He is acting like he doesn’t care or want me on purpose, why?

[Anonymous]

[_Maya_]

How do you know that he is doing that on purpose? That is a pretty big assumption unless you have some good evidence. Have you thought that maybe he doesn't care and doesn't want you? I don't want to sound rude or negative but there is the possibility that it is the case that he is just not into you. You don't give any context to who this guy is and how you know him or even how he is acting. So it is hard to really give a good answer. You can always update the question with some information. Otherwise we can't really answer it. We aren't mind readers so we have no clue what his line of thinking is. My best GUESS is that he is trying to get you to seek him out or want his attention.

[Asker]

he is someone who i used to date and have spent much time with. he is always acting. he is used to women chasing him and making others jealous. It is on purpose i believe. he has told me he doesn’t want to look weak. and why is it always him chasing.

[Asker]

he feels like i don’t want him when i do not chase. i just give him the same energy back… he hates it. he feels weak for always showing he wants me.

[Asker]

i do want him. i just don’t believe it should only be me?

[_Maya_]

Thanks for the additional details. This makes a whole lot more sense now. Sounds like he has some insecurities and wants to be chased to make himeself feel wanted.

[Asker]

i undedstand that sometimes when guys act that way it is because they do not but in this case it is different. i’ve known him forever. he is my ex, we are messing around (i don’t want anything serious) due to our past and his issues. he has told me he is very insecure with me (and in general tbh).. he will just run to a weaker girl when we fight (she chases him) and pretends she’s better bc she praises him. he told me he wants me to do that not her. i refuse to chase if im not feeling wanted as well.

[_Maya_]

Here is the biggest problem that I see.

" i’ve known him forever. he is my ex, we are messing around (i don’t want anything serious) due to our past and his issues"

So then just don't mess around with him if he has issues, he is an ex and you don't want anything serious. You can avoid all of this by just not being involved with him. Problem solved very easily.

[Asker]

we enjoy spending time together. also, our sexual chemistry is great. yes i’ve had sex with other people it is not the same.

[Asker]

but i understand. i was just
confused by his behavior. i believe because i am not acting as i did in the past he is scared of losing me again and he does not feel wanted, but i have boundaries.

[DishLady]

Who knows? You've provided 0 details.

[dudegreat91]

To make you chase him

[Asker]

yes and i refuse to.. but everyone else does. he lovesss it but hates it?

[dudegreat91]

You should seek out guys who are more direct

[dudegreat91]

You can message me for more questions you may have

[Asker]

message me

[BetaBucks]

Scammer, for sure

[In_Trance]

He's probably not acting