Is marriage not worth it for men?

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Is marriage not worth it for men?

yeeeeeeeet · Accepted Answer

You guys are missing the point of a fucking marriage. If you love the person you marry who gives a fuck about what happens if you split, you shouldn't marry someone and plan to split up. You marry someone when you want to spend the rest of your life with them, not when you THINK you want to spend the rest of your life with them.. smh, talking about risk this and risk that. "The man loses more than the woman when they split up" then dont fucking split up. Its that simple. If you're not willing to work out your issues in a marriage then maybe you aren't the ones that y'all should marry...

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

the only time it is potentially not worth it is if the marriage ends in divorce or separation.

there is no negative for either party in a happy marriage. the notion of marriage not being worth it is predicated on the notion that it ends in divorce

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If you want to have sex and have children - you should get married. If you don't want to marry you shouldn't be having sex or children. If you want a girl whose not stuck up or materialistic - date one whose not mega hot instead of dating a super hot girl who has dozens of guys lined up and then complaining that girls have bad personalities and aren't worthy marrying.

Alice2398 · Accepted Answer

I think married is worth it especially for men if some gender roles are put in place but unfortunately with modern day feminism men are put off by married as they don't see it as any benefit to them if the women refuses to help take care of them and have a family.

coachTanthony · Answer

I know many young men who say NO it is not worth it.

WritingHeart01 · Answer

Any marriage can be worth it for anyone. But the issue lies within making sure you make the right chooses when you do tie the knot. It's important to make sure the person your with is truly the person you can see yourself being with and vice versa. Take the time to get to know each other before settling down. Wait a few years. Because to be honest, nothing can really be sure the first handleful of months together. Hormones are up, emotioins are running wild, and people can often be mislead into situation themselves in scenarios with their partner that is to irrational. And be sure to make sure that you are on equal terms physically, emotionally, sexually, and morally. That means in terms of politics, abortion, religion, etc. People are often to scared to talk with their partners about serious issues in fear that a fight will breakout. But seriously, if you can't even communicate openly with your partner, than are they really the right person for you? I dont think so. And be sure that you are fully dedicated to one another. Even in open relationships. If you aren't ready for the commitment of marriage, then don't waste people time. Also, dont settle for people. If you feel like the person your with isn't right for you, then leave. It's not fair for either of you, and you both will only be miserable. And lastly, think safe in marriage. Get a prenup that both of you can agree on. Please don't feel bad about doing it, its not gold digging or anything. It's simply hoping for the best and preparing for the worst. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but you have to be safe, smart, and honest.

lord_chilled · Answer

modern marriage in western society has very little benefits for men and lots of risk.

traditional marriage is good tough. and if you want to have a family and children, do it the proper way. a child does best and is usually the most stable, mentally emotionally and physically in a family with his/her parents who are also in a loving relationship.

much better than growing up with 1 parent or juggling the kids from mom to dad until they are 18, and then they do wth they want.

if you do want kids, look for a girl that holds the same interest, traditional or religious women usually do best.
i would also tell you to look into your own community even if you have to do some digging, rather than seeking a woman from a traditional country.

this is because most women who follow tradition in traditional countries, don't marry outside their community.
so there is a high chance that you would unknowingly get a woman who isn't as traditional as you think, or even worse, has ulterior motives/bad intensions.
not saying that's always the case, you can get a traditional foreign wife, but its still a bit risky.

anyway good luck man. if this is what you want, dont give it up, and definitely dont settle for less.

best wishes

Catholicgirl22 · Answer

I think it is for men if they marry the right girl. With the divorce rate at 50% and men being treated very badly by the courts when it comes to custody and alimony I can see why. A lot of women when they have deceided to divorce will act in secret by hiring a lawyer and fabricating evidence of cheating, martial rape and domestic abuse. A common tactic is a wife to call the police on her husband that he's beating her and then attack her husband to provoke him, then the cops arrive and arrest him which looks bad in divorce court and while he's in prision she can empty their joint bank account, use his credit cards and empty his accounts. Too many Women are ruthless when it comes to divorce and this puts many men off marraige. There are some great memes about this though lol

SkyeMind · Answer

I find marriage to not be worth it for anyone involved if it's an unhealthy one.

Why would you marry the person next to you? Because of love and commitment. Sharing. Living life together, because living without is not the wanted option.
Marriage is a choice, and whether or not it lasts is up to the people and the effort they put in.

I think it's worth it for the both of them if they bring equally to the table, if they want to fight for it. Marriage is a beautiful thing, when it's shared in open honest communication and presence. Respect. Attentiveness. Love.

castratedwhiteguy · Answer

Today marriage is an outdated concept. However, marriage was necessary throughout most of human history when most people were farmers and big families were necessary for survival. In those days men were dying in their early 40's and women were dying giving child birth. However, today there's just to many drugs, to much pornography, to many lap dancers, whores and prostitutes to keep most guys faithful. Also, women can cash out of the marriage at any time thanks to our no fault divorce laws.

