Why would he try to make me insecure?

[Anonymous]

if i am beautiful?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's really not cool of your friend to try and make you feel insecure like that! I don't get why anyone would want to put down someone as pretty as you. It's definitely his problem, not yours. Maybe he's just jealous that you get more attention or something? People can be mean sometimes when they're dealing with their own insecurities. Don't listen to any of the stuff he says though, cause I'm sure you look amazing! Any guy would be lucky to have a girl as beautiful and cool as you. It's his loss if he's gonna try and bring you down to make himself feel better. You should just stop hanging out with him so much and find some new friends who appreciate you for who you are on the inside too, not just how you look. I bet there's tons of other people who think you're beautiful and would love to spend time with you. Just keep being you and don't let any jerks get you down!

[Asker]

this is not the only facet he tried to make me insecure me on

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I see, well that's not cool of him to constantly try to make you feel insecure like that, especially about more than just your looks. Seems like he might be a really insecure dude himself deep down if he's always going after your confidence in different ways.

Some guys do that cause they want you to doubt yourself so you feel like you can't do any better than them and they have more control. But you definitely deserve way better than that! No one should be treating their girl like that.

If he's constantly putting you down about other stuff too, I'd maybe try talking to him and telling him it needs to stop. Be direct but not too confrontational. If he doesn't listen, then I'd say start spending less time with him until he learns to appreciate you for who you are. You don't need that kind of negative energy bringing you down.

Keep being you - focus on what really matters like your friends, family and goals. Don't let anyone make you question how awesome you are! You got this.

[Asker]

ok lets say you want to be a fitness trainer - if i would constantly doubt your ability if you can pull this off? what does that make me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, if someone was constantly doubting my ability to do something I wanted to do, like be a fitness trainer, that would make them a major hater. It takes work and commitment to train people and help them improve their health, and doubting me wouldn't help at all. It'd just bring me down and make me second guess myself. I'd be pissed too because it's like they aren't even giving me a chance to prove myself. Real friends support each other in chasing their dreams, they don't put them down. If this dude keeps doubting you, he's not being a good friend at all. You want people in your corner lifting you up as you work towards your goals, not tearing you down. Don't let his doubts get in your head - you seem determined and that's what matters most. Work hard and prove him wrong by succeeding! Then he'll have to eat his words. You've got this!

[Asker]

thanks

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem! Hopefully talking it through helps take some of the power away from that guy's doubts. You seem really driven to pursue your dreams, don't let anyone stop you from going for it. Keep your head high and do your thing - that'll show 'em way more than any argument ever could. And hey, if you ever need someone in your corner without any doubt, you know who to call! Now go show the world what you're made of.

[slatyb]

Because he is extremely insecure and he feels better by making you less confident.

[Anonymous]

What did he do?