Is marriage a trap for men?

Question

As men we take all the risks, for a girl who could leave you For the most trivial reason and take advantage of you.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

For me getting married was for the sake of having children. I don't need marriage for commitment. I've never been in a relationship to a man wealthier than myself for him to worry about all that idicracy of being ripped off. I don't believe in shared bank accounts.

If you wanted a woman to have your children (which it sounds like no way you want children) would marriage then be a fair price? Because I think so.

Now I have had my kids and my marriage ended after 12 years I am single and wanting love, commitment and a happy long term relationship. At my age hopefully the last one I will have. I don't need marriage for that.

Is it a trap for men? In general? Presuming the man is a provider (rare these days) then yes I guess so. If he has a lot more than his partner. But that's only if things go bad and she's a bad person and he can hold his hands up and honestly say he was a good and honourable man who treated her right. People should marry for love and family nothing else.

(My sister brought to the marriage wealth and house which she split fairly with her husband during divorce. So he definitely benefited more than her).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Lawful marriage is a trap for men. Unlawful marriage isn't not a trap for anyone. You can have the wedding, wear the rings, say I do, etc etc without signing the papers and becoming lawfully married. You can make your own rules. People laugh at me when I say this stuff but who is stopping you from doing what I just said? It's okay to go against the masses. They historically have horrible results and never live the way they want. Get an unlawfully married if you don't want a lawful one. You get all the emotional perks without all the government crap.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's not necessarily a trap, but it is certainly less beneficial to men today than in the past.

To those parroting the nonsense that men benefit from marriage more than women, I'll tell you why that is false. First, a big part of that claim is that married men live longer than unmarried men. But to make that determination, you have to wait until someone dies before you can know how long they will live. So by definition, the statistics are based almost exclusively on old men who were married decades ago when marriage was much more beneficial to men, AND men who were in lasting marriage, which meant they were healthy marriages.

And that brings me to the second point. Healthy marriages are beneficial to men, but half of marriages end in divorce, and women, not men, file 80% of those divorces. And divorce must be considered in the marriage equation. And here's the key... divorced men are grouped with single men in those studies, which heavily skews the results, especially when you consider how many of those single men had their lives ruined when their wives divorced them.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

When critical thinking guys enter into business contracts, we read the terms, conditions and fine print. But we are too often expedient in relationships and are not patient enough to check all the boxes before we offer a proposal or accept one.

Marriage is a social contract contract (agreement) where things of value are exchanged. It is only a trap when you either didn't agree on the known terms or if implied terms are not kept. It is voidable by the parties for either reason. I know fondness is a factor, but it can be forfeited if the agreement is violated.

Often implied terms are established through longevity of a relationship with time enough to establish them. Then, if one party changes the agreement arbitrarily, the contract is, again, voidable. Unlike business contracts, a marriage contract cannot be enforced by courts and there are often unknowns.

So its partly careful development and partly luck. You have to be prepared to start over and, dependent on your needs, the project may not be worth the stress and expense.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone. Marriage is a trap & the second you said I Do say goodbye to all of your shit down the road.

CuriousMoonFox · Answer

Going through a divorce right now.

I wouldn't use the term trap (although many of us end up being trapped) because it implies a high degree of bad intentions on behalf of the trapper from the very beginning. (Why am I imagining women in animal fur and fluffy hats with tails?) Most of us pursued, proposed and said "yes I do" voluntarily thinking that it will go well with the same optimism some people have when investing in dubious financial instruments.

The term or concept I would rather use is that of a voluntary life sentence in a potentially beautiful five star prison with the option of early release in the shape of exit doors for men and women. The one for the women says "ladies first", the one for the men just has a laughing skull on it.

On a more serious note, marrying only makes sense if you want to raise children together.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Not sure i would call it a trap because you need to agree to get married.

Thst being said, especially in the western countries, there is very little to no benefit to men. It is like when they married and gained a partner where the husband provided the finances and the wives took care of a built a home.

Now men are still expected to provide finances but also not only take care of say home and car maintenance but also half or more of domestic duties.

In my opinion id rather just take care of my own household and spend my resources on me, my home and my hobbies and steer clear of the headaches the majority of relationships bring. My life has 0 drama, very little stress and is very quiet and relaxing when I get home. It's my oasis.

If I want companionship, which is the only thing a modern relationship offers, I gave my friend groups and can just go out on the occasional date.

nevooo · Answer

I wouldn’t say it’s a trap. I would say it’s retarded. You can be single and have sex with whoever you want, whenever you want, no commitment, no real real if you’re safe, safe all your money, and live the best life possible. OR, Be with a woman, who almost 100% would leave you in a heartbeat if better options were available, then probably somehow blame you, OR, Best case scenario, you associate yourself with someone for so long that 2 compatible personality degrade eachother until you’re not longer compatible, you’ll get tired of her pussy, you’ll lose sexual interest in her, you’ll want to escape but it’s too late now. You’re fucked, and if you have kids you might as well just take every penny you have, put it in a trust for them when they’re 18 so that snake can’t access it, and blow your head off.

caitycat21 · Answer

Men on average get the most benefits out of marriage - married men are at a lower risk of heart disease, depression, and have a longer life expectancy than their unmarried counterparts. I have no idea where this rhetoric is coming from men now a days thinking marriage is “just a piece of paper”

It’s just idiotic

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think men need marriage. The only things women have been able to say is men live longer, We have less chances of heart disease, lower depression. Who says the men want to live longer? We probably live longer because we stop doing a lot of the dangerous things we love to do. Why can’t a man get all those same benefits from a long, life term girlfriend. You don’t need marriage. I think marriage is more for the women, not so much the men. Especially these days. Besides everyone that goes wrong w women is always blamed on men. All these women blaming men for Trump winning the election lol

