How do you get a man’s attention and love honest answers only?

[Hdirhh]

I show my boobs by wearing tight shirt, I don’t get love or staring.

I act nice, sure guys might be nice back but nobody asks me out. I can’t win.

guys don’t want the sexy version of me and they don’t want the shy demure version either. I’m at a loss.

[serious]

Hello. It seems you have joined this site recently. Welcome to this site. I hope you will enjoy your time here.

As for your answer, yes men are visual creatures and so a woman being beautiful/gorgeous and having a nice body is important for men to find women physically appealing. However, that being said every man will have his own definition of what is beautiful/gorgeous woman and even the body type of the woman.

In addition to that the woman should also have a good personality otherwise getting a man's attention purely out of looks/physical beauty will not be long lasting nor will you be able to attract a man who would have a good personality or morals as well. In short there are high chances that you will not attract a good man but rather a player type.

Hence if you are beautiful/gorgeous and have a good body then it is great but ensure that you have an equally good personality as well. For eg, being mature, being nice and respectful, caring, understanding, being supportive, making time and giving priority to the one you like etc. These are important and attractive personality aspects.

Please remember you should not fake the personality aspects, don't just act. You have to genuinely have a good personality. Then only you will attract a high value or a quality man.

This is my opinion. If you have any queries you can message me if you want.

[serious]

@Hdirhh

Just realized that you are on Xper 1 so you cannot message me. I can though but I think you need to follow me first because that is how you have set your profile. Follow me first and then I will message you.

[noohair]

Guys don’t get the hints that women give out. Guys are simple. If you want them to know something, speak slowly, use simple words and leave nothing to interpretation. The dating culture has also been ruined by social media. Guy can get sex without a commitment and that is what they do.

[MrOracle]

Based on your question, I assume that you're looking for a committed relationship, and not just casual sex (if I'm wrong about that, feel free to correct me). With that assumption in mind, there's some things you need to know.

1. You need to limit your "search" or "pursuit" to ONLY guys who are "relationship men" - meaning men who are actively seeking a partner for a serious, committed relationship. You need to understand that a lot of men are NOT seeking a serious, committed relationship - only casual sex - and YOU CANNOT CHANGE THEM, so don't waste your time and effort trying.

2. Most or all of the men that you find the MOST attractive are men who are "casual sex men" - but no matter what you do, you will NEVER get a relationship commitment from these men, because that's not what they want, and they don't NEED to commit to get what they want from women - most women will give them everything they want anyway.

3. "Relationship men" are all around you, but you filter them out and they're invisible to you. Society, feminism, the media, and your peers all encourage you to chase the top 2% of men - and tell you that you DESERVE those men - but you will never get those men, or even men close to them - because those men DO NOT COMMIT because they already get everything they want without needing to. Yes, you can trade casual sex to get ATTENTION from some of those men for a short period of time, and you may get a taste of their lifestyle, but it will never be anything long-term.

4. "Relationship men" are men you probably see as BORING and as "unsuccessful" because they aren't CEOs or celebrities - many of them aren't even white-collar office workers, but rather blue-collar workers (some of whom DO make a lot of money, though) - but you dismiss them because they aren't the kind of guys who give you "Instagram clout." Relationship men tend to be responsible and reliable, but too many women see this as boring and predictable. If you choose the excitement that comes with chaos and danger, it might be fun at first, but that chaos gets really old really fast, and it can also lead to very bad things sometimes (jail, injuries, even death).

5. Even "relationship men" are only going to see you as a provider of casual sex if you are "advertising" yourself sexually. Sure, your boobs can get you lots of male attention, but it's only going to be SEXUAL attention. Relationship men tend to be looking for women who will make good WIVES and MOTHERS - your education, degrees, career, and income are NOT going to make you any more valuable to such men - being feminine, fit, friendly, cooperative, submissive, chaste, and respectful - and having good morals and values - are the things that will make you valuable to a "relationship man." If you don't offer things that MEN value, men aren't going to pick you, and you'll be considered "recreational use only."

6. Dating apps aren't dating apps - they are hook-up apps. Delete the apps, and focus on meeting men IN PERSON. And if you find you like a guy, TALK to him. IN PERSON. Expect to have to do that 20 or 30 times before you find a good match. Yes, it's work and yes, you might have to step outside your comfort zone, but that's the only way you're going to get what you ultimately want.

All of this is intended to help you SUCCEED, so if I've hurt your feelings anywhere, remember that coaches often have to make the people they coach uncomfortable in order for them to learn important skills.

[bowenw]

It sounds like you aren't around enough guys or some would have asked you out by now. I suggest you simply be your true self and not worry about being a particular version.

[Hdirhh]

Thanks. Do u like my whore side?

[jeremy_09]

Why would anyone give dishonest answers? That's a pretty insulting thing to say to the members of this community when you're brand new.

[serious]

@jeremy_09

Very well said. Plus it is also a known fact that women like honesty.