Help! His actions towards me doesn't match with our label?

[Anonymous]

I have male co-worker (INTJ) and he is saying and initiated with me that we're also friends and I'm not a stranger to him anymore. BUT, our label "friends" is not match on his actions because he acts like a boyfriend doing hero instinct to me. I chatted him that I'm not interested to be friends with benefits to him (I just assume this intention of him because his label towards our relationship with each other is co-worker/friends but his action is saying otherwise. He didn't reply anymore. He gives me silence instead of clarifying things to me. What does all of things mean to a man and what do you think is his real intentions towards me? I'm a single mom, his co-worker and friend.

Any insights are very much appreciated. Thank you! 🙏

[laly520]

ig it means he wanted ur body, u refused, he lost interest n left

[In_Trance]

You're too old for this garbage.
You turned him down for Christ sakes!!!
He doesn't want to be your friend

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Gosh! This was brutally honest. 😭😂

[spartan55]

So you've been having sex with him?

[Asker]

Never.

[spartan55]

You shot him down?

[Asker]

Yes. I turned him down. He replied me with silence.

[spartan55]

I don't know what the big mystery is here then.

[Asker]

What is his real intention by doing this?

[spartan55]

Doing what?

[Asker]

Doing silence.

[spartan55]

He's not interested in talking. Remember no guy wants to be your friend. He might end up being your friend, but not by his choice.

[spartan55]

OK, I read your post again. What the hell is 'hero instinct'. You assume he wanted to be friends with benefits? Because why? That's probably why he is pissed. Girls have this annoying habit of making assumptions based on what THEY think without actually asking the guy. That's a great way for any guy to go away.

[Asker]

If he is really interested, he should've said that bluntly from the very beginning not by manipulating the girl telling he only wants to be friends with her but his actions are telling otherwise! Telling you are "friends" but your actions towards her are for boyfriend label are all for a show! 🙄

[Asker]

I always asked him about his actions towards me why he is so protective, kind etc. but he keeps on insisting that he's doing all of those things because we're friends/co-worker. He is lying because his actions is telling that it's not just only because we're friends. We are barely know each other. 2 months.

[spartan55]

Explain why his actions say otherwise?