You guys are missing the point of a fucking marriage. If you love the person you marry who gives a fuck about what happens if you split, you shouldn't marry someone and plan to split up. You marry someone when you want to spend the rest of your life with them, not when you THINK you want to spend the rest of your life with them.. smh, talking about risk this and risk that. "The man loses more than the woman when they split up" then dont fucking split up. Its that simple. If you're not willing to work out your issues in a marriage then maybe you aren't the ones that y'all should marry...
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the only time it is potentially not worth it is if the marriage ends in divorce or separation.
there is no negative for either party in a happy marriage. the notion of marriage not being worth it is predicated on the notion that it ends in divorce
If you want to have sex and have children - you should get married. If you don't want to marry you shouldn't be having sex or children. If you want a girl whose not stuck up or materialistic - date one whose not mega hot instead of dating a super hot girl who has dozens of guys lined up and then complaining that girls have bad personalities and aren't worthy marrying.
I think married is worth it especially for men if some gender roles are put in place but unfortunately with modern day feminism men are put off by married as they don't see it as any benefit to them if the women refuses to help take care of them and have a family.
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I know many young men who say NO it is not worth it.
Any marriage can be worth it for anyone. But the issue lies within making sure you make the right chooses when you do tie the knot. It's important to make sure the person your with is truly the person you can see yourself being with and vice versa. Take the time to get to know each other before settling down. Wait a few years. Because to be honest, nothing can really be sure the first handleful of months together. Hormones are up, emotioins are running wild, and people can often be mislead into situation themselves in scenarios with their partner that is to irrational. And be sure to make sure that you are on equal terms physically, emotionally, sexually, and morally. That means in terms of politics, abortion, religion, etc. People are often to scared to talk with their partners about serious issues in fear that a fight will breakout. But seriously, if you can't even communicate openly with your partner, than are they really the right person for you? I dont think so. And be sure that you are fully dedicated to one another. Even in open relationships. If you aren't ready for the commitment of marriage, then don't waste people time. Also, dont settle for people. If you feel like the person your with isn't right for you, then leave. It's not fair for either of you, and you both will only be miserable. And lastly, think safe in marriage. Get a prenup that both of you can agree on. Please don't feel bad about doing it, its not gold digging or anything. It's simply hoping for the best and preparing for the worst. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but you have to be safe, smart, and honest.
modern marriage in western society has very little benefits for men and lots of risk.
traditional marriage is good tough. and if you want to have a family and children, do it the proper way. a child does best and is usually the most stable, mentally emotionally and physically in a family with his/her parents who are also in a loving relationship.
much better than growing up with 1 parent or juggling the kids from mom to dad until they are 18, and then they do wth they want.
if you do want kids, look for a girl that holds the same interest, traditional or religious women usually do best.
i would also tell you to look into your own community even if you have to do some digging, rather than seeking a woman from a traditional country.
this is because most women who follow tradition in traditional countries, don't marry outside their community.
so there is a high chance that you would unknowingly get a woman who isn't as traditional as you think, or even worse, has ulterior motives/bad intensions.
not saying that's always the case, you can get a traditional foreign wife, but its still a bit risky.
anyway good luck man. if this is what you want, dont give it up, and definitely dont settle for less.
best wishesI think it is for men if they marry the right girl. With the divorce rate at 50% and men being treated very badly by the courts when it comes to custody and alimony I can see why. A lot of women when they have deceided to divorce will act in secret by hiring a lawyer and fabricating evidence of cheating, martial rape and domestic abuse. A common tactic is a wife to call the police on her husband that he's beating her and then attack her husband to provoke him, then the cops arrive and arrest him which looks bad in divorce court and while he's in prision she can empty their joint bank account, use his credit cards and empty his accounts. Too many Women are ruthless when it comes to divorce and this puts many men off marraige. There are some great memes about this though lol
I find marriage to not be worth it for anyone involved if it's an unhealthy one.
Why would you marry the person next to you? Because of love and commitment. Sharing. Living life together, because living without is not the wanted option.
Marriage is a choice, and whether or not it lasts is up to the people and the effort they put in.
I think it's worth it for the both of them if they bring equally to the table, if they want to fight for it. Marriage is a beautiful thing, when it's shared in open honest communication and presence. Respect. Attentiveness. Love.Today marriage is an outdated concept. However, marriage was necessary throughout most of human history when most people were farmers and big families were necessary for survival. In those days men were dying in their early 40's and women were dying giving child birth. However, today there's just to many drugs, to much pornography, to many lap dancers, whores and prostitutes to keep most guys faithful. Also, women can cash out of the marriage at any time thanks to our no fault divorce laws.
