Why did my boss see my new hair and say he likes it and that it’s gonna get (me or him) in trouble?

[Jeiththt]

I didn’t hear if he said me or him but I heard him say that and says “what” and he said “ nothing”

so I’m confused

[teamvic]

If he's saying nothing, more likely than not it's probably him saying it's gonna get HIM in trouble, because if he said it was gonna get you in trouble why wouldn't he repeat it? Wouldn't that be something you should know. And if he said it's gonna get him in trouble that's creepy. Unless you're into the dude

[Jeiththt]

He’s been my crush of years now

[molonski2]

I think he means , this hairstyle that he loves , is going to get him into some serious trouble , the meaning being quite obvious.

[Jeiththt]

What is the meaning because I’m still the same woman just new hair

[molonski2]

Well , just that you look even better - hence you are going to do more damage , he's lost in your absolute presence.

[Jeiththt]

Haha wow really. I’m at a loss for best to think. Part of me feels it’s bad cause he’s maybe too focused on the outer looks but I’m also enjoying that my crush is showing interest of some sort. Also I’m not flirty so I feel pressured to flirt back but that’s not me. As I said I’m still just the shy girl and not really sexy/flirty type of woman. I want him to love me ask me out marry me etc that type of thing ideally so I don’t wanna lost his interest either b

[molonski2]

@Jeiththt
Really? Are you kidding?
Just take any advantage you can Ms.

[edmwarrior]

I only compliment a woman's hair if I like her and can't think of any other compliments

[Jeiththt]

I wonder if he would ask me out soon

[edmwarrior]

this might make it seem like you'd be coming off too strong, but try throwing a subtle compliment back. if someone did that to me and I liked her, it would be enough for me to ask her out. or else, there's too much on the line if rejected or if she gets offended

[Jeiththt]

What do men like being complimented on? I’ll be honest trying to come up with a way to compliment him makes me feel desperate lol

[edmwarrior]

Yeah don't do it. I understand. I think if you really like him, it'll show in subtle ways. I could tell when a woman likes me if we're all joking and laughing, and she's looking at me while laughing. Then she would hoover around me, always finding excuses to be in my proximity. Another thing she would do is stare into my soul when we're talking, and play with her hair. A confident woman would be nervous around me too if she likes me. I have noticed these things but still haven't made a move because i'm not 100% sure. A hint would just give me the kick I need to ask her out.

With that said, she never did anything forcefully. It all came naturally. So my advice is to just let it show naturally. I hope this doesn't make you overthink it. Try to be natural :)

[Jeiththt]

Thanks. Often my heart beats so I get shy and don’t express myself as much as I’m feeling inside.

[Avicenna]

Because you could potentially report him for sexual harassment

[Jeiththt]

Why did he say it thoguh? I like him

[Eli0715s1990]

He doesn’t know you
Like him

[Jeiththt]

@Eli0715s1990 how do you know? Lol

[Eli0715s1990]

He wouldn’t be nervous about getting in trouble for complementing you if he knew you liked him, just an opinion. He is also your boss so he may be concerned about getting in trouble for asking out someone who is a subordinate. I don’t know much about your work atmosphere and the rules of in office dating but for him to compliment you and say he is going to get in trouble…. He likes you and is nervous about making the next move

[Jeiththt]

@Eli0715s1990 wow I guess he really went on a limb to make that comment then. Whether he realized it or not. But honestly I don't know what to do now. I’ve liked him for years but I’m shy and not flirty so I just waited him to ask me out. I don't know

[Eli0715s1990]

I think with the way society is today and him being your superior he has more to loose, you need to tell him you like him or just keep waiting but it might be a long time or never before he asks you out

[Jeiththt]

@Eli0715s1990 ok I’ll wait.

[avery58]

Looks like he was trying to flirt with you

[Jeiththt]

Why haha. I’m still the same shy boring girl.

[Iron_Man]

Ask him what do you mean by that?