How do you tell if you should open the door to forgive and let a man in your life again?

[Reoynyj]

I was thinking of doing that but then I read some thing online which made me realize there’s very negative minded guys out there who would come back and pretend to change and like they care for you just to get revenge on you even worse. Revenge for cutting them off. Now I’m rethinking if I should because what if he’s that immature?

[SueShe]

You cut someone one because of a reason. Forgiving is equivalent to make the same mistake over again and having to cut that person off yet another time.

People don't change. They promise they will change but at the end, it will go back to the old setup that led to the separation in the first place. It may not be today or tomorrow but it will eventually happen.

What will happen if you let him in again is that after a while, routine will return to the relationship and the good resolutions will vanish just as quickly as they came.

[Rashmixoxo]

You cut them off for a reason. Move on and never look back.

[strateguy632]

Critical for your own mental health to forgive, not hold the grudge nor relive the anger frustration etc.

But don't risk getting burnt again.

[Reoynyj]

Makes sense thanks

[LiamJHayden]

Hard to do so. Also, remember that you can forgive while not letting the person back in.

[Flower7]

Never go back to an ex.