What does is mean when guy sees me and stares non stop without smile as I walk towards him?

[Anonymous]

So whenever we see each other in the hall, he can’t take his eyes off of me and once he run with a friend and when turned around the corner and there were me staying with my friends, he suddenly stopped and just stared like a deer in spotlight. I’m shy, so I couldn’t say him anything (and I have a crush on him), he unfreezed when his friend said “let’s go”. It was last week, now he avoids me for some reason. I don’t understand it why can’t he just approach me :( I’m shy I can’t approach him. He’s also very confident, captain of the football team, full of himself but whenever he’s around me he goes silent… He’s fine with other girls and we know each other as we were in the same project group before… I don’t understand him… I want to talk to him badly but I’m scared that I’ve created this all in my head and just misread him…

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, it really sounds like he likes you too but is maybe just as shy as you are deep down! Guys can get super nervous around a girl they really have a crush on.

A few things that stare could mean:

- He thinks you're gorgeous and can't help looking
- He wants to talk to you but doesn't know what to say
- He gets tongue tied around you
- He's wondering if you like him back

Him running into you with his friend and suddenly freezing up is so cute! And avoiding you lately is probably cuz he's embarrassed he got so flustered.

My advice is next time you see him, smile and wave so he knows it's okay to come say hi. Then at least the ice will be broken! You could also try passing him a note if you're too shy for words. Trust me, make the first move and I bet he'll fall for you even more. You've got this!

[Asker]

Hey, thank you for your post!! The next day after running into me he stared again and I turned away because I got super shy and now he avoids me… and I’m scared what if I created this whole thing in my head and he has a girlfriend but just weird person overall…

[Asker]

And if he really liked me he would have found the way to approach me… Although maybe he thinks the same of me…

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, sounds like the poor guy is just as shy as you are in this situation! I still think there's a good chance he's into you based on all the staring.

But you're right, if he really wanted to make a move he probably would have by now. And of course you don't want to get your hopes up if there's any chance he has a girlfriend already. That would just lead to drama and heartbreak.

My advice would be to play it cool for now. Keep being friendly if you see him in the halls - smile and say hi casually. But don't force any blushing eye contact sessions yet, lol. Give it some time and see if he starts initiating little talks eventually.

If in a week or two he's still just staring from afar, then you may need to take the lead after all. Maybe ask a mutual friend if he's single - subtly of course. And if so, slip him your number on a piece of paper and be like "hit me up if you wanna hang out sometime." Ball's in his court after that!

Don't overthink it too much for now. Stay optimistic but protect your feelings. With a little patience one of you is bound to make a move eventually. Fingers crossed it works out! Lemme know if anything develops.

[Asker]

Thank you 🥺 whenever I’m near he now pulls out a phone and avoids looking at me 😂 I felt inspired to talk to him and for the whole week he’s avoiding making eye contact

[SYTHOX]

And are you usually staring at him first or do you catch him staring at you? Because if you're staring at him then he notices and starts staring he's probably just wondering why you keep staring at him. If he is "initiating" eye contact he probably does but maybe he cares what other people think are you popular or not really so much

[Asker]

Hey! He initiates, sometimes I don’t even look at him, I just feel him staring at me. I can’t say I’m super popular, def not as popular as he is

[Asker]

I think, you’re right that he cares what other people think of him. Because when we are alone he’s different, he tries to talk to me and gives me all flirty smirks (it’s just that we both get shy that’s why awkward silences), but when there are people around he acts as if we don’t know each other :(

[SYTHOX]

Well if he initiated the eye contact it's a pretty good sign. I don't know if you mean highschool/college but when I was in school I didn't date some girls because I was too concerned over my popularity especially if they were cute and not popular because I'd get whiplash so it could be he likes you but is too immature to really get into at the moment because his friend group

[SYTHOX]

Yeah, I also had a girl do that to me too, probably karma. She would be into me alone then in public she'd make it seem like I was all in love with her and she wanted nothing to do with me. If that's the case, the best advice is to forget about it. Unless you don't mind the embarrassment (if that is the case, not saying it is)

[Asker]

Oh I see.. that’s sad… And sad to hear that it happened to you :( hope you’ll find someone worthy of your love

[SYTHOX]

I'm not too worried about it. Too focused on other things now. Hope you find your answer, good luck

[Asker]

Thank you!:)