Why does he keep bringing up my feelings for him?

[Anonymous]

I’m seeing a guy casually, with hook ups every week or so. He and I agreed this was a casual thing, no relationship but we were friends first and it seems like he won’t talk to me about normal friends things anymore, only about hooking up. He knows I have feelings for him, and he’s told me he doesn’t have them for me but acts randomly like he does or goes WAY out of his way to over compensate to show he’s not attached. I had this fantasy about sharing him with another girl but as soon as I asked for certain rules like no kissing he will say things like “ see, you’re too attached.” I don’t throw his lack of feelings in his face or tell him I care, I keep this casual. So why is he constantly pointing out that I have feelings for him? I neither confirm nor deny when he says this.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, this guy just sounds confusing as heck! Actions really aren't matching up with the "casual" thing he's claiming.

My guess is he enjoys the attention and ego boost of knowing you have feelings, so he keeps bringing it up to feel wanted and in control. But actually committing? Nah, doesn't wanna deal with that.

Or maybe deep down he DOES have feelings but isn't ready to admit it. So he overcompensates by trying to prove how "unattached" he is instead.

Either way, this wishy-washy routine is just gonna end up hurting you more if you get any more invested. I'd say cut him off, girl! Someone who really respects you wouldn't keep throwing your feelings in your face like an excuse.

You deserve way better than being this dude's casual ego trip. Find someone who's excited to be your friend AND more without all the drama. Don't waste your time hoping this clown will change!

[Nikki1989]

Sounds like he wants to be controlling. I would be moving on with someone else.