Is it friendship or more?

[Emmy_0022]

Hi, I have a little problem and I don’t know what to do. I'll try to summarize it briefly.

I've been friends with a boy for two years.
He tends to be shy.. We get on really well. I really appreciate him as a person and his qualities. I like being with him. Sometimes I even thought to myself, wow this guy has the qualities I'm looking for in a partner. But I never thought more. (Also because I got out of a toxic relationship 1.5 years ago and am very cautious as a result).

For some time now, however, I and the others in particular have noticed that he is showing signs of being interested in me. I'm usually very shy, but I dared to ask him if it was true that he is interested in me.

His answer to this was not clear, or rather it was, but I was quite unsure. He was surprised that others had noticed that he seemed to be interested in me. His facial expression revealed that he felt he had been caught out.

He said that he wasn't doing it consciously, but unconsciously (is that a confirmation of my question?). And that he had definitely thought about it and was thinking about it.

Unfortunately, I only realized these words of his after our conversation. Was he indirectly saying that he likes me and thinks about me and can imagine a relationship with me?

He also said indirectly that I‘m pretty and totally his type. I never expected such an answer from him. I always thought he didn't want anything. It's just friendship. I told him that I'm not interested in a relationship at the moment. But his answer has been making me think for days. He has what I'm looking for in a man and suddenly I can imagine him as a partner. I just didn't realize it before.

I'd love to ask him what he meant by that, but I'm so scared because I think it's too late. What do you think? Was he indirectly saying that he likes me? Can I still ask him and say that I've changed my mind?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

You just told him you're not interested in relationship at the moment.. how can he admit his feelings to you, without thinking of being rejected?

[Alex-Snow]

Emmy I think you are going about this the right way. Is he ur age? What does his body language tell you? While it is ok to be shy, you may have to take the initiative and ask him out. Your thoughts?

[Emmy_0022]

Yes, he's my age.
I just hope I don't annoy him with it. But as a boy, can I ask your opinion on why he didn't answer my question directly? I just think that you either like someone or you don't. What do you think?

[Alex-Snow]

You may have caught him off guard and he just may have been surprised. Is he seeing anyone else that you know of? Maybe he was embarrassed to answer? Did you ask him this in front of other people or was it in private?

[Emmy_0022]

No, he doesn't have anyone at the moment.
We facetimed and talked to each other in a very cool and relaxed way. I don't think he expected anyone to notice.
Otherwise he wouldn't have said that he didn't think it would be so obvious that other people would approach me about it. The question is whether he is aware of it himself. After all, he did say that he had thought about it and is thinking about it at the moment.

[Alex-Snow]

I do not know why he can't give you an honest answer... seems kinda weird

[Iron_Man]

Just have the courage to ask the guy you know the old expression you snooze you lose no guts no glory. That’s the old expressions.

[Enes38]

Don't think about anything, live whatever you want.

[Nikki1989]

Tell him how you feel.