attractive and a solid relationship will not survive on sex alone. I do miss sex to be honest but what I miss mostly is the intimacy and closeness you get without sex. The touching the holding hands that kissing the caressing. Frankly i don’t feel he is attracted to me. I can understand in front of him and he won't look at me. Im not a drop dead gorgeous woman but i can tell i still turn a few heads on the street (hopefully not because I’m hideous 😱). Anyway - I feel I’m
Reaching the end of my tether. I have told him this and that i just don’t feel wanted and now he is upset because he thinks that I’m not being supportive and that everything i was saying at the beginning about a relationship being more than sex is rubbish. And he suspects that the only reason i feel this way now (after three years of support) is because someone else is attracted me. Im so unhappy. I feel that he doesn't see the problem and now im being blamed for wanting what I want. Im contemplating divorce at this point.
Please i would love to here both the men’s and women’s take on the situation.
Has anyone been here before? What happened?
Anything really I feel I’m loosing my sanity.
Again - please remember that my husband is a very sweet man with a very good heart and I have no doubt that he is faithful to me.
Thank you
My husband, (of 2 years and 4 years together), and I are going through a dry spell (sex wise). He is just not interested and says it because he feels insecure about the way he looks (he says he feels overweight and feels old). This has been going on for about 3 years now and the number of times its happened can be counted on one hand. I have tried to be supportive. Told him there was no pressure on him that i still find him attractive and a solid relationship will not survive on sex alone. I do miss sex to be honest but what I miss mostly is the intimacy and closeness you get without sex. The touching the holding hands that kissing the caressing. Frankly i don’t feel he is attracted to me. I can understand in front of him and he won't look at me. Im not a drop dead gorgeous woman but i can tell i still turn a few heads on the street (hopefully not because I’m hideous 😱). Anyway - I feel I’m
Reaching the end of my tether. I have told him this and that i just don’t feel wanted and now he is upset because he thinks that I’m not being supportive and that everything i was saying at the beginning about a relationship being more than sex is rubbish. And he suspects that the only reason i feel this way now (after three years of support) is because someone else is attracted me. Im so unhappy. I feel that he doesn't see the problem and now im being blamed for wanting what I want. Im contemplating divorce at this point.
Please i would love to here both the men’s and women’s take on the situation.
Has anyone been here before? What happened?
Anything really I feel I’m loosing my sanity.
Again - please remember that my husband is a very sweet man with a very good heart and I have no doubt that he is faithful to me.
Thank you
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I hope this doesn't sound too weird, but have you ever considered a boyfriend on the side, with your husband's permission and blessing? I know that probably sounds strange, but you'd be surprised by how many men are supportive of this kind of arrangement, as long as they're sure their wives love them and will always stay with them.
No it’s not weird but for me sex and intimacy are ways of showing love. So it would be difficult for me to get into bed with someone I had no feelings for, if that makes sense
Yes, it makes a lot of sense.
I am no Doctor but he just may need a little medical help to set him back on track that is if he will go for it
Yeah he’s got himself checked out and there is nothing physically wrong with him physically. That’s why i find it difficult to believe when he says he is attracted to me. You men say women are complicated, but seriously you guys give us a run for our money too 😄
We guys are just as fucked up as any woman you don't have a lock on that! Maybe slip him a Viagra and see if it helps lots of luck
You’re asking the same question again? What answers are you looking for? What solution are you wanting to find?
If you noticed the question was asked under a different category. Just skip it if you have already read it. Apologies if I've bothered you.