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage is not a trap for men. I have seen so many men's lives become enhanced and improved because the right woman came into his life, supported his career, sacrificed a lot to be with him, and became his biggest cheerleader in life when other people failed him. As much as guys claim to not need emotional support, they mostly get it from their wife or female partner. This is not something he can typically get from his male friends. Women have a special touch to gently guiding and supporting their man ❤

The right woman will be loyal and uplift him when life disappoints him. It's sad that some guys believe women are incapable of faithfulness or loyalty. I believe that comes from previous hurts or failed relationships. But marriage is supposed to bring fulfillment and happiness to a person's life and a sense of partnership. I hope that for everyone who craves it ❤

Nikki1989 · Answer

If you have that level of an immature mindset, you are doomed anyway. Stay out of the dating pool, so the quality people can rise to the top, like they always do anyway. Marriage, like any relationship, requires effort, compromise, and mutual respect from both partners, but some people just don't have what it takes.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know where all this is coming from because where I live, marriage is much more beneficial to men. They’ll get a higher chance of a pay raise or bonus at work (especially if the wife doesn’t work), better deals on housing mortgages/rent, have someone to take care of household chores, better income tax, higher credit, etc. If men are so worried about losing their assets then just sign a prenup…

Finchie40 · Answer

Not at all , marriage is a choice and a commitment to each other , you are choosing that person the same way they should be choosing you , if you don’t trust that person? , than don’t ask them to marry you period. But if you love them and want to spend the rest of your life with them , then ask them to marry you. Marriage is not a trap if you both are on the same page with things

puurikke · Answer

No it is not. But don’t be stupid, it’s a legal contract. Always take a prenup. Every legal contract is about when it goes wrong. You don’t need a contract when everything goes right.
All the talk about ‘there is nothing in it for men’ is bs. You get a life partner and maybe even a family out of it. Thank god we are not living in de 12th century where you would own your wife. If that is your life goal: Afghanistan is very pretty this time a year.

the29thhuman · Answer

That’s why getting to know someone before making such a huge commitment together is a critical part of a relationship. Both sides need to commit to someone who will also commit to the process of getting to know one another. People just have to slow down.

Quigly · Answer

Modern marriage is not in the Bible. Modern marriage is a legal financial Contract and that makes it about money. If it's not about money you wouldn't need the legal contract. Modern Marriage is an abomination. That's why your marriage will fail, it has nothing to do with God.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

No but before you date move all your assets out of your name. Set up an offshore trust or company and make major purchases through that. Don't even think about dating before your assets and investments are protected.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes marriage is a trap because women can take everything you owned goes to her and she can leave you either in the streets or you're back living with mom, dad or family. I heard some many horror stories. There was case about a guy was happily married then one day his now ex wife filed the divorced and she took everything from him the she got remarried to 2

IslaTheWitch · Answer

it can be a trap for anyone; it depends on who they marry...

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it’s a trap. Don’t get married and try getting custody of your child you make together. Then, once she denies paternity, watch her take you to court and demand a paternity test and 8-10 years of back child support payments all while she denied your right to see your child.

sawno · Answer

In the current system yes, if no fault divorce becomes a default loss for whoever leaves its in our interests again. Right now we are taking all the risk for nothing in return.

Garud · Answer

Lawfully yes.  In my country, only men are guilty by default of any problem in marriage in the eyes of courts

Anonymous · Answer

Seriously get some new material. You've been an internet crybaby about this forever. Don't get married. People like you usually have that decision made by everyone else for you anyway. See you in a few days for yet another crying session.

SolitarySolace · Answer

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Peridot25 · Answer

If so, then it’s best to stay away from women completely.
No dating
No sex (that includes hookups)
No relationships
No building families (like having kids)
Just straight up avoid one another and everything will be fine.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

One can be married without being married. The ''trap'' is only made from social constructions/habits, and ''legal'' intervention into an otherwise private arrangement.

Babygirl_S · Answer

What kind of girls? Western girls? Most women I know would do anything to save their marriage. It’s considered as a huge failure and most like to sort out their differences instead of leaving the guy.

shades777 · Answer

You have to be an idiot to get married without a prenup even still you have to be an idiot if you have kids in the usare-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

paledreams · Answer

Yes it is 🤣😀 and most men rarely ever score a hot woman an actual hot woman big tits shapely body beautiful face - rare

DrPepper12 · Answer

Brave anon, it's not a trap but I don't think you will have to worry about it

Unit1 · Answer

That it is.

LiamJHayden · Answer

You do realize that a woman with a higher income and more assets is just as much at risk as a guy?

zagor · Answer

And men never up and leave a girl with a couple rugrats?

Pete671 · Answer

Yes the divorce laws are massively biased in favour of women,,,

Shihab_91 · Answer

In the western world yes, i would never get married if i was living in a western country

Anonymous · Answer

Are u retarded? What risk to lazy ass men have? Getting pregnant? you sound stupid

msc545 · Answer

Of course marraige is a trap for men. You need to be very stupid to not understand this.

headscarfy · Answer

If it is with a loved wife who provides you healthy kids, good sex and loyalty, it is not a trap.

mobiusforniner · Answer

It’s a trap for boys….

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

I'm a trap I look for a ring 💍

Anonymous · Answer

Back for yet another internet cry?

John_Cobretti · Answer

Have a prenup.

Luopio27 · Answer

For millionaires it is!

Adel50 · Answer

The poll says it all.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It can be if it's with the wrong woman

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If you marry a b&%#* it is.

BCRanger10 · Answer

No, it's not.

Dinoparx · Answer

It isn't, if you're with the right woman.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Nope

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