She accused me of work harassment?

[Anonymous]

This girl I work with suddenly accused me of sexual harassment. I’m naturally a funny guy; I make jokes with everyone one in groups and they all know me by that. With this girl, I make jokes with her and often turns it to be sexual when it’s just the two of us. She laughs but I take it as she thought it was funny, but then onwards she says she doesn’t like me making sexual jokes to her and it makes her uncomfortable. But she laugh right? So it doesn’t make her uncomfortable. I continued even after she said that because I like this girl. She always yells at me when I creep up behind her; but I’m just trying to be playful. She even accused me of touching her; but I just poked her stomach and touched her hands here and there. I thought it was mutual. I realise now that she kept telling me off and that she didn’t like it and that I kept going. Was I really making her uncomfortable?

[_Maya_]

She accused you of touching her when you... touched her. How is that an accusation at that point? And...

" I realise now that she kept telling me off and that she didn’t like it and that I kept going"

there is the harrassment. I am not sure what you aren't getting to be honest with you. She kept telling you that she didn't like it and you kept touching her or doing whatever. That is literally the definition of harassment. I don't know if you are just a really bad troll or completely incompetent coworker. Either way you deserve what you get. If she said you were harrassing her then how can you even ask if she was uncomfortable. I am going with my gut instinct and that you are trolling. My friend will be along shortly with something for you. @EmmaMary

[ManOnFire]

So neither one of you were actually right in this. First off, it's the workplace and you really shouldn't be doing things like that to a co-worker, especially touching her stomach or hands and then you kept doing it. This is a case where she was right to complain because she already told you to back off.

But she is also wrong because she did laugh at your sexual jokes which she shouldn't have done if it made her that uncomfortable. And even though she told you to stop making them, she still laughed. Although one thing to know about females is that they will do one thing but say another, pretending it's okay but deep down not really liking it. Is this dishonest and unfair? Yes. But the system will honor her conflicting behavior anyway.

I think it's an all around messy situation that most likely will not end well to be honest.

[Drewtate]

Of course she accused you, and probably allowed it to continue, she might get 6 figures out of the court case.

Did your company not give you training in sexual harassment?

You might think it's funny but in the workplace you can't make jokes of a sexual nature or racist or homophobic or transphobic etc.

Many guys won't even allow themselves to be in a situation where they are alone with a woman theh work with in case of false allegations while you are actually sexually harassing this woman.

Imagine some dude or woman you don't find attractive is groping at you all the time, would that make you uncomfortable.

[HelpfulWoman]

laughing can be a sign of being uncomfortable.
your lack of basic sense is the problem here. Now take a fucking hint.

[lightbulb27]

Your not using tiur brain… selfish… idiot. she's right and you should be fired or stern warning.


By doing this youve made her work very uncomfortable.


Wake up and smell the coffee

[Zenpanda]

Yes you did and she told you. You kept going.
Poking and taking her hands is touching and is inappropriate if she doesn't indicate she likes it.
You are harassing her, even if you don't see it as bad.
She doesn't like it and because you see no wrong you ignore the fact that she doesn't like it.
Stop right now or don't be surprised if you get fired.
You're making this girl's work environment uncomfortable.

[HawkPerception]

You're clearly crossing the line with the girl. She told you to stop making the sexual jokes so stop making them. And it's a workplace environment. What makes you think you can touch her stomach? Do you touch guys stomachs? Respect the boundaries! It doesn't matter if YOU like her. If it's not consented, then it's not okay and clearly it's not consented. She's already given you the signs. Just stop.

[Makeushiver]

He careful, it's thin ice. Reme! her it's not whether what you did is harassment or not. If it seems to offend her and ahe has mentioned it does to you, it's not worth it. Unless you habe an extremely important position its always easier for the employer to err on the conservative side. Its also important that she doesn't overhead you notching about her. Companies can't afford the risk anymore.

[OlderAndWiser]

Duh! Laughing doesn't necessarily mean she enjoyed your jokes. Some people laugh when they are anxious. Stop thinking that everyone believes you are funny. Stop thinking you will convince her to date you. Stop touching her. . . . Or get fired.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[Anonymous]

You are breaking the rules of modernity. When it comes to women. Don’t joke, compliment, look at or acknowledge women unless you are in a committed married relationship to one. And even then it’s iffy. Most will turn on you even if you do know them. Just don’t deal with them if you want to keep yourself from any trouble or peace.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yea, you made her uncomfortable.

Maybe her laugh was a nervous laugh, for all we know.

[spartan55]

Was I really writing a fake post trying to land myself in HR?

[Staximus]

A female co-worker told you to stop making sexual jokes and you kept doing it. Sounds like you're a dumbass and want to get fired.

[DrPepper12]

You're joking right? Dude, you are the definition of sexual harassment. Good luck keeping your job.

[noohair]

When she told you that something makes her uncomfortable, you should have stopped. Work is a profession and you needed to be professional.

[LiamJHayden]

You blew it. You should expect termination as the company tries to fend off a lawsuit.

[handsomelad70]

I think she's got a point, boyo. In this climate, you're lucky you still have a job.

[Anonymous]

You put yourself alone with a woman
Punishment is firing squad

[Anonymous]

Yes, you did and you knew that already