Is he just in it for the convenience?

[Anonymous]

We message all the time. He's messaging me all day everyday when when he's at work. He lives in a different state and we've been talking for a while now. He's affectionate to me through. He doesn't talk on the phone, seems like he's not comfortable to. He likes my Facebook posts every once in a while but I've noticed every so often he will follow random girls on facebook. I don't know what's going on or what to do. Every time I want to make plans to meet up He always skates away from the subject. What's really going on here. It's hard to break away from because he's consistent with communication and we have good conversations.

[BetaBucks]

Maybe he just enjoys your companionship, but doesn't see a future because of the LDR thing. Maybe he's insecure about meeting up because he has ED. Maybe he's in a relationship and considering you as a side chick or replacement. The truth is that it's really hard to tell based on what we know.

I think you would benefit from having a heart to heart with him. Ask him if he ever plans to see you in person or if he just wants a text relationship. Be straightforward so he can't just dodge it.

[Asker]

He says he does want a relationship and we talk about getting together but it doesn't come to fruition. He hasn't posted me on his FB as together and doesn't tag me or anything. I know he's single and lives with his mom (I can confirm). What is ED?

[BetaBucks]

I wasn't fully serious, but it means erectile dysfunction. It's honestly possible, but I wouldn't assume that.

Anyways, it sounds like you have your answer though. He won't do it. And you don't want it to happen through ultimatums or force. You have to decide if this relationship is good enough for you if it never gets any better. If not, you might want to cut your losses and work on yourself for a bit.