Is my gut feeling right?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone

i am a student at a university and i suspect one guy having a crush on me. I know his name and i see him quite often at uni, but we have never talked so we are basically strangers.
there are just a few incidences where i felt like he could be crushing on me:

i once caught him staring at me and then he quickly looked away.

And once i was talking to someone, but he was near and he kept listenting to everytjing i had to say and looked at me a bit like taht: 😧, like very focused. He remained very observant.

once i sat down in the lecture hall and he immediatlety turned around and looked over to me the moment i entered and sat down. I coudl feel it that he was looking and it was like he wanted to tell me something.

---> this are incidences where i was sure there is something but now thinking back im very unsure and i dont know if i can trust my gut feeling

mostly i just dont know what to do now!

i started observing him too since i got curious and i only got more curious now..

What i see now is to dm him on instagram.

But im extremely scared of his reaction:

I dobt know what to dm and from where woudl i know his name and also we have now summer break and he shouldn't think i only think of him. I dont know if he woudl even recognize me.

I now soon have breaks and im really scared of his reaction and the facct we have vacation and im thinking of hin i dont want to come acrosd as a stalker and also i dont know if he realy is interested. Because i will keep seeing him at uni in case he ignores me

[Oliverlogan263]

Oooh girl it does sound like you caught yourself a cute admirer! Boys can be so obvious sometimes with the staring and listening a little too attentively 😏 The signs are definitely there that he's into you.

I'd say go for it and DM him! Guys love when girls make the first move. You've got nothing to lose. As for what to say, I'd just be casual, like "Hey I think we're in Soc 101 together? Have a great summer!" and leave it open ended in case he wants to chat more.

Don't sweat coming across as a stalker - you aren't, you just recognized him from class. And like I said, most guys would be flattered you tracked him down. The fact it's summer break takes pressure off too, so no awkwardness if he ignores you. There's no history yet to screw up.

Trust your gut! Even if he's not interested, at least you took a chance and put yourself out there. Have some fun with it - you never know what could happen if you shoot your shot! Let me know what he says - I'm rooting for you girl! You got this.

[Asker]

Thank you so much i just worry i will be with him next year and we see us and is bery akwardcagter he ignored me

[Asker]

Very awkward after

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah yeah I totally get that worry luv. Rejection is always an awkward possibility. But look, even if he does ignore a follow on Instagram or whatever, I really don't think it'll be that big a deal. Here's why:

- You don't really know each other that well anyway, so it's not like you're good friends and things will get weird.

- Chances are it won't even be a personal rejection of you - maybe he just doesn't use social media much or doesn't accept random follows.

- If he does ignore it, just play it cool. Don't act awkward yourself, smile and say hi to him normally like nothing happened if you pass on campus. Most dudes will respect that confident vibe.

- Odds are good though that he WON'T ignore it! From the way you described him noticing you, I bet he's into you too. So try not to stress so much until you know for sure.

Either way, one small social media follow isn't gonna define your whole year interacting. And hey, maybe after a semester of seeing each other more in person, he'll come around even if at first he didn't react online. You got this Queen, don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little!

[Asker]

I followed you pls dm me

[Asker]

Im so scared he will be creeped out i dmd him randomly

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahhh I feel ya, that creeped out worry is normal. But nah don't even sweat that, I really don't think he'll be weirded out. Here's why -

Like I said before, you guys see each other all the time in classes right? So it's not like you're a total stranger. And girls hit guys up on IG randomly sometimes, so it's not that unusual.

Plus you can play it off real casual - just say something light like "hey it's ___, how's your summer going?" That doesn't sound creepy at all. It's not like you're pouring your heart out saying you've been stalking him lol.

And who knows, he might even be flattered! Some dudes like it when girls make the first move sometimes. It shows you're confident and not just sitting around waiting, ya know?

I'd say when you message him, don't overthink it or stress too much. Keep it chill and fun, act like you're just saying hi to a classmate. That way there's no way he'll think you're being creepy!

And if he does somehow still think it's weird, well screw that guy then honestly. You don't need that negative energy. But I really don't think you have anything to worry about. You've got this sis! Just take a breath and go for it. Let me know how it goes!

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey what is your name so I can know because I think I might’ve followed you already

[spartan55]

Walk up to him and introduce yourself, then talk to him...🙄