Guys, What inspires you to approach a woman?

Question

Whether online or in person, what is it about a specific woman that makes you want to approach to her and get a connection going?

MicahRaine · Accepted Answer

Values, attraction, personality :) Personality  is important because if I don't enjoy a girl's personality, I'm just going to have a difficult time wanting to spend time with her and invest in her. Also, if an eligible woman has a great personality then I will grow to find her more and more attractive over time. That's actually what happened with Raine :) Emotional and physical  attraction  is important because, to an extent, the more attracted I am to my partner the more I will desire to be intimate with her emotionally and physically. That's just how we were designed. Values  are important because conflicting values will create regular disagreements whether it's how to raise your children, what career path to pursue, where to live etc

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

I dunno if I ever told you this, but I didn't exactly approach my wife, we were seated next to each other at a ShineDown concert. The weather was bad, like really bad, ice and snow, so rather than have her drive 4 hours home, I offered her my bed while I took the couch. The first like three times we met, there was no sex. And when we met she was the aggressor. Her texts were like " I'm coming to see you this weekend, you have no choice."

It wasn't until I almost died in the hospital from wisdom teeth that I realized I wanted to marry her. She visited me almost daily, driving 4 hours each day, and no one else bothered seeing me, noty friends, nor my family.. Just her.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

Given that I live in the modern Western zone of cultural influence... The only two things that might actually inspire me to approach a woman are preexisting suicidal thoughts and a level of daring tantamount to useless bravado... but neither of those have anything to do with the woman in question herself.

However, there are some things that might make me consider the risk related to aproaching a particular woman to be "just about manageable".

Of course, if I were to approach a woman I know absolutely nothing about without stalking her first, I could tell nothing about her personality or values (yeah, I kind of got inspired by one of the preexisting answers with these terms). However, her outfit might be something of a hint. If it draws the attention of my primal instincts, I'll pass. If it draws the attention of my somewhat anachronistic sense of aesthetics (think medieval-style dresses, long skirts... basically modest outfits), I might decide to try approaching her, as such an outfit goes against the contemporary (excuse for) societal norms, which indicates at least some level of independent thought and responsibility. A gothic-style outfit is a special case, as it's basically a high-risk, high-reward gamble. I might be facing an attention-seeking wannabe-emo, or maybe even an actual satanist, but on the other hand, I might have encountered a traditional, serious girl who is dissatisfied with the current state of this world to the point where she took drastic measures to express said dissatisfaction (I mean, black is the color of mourning and penitence, after all). The gothic style is also the only style that makes fishnet sleeves and tights acceptable for me (no doubt due to the portrayal of a certain Misa Amane in Death Note as both a gothic lolita incorporating this kind of clothing into her outfit and a serious, driven young woman). Any pink details are a red alert related to the wannabe-emo case, while a large crucifix sometimes worn by goth girls as a necklace kind of points towards the traditional, serious girl case.

Online, it's a little easier. If a woman uses correct grammar within the conversation, I tend to be drawn to her. If she tends to use uncommon/anachronistic vocabulary, I might actually be tempted to take some limited risks to further the bond faster.

RyanR03 · Answer

I used to approach them all the time. In truth I used to practice randomly to build up courage. It was not the most sensitive thing to do but I did it to build up courage. Early 20s. I even picked a woman out at a table with her friends one night. There were 4 of them and I said to myself, “ok if you can do this then you can walk up to any woman.” And these girls were nice looking. Now I don’t know if any of them would be superficially considered a 10. But they were pretty girls. So I walked up and said excuse me. I said hello. And I said pardon me just a sec. I just want I ask you your number”. She had a boyfriend. But they were all nice and one of them did even say “wow you’re kinda brave. That’s awesome “

I would also walk up to women in stores

but I simply had to I had no dating apps Social media made everyone lazy and also altered how men and women interact It created the fish bowl effect for both sexes and Now men don’t ask women out and 80% of them just getting jaded and chasing people that everyone else is after too

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HawkPerception · Answer

I rarely if ever approach girls. For me, she has to look approachable. I don't mean approachable in the sense of being smiley and happy looking. I'll be arrogant and say I think I'm pretty good at reading people to an extent, so even if they aren't smiling, I look past that and judge whether or not they'd be receptive and kind to me approaching them. It's based on micro-expressions and their eyes. It's also based on the way they're socializing with others if they are socializing. Or if they're alone and look like they want someone to take their hand and make them feel alive.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The first thing that gets my attention is her appearance. I really am drawn in by a cute face! Then i look at her demeanor. Does she seem to be a gentle and kind woman? That is very important. Next, i strongly prefer intelligent and educated women as we are much more likely to have common interests.

exitseven · Answer

Back in the day it was a combination of what was going on in my life st the time, how available the girl looked and the amount of alcohol I consumed.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

If she's outdoorsy and not a bump on a log stay at home person.

ryanrhino · Answer

In person, no way. Online, it was: to see if they spent time with their profile (not hastily put together) literally living near me If their grammar, tone and humor matched mine

RavVid · Answer

It is not her looks but how I judge her nature to be.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

If she's attractive, looks inviting and isn't with a bunch of her freinds. The main motivation to approach has always been that I know most women won't do the approaching.

LiamJHayden · Answer

1. She seems interesting. 2. She seems single. 3. She seems open.

NathanDavis · Answer

reciprocation...

legalboxers · Answer

If I feel something in my heart

Ironco · Answer

I'd say a confident, assertive attitude. If she's dominant, that's good too

eagle1951 · Answer

if she looks at me and smiles

spartan55 · Answer

Most do absolutely nothing to show any interest, so it's hardly worth it.

DJB72 · Answer

Eyes. It's her eyes.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Her mindset and actions!

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