For those reasons, modern western civilization has become to healthy, to wealthy and to wise to expect a couple to live together for 50 years or more without major problems. Personally, I think that marriage today should be a binding and renewable seven year contract that either the man or the women can refuse to renew after seven years - and without being financially obligated.Do you think you could positively frame your questions in future please? look at that is giving me a headache.
So... if i am understanding this correctly?
Yes.
Your wife will get bored and leave you, they will take your money and your children and this will happen even when you do nothing wrong.
If you want a wife, get one from another country, no way would i recommend a western woman.
There will always be exceptions but the guy asking the question doesn't have enough quarters to reload his life over when it crashes to test the theory.The stuff that weighs heavily against men in marriage is:
1. The initial cost of the wedding.
2. The fact that men almost never win child custody or divorce cases in court.
3. The fact that men could easily become " toothless bulldogs" in the marriage.
4. Presently there is no one who stands up for abused husbands.
5. The possibility of men getting thrown out of the homes the men, rather than the women, brought into the relationship.I’m curious why singling out men? Why not ask the same question for women?
On the other hand, the data shows that an overwhelming imbalance, between men and women exist, about who initiates the probable divorce (it is more probable anyone who gets married tomorrow, will eventually divorce and 4 out of 5 of those divorces will he initiated by women). From purely a statistical standpoint, it seems like, it’s not a good idea. It’s like 10-20% odds of failure.
I think men should really date lots and really wait for awhile, just be with her, as if you are married for awhile so you don’t become a statistic, be smartAs a Man, you have nothing to gain from marriage.
-Marriage is detrimental too men's health
-in case of divorce, you'll owe alimony
-you run the risk of believing that a prenup can protect you on any way while prenups can be thrown away by a judge
-marriage doesn't keep a woman by your side
-marriage doesn't make the children yours. Children, in our day and age, are given to the mother in case of divorceI've personally never been married, so speaking from what I've seen happen to other, the answer is simply no. This is speaking from how I seen devorce go for men. 9/10 courts favor the woman, which ends up with the guy losing custody of their kids, paying child support, having to move out of their homes, being forced to pay alimony, and losing most property that might of been accumulated. People will tell you ' that's part of being a man" well now you know why most men are staying away from the entrapment that is marriage.
I'd say so. The percentage of men who are outright saying no to marriage is increasing rapidly while the amount of women who believe that marriage is important has been increasing aswell.
I assume it's because most men either don't want to get divorce raped or because they've done a risk/reward analysis and have come to the conclusion that they're not gaining that much from it.It seems many men are choosing poorly in partners and end up unhappy so yes if men think they don’t know how to choose a person that’s right for them avoid marriage. Same goes for women. Marriage is serious and shouldn’t be taken lightly by anyone pursuing it.
No not worth it for most men due to various factors, the biggest factor is the messed up sexist court system which punishes men for daring to divorce an abusive wife. In most states there is no upper limit for child support so my CS was 25% of my net income. No upper limit for CS is what ruins many men for life.
Oh well here we go the famous is marriage becoming obsolete already answer this a marriage was established by God it's been in existence for reason if it wasn't in existence you and I wouldn't even be alive today okay it's the foundation of civilizations flourishing and it's the reason why some civilizations have decayed and being destroyed you want to debate that go ahead but you can't give me a single civilizations Made It by turning their back on that marriage and men look at men look at Rome
If it’s worth it, it’ll be for reasons that apply regardless of gender. I have a person I’m in love with and I want to spend the rest of my life with. They felt the same way. We got hitched, we made the official commitment to be in this together so long as we’re both alive. It’s great and we like it that way.
If you don’t feel that way about somene and don’t wanna get married, more power to you.In the past marriage was a much more balanced equation. It benefited men, women and children equally. Today, it benefits men much less. The costs and risks to men have increased while the benefits have steadily decreased. Most guys I know are unwilling to marry for that reason. Until (and if) that changes, men are going to continue avoiding marriage at increasing rates.
Can you explain why you think that? According to most statistics that I've seen married men are happier than single men and often make more money. It's usually married women who are statistically less likely to be happy than single women
Depends on the man. For me, it's utterly and completely worth it as it's an oath under God to cherish and love each other forever.
In fact, excluding my religious beliefs, marriage in itself is my dream. I wish to make a family and raise my children.Marriage isn't really worth it period. I'm not saying people shouldn't get married, but they have to remember it's just a legal contract. For various reasons people do it, but I don't think it should be a requirement.
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