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Hey everyone,
I need some advice and insights about a situation that's been on my mind. Recently, I asked my crush out on a date, and he respectfully rejected me, saying he appreciated my confidence but he wasn’t looking for anything serious right now. However, since then, I've noticed some confusing behavior from him.
Despite the rejection, he still looks at me frequently, checks me out, and talks about me with his friends. Even my friend noticed she told me that she think those guys over there are talking about us even though I didn’t tell her anything about my crush. This makes me feel self-conscious and unsure about what’s going on. He was always respectful to me before this, so his actions are really puzzling.
Why do you think he’s acting this way? Do you think he might be regretting his decision, or is there another reason for his behavior? Any insights or advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance for your help!
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I think right now you’re just hyper aware of each other since you’ve asked him out and he knows you have a crush. Plus you may not be as inconspicuous as you think you are when you’re stealing glances at him, even if you are holding his gaze because you think he’s trying to hold yours. In any case, it is absolutely possible for a man to flirt, find you attractive and still not want something serious. I mean that’s his whole reasoning in the first place, is that he’s not interested in that right now.
So if I were you, I would just base my judgements going forward about the facts that you do have, rather than potentially receiving false hope here. I also hope you’re able to move on and stop playing into his attention seeking.
I’m not looking at him, I look from the corner of my eyes and I can sense that he is looking at me.
I’m sorry but girl, the corners of your eyes? I don't know about you but I know for a fact that those can be more obvious than you think. Maybe not each and every time but sometimes, you and take that or leave it.
Senses? I will only laugh and dismiss that one.
“You can take that or leave it”
It’s like pretending to look at the wall or the window but u are actually not looking there u are looking somewhere else, anyway I’m literally ignoring him and I moved on but his behaviour recently made me think about him recently
I’m sorry you’re in denial but you aren’t as inconspicuous as you think, not each and every single time. That’s impossible and I’m not saying that offensively so don’t get offended.
In any case, whether you agree that he’s caught you stealing peaks or not, please listen to this man and base your actions off the information we do have, which is that he isn’t interested in that way. If you invite people here to pick this apart like you do with your friends it’ll only give you false hope. I also think this is a bit of denial because you do like him still. But if I were you I’d make peace with this and do my best not to give him any attention, whether it’s gossip with friends or stealing side glances.
Denial? So, you think my friend is in denial too when she said she thinks those guys are talking and looking at us? (She doesn’t even know I have a crush on him.) You are literally a woman. How many times have you walked next to a group of men in public and noticed them looking at you or checking you out? You can still notice that even without looking directly at them! Come on! I’m literally ignoring him and I think that’s why he is acting that way to see if I’m still interested on him or not.
Yes I think you’re in denial because why are you fighting with me right now? I never ever said that him and his friends didn’t look at you, I’m sure once he told them you had a crush that makes sense anyway. I also didn’t say your friend was wrong. Literally all I’m saying to you is that he has absolutely caught you at least once, there’s no way he hasn’t. I am also saying that you’re in denial because he has actually TOLD YOU he isn’t interested yet you’re still inviting people to give you objective opinions.
If he rejected you and then is still looking at you time and time again... he's playing a control game with you.
He doesn't want to come off as wanting you, so that will make you want him more (because he rejected you and you can't have what you want). Eventually, he'll be like... okay... okay... lets go out. Like he finally gave into your obsession.
If he's playing games then I would never take him seriously... that's some narcissistic behavior.
I honestly don't think he is acting any certain way. You don't know that he talks about you all the time. He looks at you? Okay, so what? Stop watching him like a hawk and go about your business.