Does he have a problem with me or is he the problem?

[yelir]

My male friend and I had a good relationship until a couple of months ago when he brought up the topic of how there's no unity between women and boys are always so united. I disagreed with him cause I had a different experience with my girlfriends. He was quick to retaliate with, "Oh you have no idea about the world.' I felt like he was offended and didn't want to push it further. I shifted the topic to being scared of horror movies, he said he wasn't and I complimented him for it. He then went on and on about how boys have to be strong-hearted cause their life's tougher than a woman and no matter how much of a feminist I become, this will always be a fact. I didn't even bother to argue on this but he just wouldn't let it go. After that the times I met him these are all that I experienced:

1. Pointing out my lack of experience in things, again.
2. Talking about my lack of skill regarding a language.
3. Mimicing my hand gestures in a mocking way.
4. Trying to scare me as prank and imply that I am a scared little baby. Basically treats me as if I am his junior.
6. If I say something good about myself gives me the glare and questions it.
7. Tried to delete my YouTube app off of my phone because my screen time was 2hr 7m long on a weekend.
8. Would make a big deal if I make a mistake and needs to say it to everyone so they are pissed with me.
9. Would help someone else out with their lack of skill in something but wouldn't help me with the same and lets me be.

The weirdest thing of all is his desperation to prove that he is strong and I am weak. I don't get it, no one ever called him weak (in fact he's adored for being smart and efficient, I am the one who gets perceived as naive and immature) but lately it's like he's obsessed with me and belittling me every step of the way. What's worse is that I am the only one that gets targeted for all the flaws and fears the rest are have their shortcomings without judgement. What could be the reason for this bullying?

He is the problem, he has a massive ego and feels insecure of me.

I am the problem, he feels challenged and hurt by what I said that day and needs to highlight my weaknesses to get his point across.

[Garud]

It seems that he is encroaching too much on your boundaries in his obsession to prove his point.
This means that he himself does not believe in what he says.
So he is a weak man and has some immaturity.
He should remove his shortcomings instead of finding faults in others.
Stop bothering yourself with him and focus on yourself

[yelir]

It's kinda hard to just ignore him and focus on myself cause we've been friends for a while and we study at the same place.

[yelir]

So it's kinda hard to just avoid him altogether.

[Garud]

Yes, it is true and it will take time. But as you grow up, this carefree attitude will develop in you automatically. With time, he will also mature.
Just set your boundaries and mentally maintain distance from people who cross it.
Your ears will slowly start discriminating between genuine criticism and superfluous criticism.
Don't argue too much with people. Just say hmm and keep going.
Otherwise, thinking about such people will tire you mentally

[spartan55]

Who cares what the reason is? Why are you still associating with him?

[yelir]

I have to. I don't want to.

[spartan55]

No you don't

[yelir]

We meet everyday and we had a friendship. I can't just ghost them.

[spartan55]

Well, you will never know why he does it. Even if you did, then what? Knowing why doesn't help you.

[DerekC321]

It's him. Leave.

[Anonymous]

Are you really 23? Sorry, have to ask?

[yelir]

Why is that important may I know?

[Opinion Owner]

Because I don't like dishonest people.

[yelir]

Well yes, I am. And if the length of my post makes you question my age then I have nothing to say. We all have our vent days.

[moneymagnet24]

Sorry I can't read this too long