For those reasons, modern western civilization has become to healthy, to wealthy and to wise to expect a couple to live together for 50 years or more without major problems. Personally, I think that marriage today should be a binding and renewable seven year contract that either the man or the women can refuse to renew after seven years - and without being financially obligated.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you think you could positively frame your questions in future please? look at that is giving me a headache.

So... if i am understanding this correctly?

Yes.

Your wife will get bored and leave you, they will take your money and your children and this will happen even when you do nothing wrong.

If you want a wife, get one from another country, no way would i recommend a western woman.

There will always be exceptions but the guy asking the question doesn't have enough quarters to reload his life over when it crashes to test the theory.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

The stuff that weighs heavily against men in marriage is:
1. The initial cost of the wedding.
2. The fact that men almost never win child custody or divorce cases in court.
3. The fact that men could easily become " toothless bulldogs" in the marriage.
4. Presently there is no one who stands up for abused husbands.
5. The possibility of men getting thrown out of the homes the men, rather than the women, brought into the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m curious why singling out men? Why not ask the same question for women?

On the other hand, the data shows that an overwhelming imbalance, between men and women exist, about who initiates the probable divorce (it is more probable anyone who gets married tomorrow, will eventually divorce and 4 out of 5 of those divorces will he initiated by women). From purely a statistical standpoint, it seems like, it’s not a good idea. It’s like 10-20% odds of failure.

I think men should really date lots and really wait for awhile, just be with her, as if you are married for awhile so you don’t become a statistic, be smart

jaidee · Answer

As a Man, you have nothing to gain from marriage.
-Marriage is detrimental too men's health
-in case of divorce, you'll owe alimony
-you run the risk of believing that a prenup can protect you on any way while prenups can be thrown away by a judge
-marriage doesn't keep a woman by your side
-marriage doesn't make the children yours. Children, in our day and age, are given to the mother in case of divorce

mrbackground · Answer

I've personally never been married, so speaking from what I've seen happen to other, the answer is simply no. This is speaking from how I seen devorce go for men. 9/10 courts favor the woman, which ends up with the guy losing custody of their kids, paying child support, having to move out of their homes, being forced to pay alimony, and losing most property that might of been accumulated. People will tell you ' that's part of being a man" well now you know why most men are staying away from the entrapment that is marriage.

KermitDaFuccboii · Answer

I'd say so. The percentage of men who are outright saying no to marriage is increasing rapidly while the amount of women who believe that marriage is important has been increasing aswell.

I assume it's because most men either don't want to get divorce raped or because they've done a risk/reward analysis and have come to the conclusion that they're not gaining that much from it.

TisforTori · Answer

It seems many men are choosing poorly in partners and end up unhappy so yes if men think they don’t know how to choose a person that’s right for them avoid marriage. Same goes for women. Marriage is serious and shouldn’t be taken lightly by anyone pursuing it.

bacca400 · Answer

No not worth it for most men due to various factors, the biggest factor is the messed up sexist court system which punishes men for daring to divorce an abusive wife. In most states there is no upper limit for child support so my CS was 25% of my net income. No upper limit for CS is what ruins many men for life.

Kenney86 · Answer

Oh well here we go the famous is marriage becoming obsolete already answer this a marriage was established by God it's been in existence for reason if it wasn't in existence you and I wouldn't even be alive today okay it's the foundation of civilizations flourishing and it's the reason why some civilizations have decayed and being destroyed you want to debate that go ahead but you can't give me a single civilizations Made It by turning their back on that marriage and men look at men look at Rome

FireWaitingToCatch · Answer

If it’s worth it, it’ll be for reasons that apply regardless of gender. I have a person I’m in love with and I want to spend the rest of my life with. They felt the same way. We got hitched, we made the official commitment to be in this together so long as we’re both alive. It’s great and we like it that way.

If you don’t feel that way about somene and don’t wanna get married, more power to you.

Anonymous · Answer

In the past marriage was a much more balanced equation. It benefited men, women and children equally. Today, it benefits men much less. The costs and risks to men have increased while the benefits have steadily decreased. Most guys I know are unwilling to marry for that reason. Until (and if) that changes, men are going to continue avoiding marriage at increasing rates.

yogagirl777 · Answer

Can you explain why you think that? According to most statistics that I've seen married men are happier than single men and often make more money. It's usually married women who are statistically less likely to be happy than single women

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the man. For me, it's utterly and completely worth it as it's an oath under God to cherish and love each other forever.

In fact, excluding my religious beliefs, marriage in itself is my dream. I wish to make a family and raise my children.

SaintJonesy · Answer

Marriage isn't really worth it period. I'm not saying people shouldn't get married, but they have to remember it's just a legal contract. For various reasons people do it, but I don't think it should be a requirement.

xforgottenx · Answer

I think it may not be worth it to men for like right now but maybe through the years in time they will end up finding it worth it. Cause it can be reslly really fcked up being to old and alone. Maybe even be impossible to be so old and living alone

Guyana90 · Answer

Don't marry Western feminists. Look for Asian or Eastern European women.

Bandit74 · Answer

Depends on if its happy/fulfilling or if you get stuck in a sexless marriage or get fucked over in divorce court.

thenewgirlll · Answer

Marriage is not worth it for everyone, I just hate it, nobody stays together forever and I don't even want kids so. My opinion, my life, don't get offended.

SlowRoast · Answer

Tbh It depends on your partner. If they fight so easily or don't seem committed then it's not worth it. Both men and women, that's a bummer.

jessehenrichs · Answer

Marriage is everything to me it means the world to me. I'm looking for somebody I want to spend the rest of their life with me to build a family and a strong bond that's what I see... I'm looking for somebody that's going to be honest loyal faithful and sincere to me who wants to raise my children with me. The children that we can have together and a long life.

zoe2187 · Answer

Why wouldn’t it be? With a negative attitude marriage isn’t for anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

I think people get caught up in generalizations like "MARRIAGE is worth it" or "MARRIAGE isn't worth it." I don't think those statements have any real meaning. Rather, marriage to a specific person either is or isn't worth it and marriage to a different person may or may not be worth it.

Odysseas · Answer

From a legal/economical perspective no.. it doesn't... Marriage is a too risky business for men in our time.

Juxtapose · Answer

It has virtually no benefit for men while signing them up for divorce rape in the future. HARD PASS.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

You already know how most men feel about marriage and how most of them will say it's not worth it. C'mon now.

Leafpool2 · Answer

It is if you actually like the person you're asking to marry you. So here's some free advice: if you don't like being around your partner. Don't ask them to marry you. It's really that fucking easy

britpop · Answer

Marriage isn't worth it unless it's for religious reasons otherwise it's essentially a business contract that benefits neither men or women when they fall out of love I can see why lots of men feel negatively about it

Anonymous · Answer

The problem is western women especially in America just know when things get rough in the relationship she can simply just divorce and cash out. I don't think it's worth it but if you really want to you got to find some traditional chick who will value the marriage and not just abandon ship if things get rough but do it at your own risk.

PaleniMuna · Answer

I feel that marriage is worth it for anyone, regardless of gender, if you truly love and enjoy spending time with the other person

Bluedream13 · Answer

Well it's a shittier deal than it's ever been that's for sure... I want a girl who I can be with forever but I don't want the government claiming any authority over what that means, I don't want a legal marriage

MrQuick · Answer

It is TOTALLY worth it..., as long as you marry the RIGHT person! That is the hard part. It took two tries for me. Now, I love it. I have everything I wanted to have in my wife.

sassychick10101 · Answer

No it's not. I don't think. What do they get out of it? 1 girl for the rest of their life.. Why do that when they can have unlimited pussay

ScaryCool · Answer

Being brutally honest right now; the people who say marriage isn't worth it, just aren't worthy or marriage.

devilman666 · Answer

I feel like this is a troll trying to harass women.

Mrhumourous · Answer

It worth for men.. it completely changed their life... it makes their life full of responsibility and makes them responsible..

uruds · Answer

It totally is and as a matter of fact it's better than anything. I don't think people give it enough thought and that's why they fail.

Meerjungfraumann · Answer

Yes it is! In my country you save a lot of tax when you are married

Myrdices · Answer

It's a stupid system that imposes way too much restrictions on something that's supposed to be free and uncontained like romance and love it's disgusting honestly

Sleeper_san · Answer

I say it's not. You're making yourself vulnerable to someone who might not truly love you. It's not necessary, but if I felt truly in love again, I'd do it for him/ her.

Fukaroo · Answer

Marriage is outdated in my opinion. Welcome to the 21st century gents.

chc0009 · Answer

Why is it? Women are too damn selfish and entitled these days.

Someguynamedbob · Answer

Nope, men lose in the divorce 90% of the time, never go against a women in court

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not getting married until I’m certain she loves me and is loyal because I am 17 and when I turned 18 I was planning on proposing to my girlfriend who I was dating since I was 15 and she fucked my friend behind my back 😔so fuck marriage

janna_jcb · Answer

Why is it just assumed that it is worth it for women?

HereIbe · Answer

It is very much worth it, if it is a good marriage. Multiple studies show that marriage results in a longer lifespan and better physical and mental health for men, overall.

McKellar · Answer

I think marriage is worth it,... provided if that person thinks you are his/her type. That needs to happen way before marriage & certainly way before the dating phase.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Marriage is worth it, but you better land a good wife or husband if you're a woman, otherwise it can be draining and a living hell being with someone that sucks and gives you headaches.

HikerDude · Answer

ONLY if you're sure, and goddammit, you better be sure.

HornetsFanAllDay · Answer

it's worth it compadre.  least for me it will hopefully be someday

LightSoul2 · Answer

I don't know.. I guess it is.. with the right person

nautius · Answer

Not worth it! The system is rigged to screw guys over in the event of divorce

GringoJoe · Answer

Not for me, personally.. it's just outdated, unnecessary and wasteful IMHO

CoffeeWC · Answer

I think it's a very important decision that many people rush into. If you take it seriously, it's worth it.

vannanas · Answer

marriage isn't worth it for anyone who makes more money than their partner, you'll get fucked in the ends eeither way

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